There is an amazing song on Youtube called Al Zeh haya by Yosef Shick in honor of two bochurim who passed away in Waterbury. My kallah and I feel it works well with Mi Bon siach for our wedding. What do you think?
you are getting married; we break a glass under the chuppah, but we don’t turn the whole thing into mourning
But even the tune is beautiful-changes a sad song into a beautiful joyous song.
I have heard people use simcha leiner’s Kol Berama to walk down to and thats a sad song.
For once I agree with popa- the tune that’s taken from such a heartbreaking (yet hauntingly beautiful) song will mar the simcha of your chasunah.
There’s a big difference between a sad, depressing tune and a deep, reflective, introspective one.
You don’t want to begin your life together on a note of melancholy.
May you share only Simchos with us.
Popa, you mean we don’t want to take away the one part of the chuppah that doesn’t shtim with aveilus. And I don’t agree that this would, because true aveilus would be have no music (unless you are MO) at all, not even mournful tunes. So I say go for it.
IMHO, it sounds too sad and will put people in the wrong mood.
Supposedly I heard this tune can be used for Menucha V’Simcha. So this tune can be used for both sad and happy times.