Reply To: Don't try to convince me of what I want!

Keepitcomming, you correctly differentiate between “wants” and “needs”. That’s Management 101. But you left out one very important, if not the most important, “need”. Chemistry. You’re not hiring an employee, you’re looking for your helpmeet, your ezer kenegdo, your life companion, the father of your children. “Emotionally healthy, good midos”, etc. are important but don’t leave out mutual attraction. Most married folks have occasions when they disappoint their spouse. Look at me. I’m no prize. I’m not always what my wife wishes I were (although I make an effort) and, truth be told, my wife has been known, on rare occasions, to disappoint me, but we’ve been married for 43 years and have, thank G-d, beautiful frum children and grandchildren and I couldn’t imagine not being married to her nor she to me. Whatever your “wants” and “needs” are, if you can find a shidduch like I did, you’ll be doing fine.