One crucial aspect of all this that I can’t believe is being forgotten or ignored, is that every person has a Zivug and a set time for when they will marry.
I’ve heard that said before, but I don’t think it’s true. Do you have a source?
The commonly quoted source is the Gemara in Sotah, but it doesn’t actually say there’s a bas kol for everyone. In fact, it can’t mean everyone; we see, l”a, children who pass on too young to have gotten married, and people with various conditions which would make it impossible to ever get married. Obviously, there was no bas kol for them.