If a guy is militantly anti white, he’s not wearing it for self expression. He’s wearing for rebellion and that would bother me. By the time someone feels ready for marriage, they should be confident in themself that their clothes choice is actually a matter of self expression and not a rebellion against societal opinion.
It’s generally not the same girls wearing the four inch heels and the UGGS.
About the asking for beauty references: A girl who knows she is beautiful will be turned off. A girl who is beautiful but is unsure about her beauty will appreciate it. To a girl who knows she is not attractive, it’s a stab in the heart.