I think that people have to distinguish between the things that they FEEL are being asked and imposed of them, and the things that really are. If someone tells you how the Rebbitzin behaved and that you should strive for it, they weren’t meaning tomorrow. There are people that we need to look up to and consider leaders, and that doesn’t mean BEING them, in means using them as your guide and compass.
You have to monitor yourself and always be moving forward. There are plenty of people out there who are willing to accept people doing different things then them, if they themselves are respected for their levels as well. For example, if you are going to listen to 50 cents, please don’t do it while I am in the car with you. And don’t tell my kids that it’s really too bad they aren’t allowed to listen to it because they are missing out. See what I mean? It isn’t what you are DOING, it is what you are striving to be and how you present yourself.
And every day is a new day.