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Different cultures have different rules as to what is polite when looking at other people. Some cultures look, others don’t. Some cultures count it a challenge when you look for more than a second. If you live in NYC you will encounter all kinds.

So – better not to look, but don’t stare at the ground either. Just keep your eyes ahead where you’re walking (good for not falling in holes, too 🙂 and relax. Shrug your shoulders and tell your friend, “So what? Why should I care?”

yoyo-this is like the fourth thread you’ve started about this. You should really find someone in real life whom you can pour your heart out to-it would be really helpful (I know from experience). Anyhow, I don’t think the situation is as bad as you make it seem…I think you’re focusing on yourself a little too much. However, you should know that as a teenage female you will get plenty of looks when you go in public. No one is stalking you-its just in a guy’s nature. Once you pass each other, he’ll never think about you again.

Yo-yo Get a big flash card that says “WHATCHA LOOKING AT???” Let us know how that works out for you.

coffee- I have done that a couple of times when ppl look at us frum girls…. I think you should really get someone to talk to there seems to be a lot more than just this issue. Do they only stare at you in the grocery store or where ever you are?!?!!?

coffee- i understood your post… sorry for the confusion.

I know that you dont live in NY- dont you remember that I know who you are? do u live in Florida?

Wow thats a lot of useless advice, I say just dont leave your house and make sure the curtains are drawn!!!!. I dont really understand whos looking at you?. If its a bper whos checking out your tznuis, I would just give a dirty look and walk away. If its anyone else I would just ignore and walk away or pont in the opposite direction and yell hey look its bradley cooper…then run fast.

the person who is with you points out that someone is staring at you? so its not just your imagination? do you look different so that would cause people to stare? are you especially good looking or dress in an eyecatching way? ask your friends and family if there is some reason why people would stare. i know a girl who was always being stared at becuz she was very beautiful. it finally stopped when she got to be around 50 and is now merely good looking. but people still sometimes stare especially on the bus when there’s nothing much else to look at. take it as a compliment unless your doing something to attract the wrong kind of attention. this is definitelty something to discuss with an adult you trust.

BTW, how do people notice when they are being stared at? Rarely will someone stare at someone else when that person is looking.

How can you “feel” a stare?

How can you “feel” a stare?

How do you “feel” kedushah? (Or, the lack of it when I’m around)

The Wolf

Yoyo- Let’s try another angle- are you doing something to attract attention to yourself? Do you play with your yoyo while you are walking? Do you use an umbrella on a sunny day or prance around in short sleeves in a downpour? Think(forgive me if I’m asking too much )Once we get to the source of the problem, we, the shrinks of the cr can guide you on how to proceed. We stand behind you in your difficult hour.

Jewish culture is not to look at an opposite gender… My friend just waved at him… You are opening too many threads about the opposite gender…

I found these to be most unexpected replies to the OP. Hmmm… I seem to have missed something so I had better read it again. No, I didnt miss anything. So let me ask, where in the OP do you see that yoyo is talking about the opposite gender? She didnt. She wrote

I tend to feel that people are staring at me… I have people who stare…

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This is the point. If we’re talking about the same gender then BSD is correct; do you do unusual things cos why else would they be looking at you. But if you were indeed talking about the opposite gender then you must find out what it is that attracts them to you more than to other people. Is it possibly eye catching clothing, or your make up, or your behaviour or anything else that could be modified? You need to think deeply about that. If its none of the above and you’re just naturally pretty and you wear modest clothes and have modest behaviour then take it as an unwelcome compliment. You’ll have to live with that until you find yourself a choson.

canine, yes in most cases at around 50 plus you are just not as good looking as you once were. goyim call it gravity . the face loses its tone and starts to sag, lines and wrinkle pop up. etc. i’m not talking about people who use artificial means to enhance their looks. of course there are exceptions to every rule. yoyo, you didn’t respond to my post. if there is some reason for you to be stared at you can work on mitigating it. more modest dress or behavior. if not, find a professional who can help you deal with it.

Shitcky you missed a very important line that Yoyo wrote-

its everywhere i go an dthe person tells me after the person passes

either i feel it or i see them look or point even and i look away and then check again with eitehr the corner of my eye ior look again quickly i def dont stare and i would wave if its the same gender buts its not so….

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