ROB, I do not throw around the term apikorsus lightly. I used it precisely as the gemara does.
What you wrote, although I disagree with it as well, had nothing to do with my response to rd’s apikorsusdik comment. You created a straw man.
And your bringing up the kesubah again is absolutely nonsensical. The kesuba is a financial document, and if she is mocheles on his financial obligations, it’s a non issue.