a point to ponder about the "shidduch crisis"

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    1a2b3c
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    The Shidduch Crisis, it is claimed, affects girls more than boys – i.e. there are many more frum unmarried girls than there are frum unmarried boys (let’s say <i>x</i> girls). I have no idea whether this is true. But if it is, then (barring the remote possibility of a higher intermarriage rate among frum boys) there can be ONLY ONE EXPLANATION: that there are MORE frum girls than boys – to be more precise, <i>x</i> more frum girls than frum boys. That’s right. Only one explanation.

    This means that all the ideas being put forward, such as limiting the age-gap etc., will never completely solve the problem, even if they increase the number of marriages. They are still very good ideas – more boys and girls (an equal number of each) will be married as a result BH – but there will always be <i>x</i> more unmarried girls than unmarried boys. It’s simple maths.

    For example (using simple small figures), imagine that before the Rechnitz theories are tested there are 100 Chassunahs every year, leaving over 40 unmarried girls and 20 unmarried boys. [This means that for every 70 boys (50 married, 20 unmarried) there are 90 girls (50 married, 40 unmarried).] There are 20 more unmarried girls than unmarried boys.

    Now R’ Rechnitz waves his wand, and manages to convince the remaining 20 Bochurim to ALL get married. Now there are 120 Chassunahs, leaving over 20 unmarried girls, and 0 unmarried boys! As you can see, there are still 20 more unmarried girls than unmarried boys! To reduce this figure (without allowing bigamy) is simply impossible, and anybody who says otherwise is… wrong.

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    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    The Shidduch Crisis, it is claimed, affects girls more than boys – i.e. there are many more frum unmarried girls than there are frum unmarried boys

    Therein lies your mistake, right in the first sentence. There aren’t more frum unmarried girls than frum unmarried boys. This is not what R’ Rechnitz et al are claiming.

    We are claiming that there are more frum unmarried girls

    looking to get married than frum unmarried boys looking to get married.

    What R’ Rechnitz is trying to do (among other things) is try to even the number of frum unmarried boys looking to get married with the number of frum unmarried girls looking to get married. In your example, instead of 20 frum unmarried boys looking to get married and 40 frum unmarried girls looking to get married left over after 100 chasunos, there would be 20 of each (or 40 of each if you wish) so that they can marry each other in the coming years.

    #1033423

    Joseph
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    <sigh> Again, arguments over the mathematics of the age gap.

    #1033424

    There are thousands of more children born this year in frum havens like Lakewood and Brooklyn than the year before. And as always, the gender percentage is relatively equal. Arguing over the age gap is to me a puzzling proposition.

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