20 Years Old. Is That Old??

Home Forums Shidduchim 20 Years Old. Is That Old??

Viewing 19 posts - 1 through 19 (of 19 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • #590573

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    Todays day in age if your not engaged by the 20 your called “oldish”… is this normal? taking away our youth! Being one, who is over 20 I feel like people are having pity on me when I, myself don’t even feel desperate.. I feel hashem has his plans and has s/o put away for me. Why go around worried? What do you say?

    All The Best!

    #662081

    Joseph
    Participant

    The original definition of the “Shidduch Crisis” was the fact that people were getting married later (i.e. older).

    I’m just pointing out how definitions change.

    #662082

    mepal
    Member

    I think it depends on your specific sect. Cuz in our circles, for a boy you dont worry until he’s 27, and a girl until she’s 23. You can ‘convert’, if that’ll make you feel more comfortable.

    #662083

    Joseph
    Participant

    In other circles, the boys and girls start fretting at 16.

    #662084

    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Only you can decide when it’s right for you to get married. By all means, listen to the advice of your parents, rabbeim, etc. But in the end, only *you* can make that decision — and you have do it when it’s right for you — not when it’s right for anyone else.

    The Wolf

    #662085

    Gezuntheit
    Member

    Don’t worry what others think! You know (correctly) that 20 is by any means NOT OLD! there’s no need to feel extra pressure!

    #662086

    bein_hasdorim
    Participant

    APushetaYid: Heh! Heh! 20 is “Ah Yungeh Boychikel.” Very Yungeh Boychikel.

    Afileh Far Chasidim! Are you kidding me?

    what I wouldn’t do to be 20 again!… Learning In Yershalayim, Ah!…

    What a Geshmak!

    #662087

    mybat
    Member

    I guess its a sad reality that people make you feel old when your not , but it depends a lot on your circles.

    #662088

    squeak
    Participant
    #662089

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    thanks! now I feel YOUNG!

    #662090

    mazca
    Member

    Well I felt old from the moment I was born, What do you say to that? I have a cousin with my name younger than me and somehow the used to called me


    the big one. Imagine? Then when I was forty and got sick I thought well Why not? I am old already, and now I see how silly I was, I never lie about my age and feel happy about myself now. If twenty is old then are we all there: Besides it is not the age that makes a good marriage it is the person You are getting marry to. My advise do not get marry because you feel old.

    #662091

    starwolf
    Member

    20 is old?

    I dont think so…..My malt whisky is older than 20 years.

    #662092

    mazca
    Member

    lol

    #662093

    SJSinNYC
    Member

    Age is so relative.

    My obstetrician asked me which of her partners I had seen. I couldn’t remember the doctors name so I started describing her and included young in the description. She laughed and said “Are any of us young? We are all over 40!” I explained that I thought she was in her mid to late 30s but that early 40s for a doctor is still kind of young. I mean, you need a bachelors, medical school, residency/internship…and then some experience.

    #662094

    striving
    Member

    haha pretty scary thread to read considering that i, too just turned twenty this week!!!!!!!!!!! lol

    #662096

    Jax
    Member

    NO, the end of my drasha!

    #662097

    Joseph
    Participant

    Jax – Are you over the hill too?

    #662098

    mepal
    Member

    Yeah, he’s over 16. Unless he converts 😉

    #662099

    Jax
    Member

    Joseph: no way as old as you! 😉

Viewing 19 posts - 1 through 19 (of 19 total)
  • You must be logged in to reply to this topic.


Trending