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So sad, it is up to the shadchan to inform each set of parents what the other expects in a shidduch. The children should not get emotionally involved with each other and then have to break up because of the details. A shadchan has to LISTEN and look for the right type of match to begin with.
I believe that parents of BOYS and I have 3 are responsible for teaching them to make a parnassah. And if they want them or are preparing them to learn all their lives THEY are responsible to help them financially. Parents of girls who are looking for learning boys for their daughters and are looking for that lifestyle for their daughters should also be prepared to help their daughters. So in such a situation where both sets of parents are preparing their children for that lifestyle neither should be relying on the other set of parents but should realize that they each have an obligation to assist their children since this is what they taught and prepared their children to do. When one side or the other is looking for “full” support they are just being rude and obnoxious feeling that their child is more chashuv than the other and they can be sold to the highest bidder. Personally my children are not for sale and they support themselves.
On the other hand, if the children themselves choose this lifestyle, it is up to them to figure out how they will support themselves and the parents should not promise to do what they can’t afford to do.