OURTorah: Feif Un is not coming back. He even asked the mods to block his account so even if he was tempted, he wouldn’t be able to return (I’ll have to ask him if it was done yet).
As for your point, I think you’re completely off here. True, we need more love among Jews. That’s one of the few things we can actually learn from Avi Weiss – how to love every Jew! But here in the CR, there is too much hatred. Hanging out here obviously led Feif Un to lower his opinion of other Jews instead of raising it. He’s better off gone if that’s the case.
I, too, am guilty of this. When I read posts from chareidim bashing Modern Orthodoxy, it makes me think less of the chareidim. It’s something I need to work on.
For Feif Un, it’s even more difficult. He went through some very rough times with yeshivish people, which he’s written about here. He told me a while ago I can write about it, so don’t think I’m writing about someone else without their knowledge. When people here post disgusting things, it just brings it all back for him. He once told me that there are times he regrets becoming frum again, just because he hears from so many people how being Modern Orthodox is against halachah, how being a Zionist is apikorsis, etc. He said, “If I’m doing wrong anyway, if I’m an apikores anyway, why should I bother trying? Let me go eat bacon, not keep Shabbos, etc. Let me enjoy myself while being an apikores!”
It says that baalei teshuva get a special place where the biggest tzaddikim can’t get to. When someone demeans a baal teshuva and causes him to regret his path, I wonder what the punishment is? Is there a special place for that person as well, where the worst reshaim can’t get to? I don’t envy those people.
DaasYochid, I told him you said you like him, and he said if you want to keep in touch, you have his email address. He said anyone who knows his email address is welcome to email him. If he doesn’t like you or what you have to say, he’ll just add you to his junk list 🙂
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