August 25, 2011 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm #804112
wen ur friends r getting married 22 can feel like forever!!!!!!!August 25, 2011 4:16 pm at 4:16 pm #804113
yea i agree 22 is NOT OLD and if ur stupid and started dating at 19 then yes u will feel burnt out but I love the age 22!!August 25, 2011 5:02 pm at 5:02 pm #804114cshapiroMember
we both had our struggles with dating….i dated only a few guys but some of them were long term, which is quite stressful. he dated many girls but many were only one time dates.
by saying its worth the wait i meant that it was worth going thru that dating experience learning and growing and getting to know myself and what i wanted and becoming a better person in turn. if i would have married the first or second guy idk where i would be?? prob wouldnt have graduated college, prob wouldnt have gotten as far in my career as i have or even taken the cpa exam….my point is that its normal to be nervous when dating but dont get discouraged or hung up if a date doesnt go well or doesnt live up to ur expectations….not everyone marries the first guy (im not saying to play the field but sometimes its not a bad thing to see what else is out there….).
u just gotta give it ur all and hashem will take care of the rest!!!
hatzlacha 🙂August 25, 2011 7:51 pm at 7:51 pm #804115
Its easy to say that 22 is not old when you are married (or engaged) and out of the picture. but I know that its really tough when your friends are all getting married and you cannot be there with them in that stage,August 25, 2011 7:56 pm at 7:56 pm #804116
im hoping there were other reasons besides career that showed u that it wasnt bashert that u didn’t marry the first few guysAugust 25, 2011 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm #804117
2cute- what happened with you?August 25, 2011 8:01 pm at 8:01 pm #804118collegegradMember
ootinny – its actually a huge bracha to marry one of your first few guys. There is no comparing to past dates makes life so much easier. Also while yes IY”H I’ll get married soon and have a degree and a savings account which is more than a girl 19 20 21 can say and I went on trips with friends and had some good times but all that being said I think girls that get married young and don’t have to go through years of dating have a lot to be thankful for.August 25, 2011 8:08 pm at 8:08 pm #804119
i dnt know abt that collegegrad. wen ur single, ur able to work on urself hashkaficaly, asses urself, and grow a lot more as a person more than u wud if u were married. for me, i was even able to go to israel and do seminary again and it was the best expereince ever and i gained so much from it. so yes, i may have a savings account too, but i’m also happy bec i’ve learnt and grown so much hashkafically, have made so many new amazing friends, and learnt alot about myself. heck i was immature with the first few guys i shouldn’t have even been dating. but i agree it is a bracha to amrry first few guys, but if i t doesn’t happen there’s obviosuly a reasonAugust 25, 2011 8:43 pm at 8:43 pm #804120collegegradMember
ootinny I agree with you 100 percent. I have gained a lot these single years – though I do daven they end soon. I am obviously a lot more ready and mature than when I was 19. If I was meant to be single there is obviously a reason but if a 19 yr old feels read to start dating by all means start and its a huge bracha for shidduchim to just be quick and easy.August 25, 2011 11:13 pm at 11:13 pm #804121therealmgamaMember
“wen ur single, ur able to work on urself hashkaficaly, asses urself, and grow a lot more as a person more than u wud if u were married.”
I don’t think this is hashkafically correct. Isn’t it a known thing that you need your “better half” in order to fulfill your tafkid/ reach shleimus?August 26, 2011 2:44 am at 2:44 am #804122
i dont know i still think if a 19 yr old feels redy, she just stick it out till 20 to help solve the shidduch crisis. and maybe get some career path under her beltSeptember 1, 2011 12:50 am at 12:50 am #804123mr. awsumMember
2CUTE4U- sooo how’d the date go???
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