When you get an aliya and are Oleh L’Torah the gabbai asks for which names to include in the misheberach. If you’re a guest you give the host. But many shuls allow you to give a longer list of names. Who does one typically include? (Is it only males?) His parents? Children? Neighbors? Friends? The Rov?
And many people say “matana” for the misheberach. What does matana obligate the oleh to give? And under what circumstances would one specify a specific amount (i.e. chai) and what are typical dollar amounts?
Also, when is it proper to purchase an aliya for oneself when they are being sold on Yom Tov? Should everyone strive to get as many aliyas as possible during as many weeks as possible, since it is giving kovod to the Torah? Is there a legitimate reason that the gabbaim usually give the rich/machers aliyas more often than to others (when they are not being sold)?
Yes to all your questions.
I like the way one shul I know does the mi sheberach for cholim the gabbai first tells everyone that he will say it and whoever has a name should say it with him. Don’t know how it works but it saves time
To be or not to be, in Austin,Tx one person gives an aliyah to ever man in the shul.
TBONTB: Does he recite the names of the men and women separately?
don’t know he says it low like “hu yerape es hacholim”… and as he whispers all the names (so as not to embarrass people I guess) everyone else murmurs the names they have along with him then after 30 seconds or a minute he continues
Lior, do not bash me.
How did he bash you? he was responding to me !! for gods sake read before you just shoot off a response just to say something!!
To be or not to be, he just did.
Is Chai Dollars the standard expected matana for an aliya these days?
Lior, Do not bash me.
In my shul it is. although people have been known (gasp!) to give more
If the gabbai calls out “matana” by your misheberach, are you obligated to give something or can it mean that there will possibly be no donation?
The Shabbat/Chag minyan that I regularly attend does not do the mi shabayrach with names except on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. I think people would go nuts if the gabbi started adding extras into the davening.
“Rules” implies halacha. This is a matter of “social rules”, i.e., etiquette.
A matanah to tsadakah means very little since one can stick a few coins in a pushka.