March 13, 2011 5:05 pm at 5:05 pm #595670
Feeling rather anxious for no apparent reason. It’s not such a good feeling. What do YOU do when you’re feeling anxious in order to calm yourself down?March 13, 2011 5:25 pm at 5:25 pm #883889hanibParticipant
read a book, listen to a tape, go on the cr, eat chocolate…
actually, i’m trying to stop eating sugar, especially chocolate for now (so far – 2 weeks, not counting little one on shabbos – l’chavod shabbos 🙂March 13, 2011 5:29 pm at 5:29 pm #883890smartcookieMember
What exactly do you mean by anxious? Can you give an example?March 13, 2011 5:32 pm at 5:32 pm #883891
These are six steps by Lucinda Basset to end Panick attacks and/or anxiety:
1-It’s ok to be anxious. I’m ok.
2-Body symptoms are uncomfortable, but there’s no danger.
3-I have tools to control panick.
4-I can handle sad feelings.
5-I am my safe place. I’m home.
6-It’s ok to relax now.
I think you should just let it wash over you. These feelings pass (yeah, I know….). Think about empowering and encouraging stuff. And in case it makes you feel any better, I had you in mind while I davened Shacharis. Hatzlacha! Let us know if you feel any better!!March 13, 2011 5:44 pm at 5:44 pm #883892
I’m trying to distract binahyeseira, not working though:(
smartcookie- my heart feels funny and I keep pacing. If I bit my nails, that’s what I’d be doing now too. I really do know why I’m anxious but there is nothing for me to do about it. It’s a situation that can’t be helped.March 13, 2011 5:56 pm at 5:56 pm #883894smartcookieMember
Happiest- does it happen out of the blue, or only specific times when it is triggered by something?
(I don’t mean to be nosy, I’m just trying to become familiar with the condition.)March 13, 2011 5:56 pm at 5:56 pm #883895aries2756Participant
the first thoughts when you have a panic attack is usually “i can’t breathe” so getting into a good breathing pattern and concentrating on your breathing is a good way to STOP the panic attack in its tracks. It is also a good idea to take a walk around the block and get some fresh air. Walk into another room and speak to someone so your not alone and you get your mind off whatever was triggering you.March 13, 2011 5:59 pm at 5:59 pm #883896
Thanks observanteen!!! I actually did DBT so I know what to do when feeling anxious, I just don’t feel like it’s working this time. I know that e/t is ok and will be ok so I’m trying to use that to calm me down- like u said.
Thanks!!March 13, 2011 6:51 pm at 6:51 pm #883897
Ooops. I misspelled panic… Guess the human spellchecker isn’t around:)
Happiest: I also sometimes find that it doesn’t work. Just take it calmly. Don’t get too excited, or think it will persist (the worst part of a panic attack is that u think it’ll last forever). You’ll get over it!! As I said before, only allow positive thoughts to come in. Think of how far you’ve come, what a wonderful person you are(which is the truth!), etc. Also, try doing something to lift your spirits. I find it hard to stay closeted in the house. I usually go out shopping or bake. I daven for you that you totally come out of the depression. Good luck!!!March 13, 2011 6:53 pm at 6:53 pm #883898always hereParticipant
take a warm bath or a refreshing shower…
look out the window, watching trees in the breeze, cloud formations, <finding the beauty in even the smallest things in Hashem’s world!>, general distractions in the street.(if you can’t get out for a walk).
personally, if feeling anxiety, I’d take a xanax.. but that’s me.March 13, 2011 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm #883899eclipseMember
Chava gave us the gift of hormones….March 13, 2011 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #883900
Feeling much better- it passed b”H.
Smartcookie- sometimes it happens out of the blue but usually (for me atleast) there is a trigger. I actually completely forgot about the anxiety, got busy with something else, and voila I’m ok now:)
Thanks everyone for your support!!
Eclipse- I smiled when I read that, how true it is.March 13, 2011 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #883901
B”H, happiest! I’m so glad! Good to hear! Thanks for letting us know – I couldn’t stop thinking abt you…March 13, 2011 10:52 pm at 10:52 pm #883902
BTW, happiest, I never actually told you but I must say I really admire you. Most ppl in your condition (Borderline), refuse to go for help. I’m familiar with the DBT method – it’s amazing! (B”H, I don’t suffer from BPD, but I have a pretty close family member who does and abuses her kids). It’s also amazing that you’re solving the problem before getting married. There are so many ppl out there who get married first and then torture their spouse and kids r”l. I think you’re an amazing person with excellent character. There’s so much I can learn from you – just by reading your posts here. Keep going!! Hatzlacha!!March 13, 2011 11:36 pm at 11:36 pm #883903
Wow, observanteen. I’m speechless!!! You’re right about most people in my position, I think I’m one of the “higher” more functioning ones.
Thanks for giving me such chizuk right now!!! Not many people see it the way that you see it. I’m assuming (but I could be wrong) that I’m looked down upon. I don’t tell people that I have it for fear of what they’re going to think. It’s unfortunate. But thanks again!!!March 13, 2011 11:54 pm at 11:54 pm #883904
“I’m assuming (but I could be wrong) that I’m looked down upon.”
Happiest: I have a friend who’s sister is mentally retarted lo aleinu. There was one girl who always made fun of her. My friend told her, “I know you have a sibling who’s like my sister.” That girl was like, “Whaaa?! How do you know?? I never told a soul!” So my friend explained to her that she was too quick to make fun of her. “I just KNEW you had the same thing. Otherwise you wouldn’t be doing what you did.” I really think that mental illness is unfortunately very common among the heimish ppl. I’m afraid ppl make fun of others to protect their weak points.
