October 23, 2011 6:51 am at 6:51 am #600094MindOverChatterParticipant
It seems like Hashem’s been going out of His way to make shidduchim.
When the boys are little, they don’t look at the girls. “Pink?! Ugh, that’s so GIRLY!”, they say.
Little girls don’t enjoy the boys either. They love playing with their dolls, play “school” etc. “Boys are so insensitive and wild!”
And suddenly…BOOM! They turn 18, 19, 20…and, “Please, Hashem. I want to find my bashert SOON!”
But that’s only the beginning. Girls and women alike have this craving to dress provacative way.
And the men? They crave to look at them!
It sure looks like Hashem’s working hard to pair up the man and the woman. What for? Why do MEN have to marry WOMEN? They’re complete opposites!
Any ideas?October 23, 2011 9:49 am at 9:49 am #819839ToiParticipant
youre right. go marry a carrot.October 23, 2011 10:22 am at 10:22 am #819840sea.shellsMember
there’s an old saaying that goes “opposites attract” it simply was meant to refer to personality,
However it really goes deeper than that!October 23, 2011 11:15 am at 11:15 am #819841bezalelParticipant
Do you live in New York State?October 23, 2011 12:05 pm at 12:05 pm #819842ZeesKiteParticipant
I once wrote about that – it’s to fulfill the Master Designer’s wish (and first command).October 23, 2011 12:42 pm at 12:42 pm #819843October 23, 2011 3:26 pm at 3:26 pm #819844mos yumosMember
Man and woman are two halves of a neshamah. The gemara therefore states that a man without a woman is but half a man (ie human).October 23, 2011 5:49 pm at 5:49 pm #819845Queen BeeMemberOctober 23, 2011 9:51 pm at 9:51 pm #819846MiddlePathParticipant
Perhaps G-d is showing us how much potential we have to grow in acceptance, understanding, and respecting others. If G-d simply asked us to marry an individual or certain type of specie that very closely resembles us in terms of our values, needs, desires, etc., marriage wouldn’t be a growing experience. It wouldn’t help us reach our potential to be sensitive, perceptive, and try to understand others, and because of that, there would be no purpose (aside, perhaps, from having children). Marriage between man and woman, because they are so different, gives a couple the chance to grow and reach their potential in understanding each other, accepting each other, respecting each other, and loving each other. Perhaps BECAUSE of this “opposing” relationship, G-d is showing us and giving us the opportunity to get the most out of marriage.October 23, 2011 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm #819847JotharMember
“Ki hu amar vayehi”. The gemara says, chemes malei tzoah, upiha meliah dam, vehakol ratzin achareyha. It is a gezeiras hamelech.October 24, 2011 1:41 am at 1:41 am #819848bein_hasdorimParticipant
Jo; vehakol ratzin achareyha, kinda impressive, isn’t it?
thank goodness they generally look nice.
Imagine if they didn’t, gezeiras hamelech wud still prevail.
B”H Broiv Rachamov Oleinu.
Cud u imagine being obsessed with playing in the mud as an adult,
then to exit covered in mud wondering why did I just do that?October 24, 2011 1:45 am at 1:45 am #819849koillel101Member
The girls who “crave” to dress provocatively should please try to control themselves. It makes our lives much harder.October 24, 2011 1:49 am at 1:49 am #819850kapustaParticipant
MP: I think I remember hearing that was a reason that the world was created with a family structure.October 24, 2011 4:28 am at 4:28 am #819851MiddlePathParticipant
Wow, kapusta, I was not aware of that! Do you remember where you heard it from?October 24, 2011 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm #819852
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