Redleg, I respectfully disagree. No matter how experienced the shadchan is, she is not EVER going to know more than the girl (who, by the way, could easily be older than twenty, or could be a very mature twenty-year-old) about what she in particular needs in a spouse. The most important thing for girls in the parsha is to know who they are and what they want, and not to settle for something they don’t want just because all their friends are getting engaged. Shadchanim can be really hurtful and really pushy. Shidduchim is such an emotional roller coaster and it feels so unfair when everyone is trying to take control of the most important decision you will ever make.
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