In any case, I certainly do think you are one of the “higher functioning”, but I’d rather call you somebody who’s working real hard on her middos. Which is truly unbelievable! I’m working so hard on mine, and it really gives me chizuk to see how much you can shteig by “looking” at you. Keep it up!!March 14, 2011 12:58 am at 12:58 am #883905
“…I’m afraid ppl make fun of others to protect their weak points”- I agree wholeheartedly!!
Thanks! I am trying really hard. And I feel like a totally different person, a person that I like and enjoy.
Thank you so much for saying such nice things!!
In hs when I was suffering so much and only in therapy, not on meds or a/t, I would sing to myself ani maamin and I’d get sooo much chizuk from those words. I iy”H plan on walking down to those words at my wedding (iy”H).March 14, 2011 1:14 am at 1:14 am #883906
“I iy”H plan on walking down to those words at my wedding (iy”H).”
Why, I love the idea!March 14, 2011 5:50 pm at 5:50 pm #883907a maminParticipant
Cum Laude: Where are you?? They need you on this thread!!March 15, 2011 12:59 am at 12:59 am #883908
Feeling weird. Not anxious but not totally settled. It’s a weird feeling and I’m not sure I’m liking it. I feel so strange. AhhhhhMarch 15, 2011 1:07 am at 1:07 am #883909
happiest: Gam zeh yaavor. This too will pass. Be mispallel that in the zchus of your feeling weird Hashem should help you with _______(fill in the blank). This is your nisayon. It really is hard to remain upbeat at all times, but the harder it is, the more schar you’ll get!! Hope u feel better! (Oh, had u in mind today while I davened if that gives you any comfort…:))March 15, 2011 3:22 am at 3:22 am #883910eclipseMember
happiest:Miriam Adahan says:Ride the waves…know it will pass and mainly…keep busy with normal routine.
If you’re up to it,do positive acts that help others.
And,as others have said,HASHEM is there for you,24/7.
P.S. I admire your courage,strength,honesty,and perserverance!!October 24, 2011 4:45 am at 4:45 am #883911outoftownerMember
What is it like to be in a relationship with somebody who suffers from anxiety?October 24, 2011 2:48 pm at 2:48 pm #883912miritchkaMember
i used to have minor panic attacks. It was a very bad feeling, my heart would race, i would breathe erratcially, my head would pound, etc… i never knew what it was and was scared to find out. But i always felt that knowing and taking care of it is very important so i went ot dr. adn he told me it was panic attacks. As murphys law dictates, after i went to the dr, the panic attacks went away! I dont remember what triggered them or if anything triggered them, but i do remember feeling foolish after that…it wasnt the first time that a pain or injury would go away when i went to the doctor just for a visit and there was nothing wrong….July 9, 2012 3:40 am at 3:40 am #883913July 9, 2012 3:50 am at 3:50 am #883914laughing is good 4 youMember
if you are able to exersize when you feel that way it often helps.
Also deep breathing, 4 seconds in through your nose, hold your breath for 4 more seconds and then let it out through your mouth for 4 more seconds. focus on the breathing.
Also, squeezing your muscles tightly for a few seconds and then relaxing them helps.July 9, 2012 3:56 am at 3:56 am #883915choppyParticipant
Hi everyone I am a daily reader on the cr but I rarely post. I have been having a difficult year becuase of various circumstances and I started developing different symptoms that led me to a DR who diagnosed me with anxiety. The thing is I guess I was a bit naive and did not realize that anxiety is a disorder I merely thought it was a term for a stressful feeling. I have BH started some medication and I have begun to feel some relief. I am just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation and can shed some light on anxiety and how to get thorugh it.
POSTED 3 HOURS AGO #July 9, 2012 2:27 pm at 2:27 pm #883916BTGuyParticipant
An old yoga trick I learned somewhere along the road. lol
Slowly breath in through your nostrils only, to the count of six.
Hold the breath to the count of six.
Let it out slowly through your mouth only, to the count of 7.
Repeat about four times, and you will much more relaxed, Iy”H
The accompanying thought is if your body is relaxed, your mind will be relaxed.
Hatzlacha!July 9, 2012 4:20 pm at 4:20 pm #883917golferParticipant
Hope all of you out there are having a relaxed day. Kudos to choppy for taking control & getting some real help! I was upset to read a poster say casually he/she would just take a Xanax. Bad idea. Don’t play with meds, please!! If you’re under the care of an MD and having prescriptions filled by a reputable pharmacist who talks to you, fine. Otherwise you”ll just make a total mess of your health and your life. In my work as a health care professional i see too much of this to keep quiet when i read a comment like that.July 9, 2012 11:17 pm at 11:17 pm #883918ZeligerMember
Golfer – can you please explain. I have started taking a small dose of a ssri as prescribed by my doctor should I be concerned ?
thank youJuly 10, 2012 10:46 pm at 10:46 pm #883919golferParticipant
Zeliger, no, you should not be concerned. The key word (or phrase) here is, as you wrote, “as prescribed by my doctor.” Ssri’s are commonly used, can be very helpful, and are usually safer and have fewer side efects than other antidepressants. As long as you are under a doctor’s care there’s nothing wrong with taking them, and i would never suggest otherwise. You may need to be patient and wait some time to see results, but you will hopefully find they improve your quality of life. If you are not satisfied with the results, your doctor may eventually change the type of drug or dosage. You should absolutely not stop taking them suddenly.
But there are too many people out there who pop pills that have never been prescribed for them, or in higher doses than have been prescribed for them. They can do real harm to themselves. Those are the people i was addressing.
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