‘Itching to be out of the yam shel torah, wanting that moment harder than kriyas yam suf to happen so that ‘
Hmm, pretty nasty generalization for a girl who wants to find a true Ben Torah. Well I have news for you my dear. The type of boy you want is looking for a ‘yam shel kesef’if not aprominent yichus. If you got more to offer than just the will to support a husband who will learn, then you have a good chance. Otherwise, you’d just have to luck out.
For now I suggest that you judge every boy lecaff zechus, whether he wants to study or not. Please dont assume just because he’s out for a career , he’s superficial.
Good luck to you