Oomis asks whether people who listen to rap are not part of frum society because frum society rejects rap music. “
I appreciate your intention, but I NEVER specified rap music (I personally happen to dislike hearing it, because it annoys me and is often degrading to women). In fact, I singled out CLASSICAL music (i.e., Mozart, Beethoven, etc), as being something that some segments of frum Jews reject because it is secular music (which they rejct across the board), yet many frum people enjoy. IMO, there is no moral equivalence between listening to beautiful secular music and speaking loshon hara. I want to make that very clear. The Torah flat-out assers L”H. I never heard a p’sak of issur on hearing “The Moonlight Sonata.”
I also have a little issue with your statement about a BT not marrying an FFB because that person and the family will not be likely to understand the need for the OP to listen to rap music. I am an FFB and married a BT. And while he didn’t ever listen to rap music, there were other things in his life that some people would find hard to deal with (such as having several close family members who married non-Jews, unfortunately). Neither my parents nor I ever thought less of HIM for continuing to have a relationship with those close family members. You cannot know how FFBs OR their families will react in a given situation. I would hope they would want to be mechazeik and mekareiv the BT who enters their chevra. No one can speak for every FFB. We come in all sizes, shapes, and hashkafos.
Otherwise, I agree with much of the rest of the things you posted, TrueBT.