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  • #596304
    LemonySnicket
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    So I was at a wedding and I met the Chosson for the first time in a while. The problem is I never know what to tell someone who’s celebrating a Simcha. I always just say Mazal Tov and then a moment of awkward silence follows till he moves on to the next guest. What are all those smooth and cool quotes and Brochos people always say to a Bal Simcha or to anyone else in general? B’sha Tova Umitzlachas? How does it go?

    #759731
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Just step on his shoes as you go in for the kiss.

    #759732
    s2021
    Member

    I have the same problem. In a 15 second window- its pretty hard to come up with something to say that wont sound awkward..

    I just flash a huge genuine smile that conveys everything, and it does the trick. Its not like they have anything to say back either..

    #759733

    I have the same type of problem when meeting a baal simcha. I try to think of what to say beforehand.

    #759734
    adorable
    Participant

    that is the reason why i hate dancing with the kallah in the middle of the whole circle. You have to say something but dont have anything to say….i dont think the baal simcha realizes the awkard moment though because they are just so happy for themseld…

    #759735
    mytake
    Member

    I usually tell the Kallah, “Oh, wow, you look so beautiful!” and of course the music is so loud that she can’t hear so I try saying (yelling, really) it another couple of times, and by then somebody pushes in and takes over the dance, so I’m free to leave!

    #759736
    HAKOL TOV
    Member

    it’s cute how we all seem to feel the same way when dancing with the kallah!

    #759737
    brotherofurs
    Participant

    what if the kallah is not dressed tzinuisdik, can u still say she’s beautiful when it’s awkward?

    #759738
    shlishi
    Member

    brotherofurs: that would be like telling someone who is eating pork that the food looks delicious.

    #759739
    pumper
    Member

    I am so relieved that I am not the only one who hates dancing in the middle circle with the kallah! I totally dread it!

    I am not a good dancer, and I never have anything to say…

    good to know I am not the only one…

    #759740
    commonsense
    Participant

    so nice to hear i am not the only one who feels that way

    #759741

    allow the awkwardness to fall on the other person, let them deal with it

    #759742
    LemonySnicket
    Participant

    Haha that’s another “problem”. I try to remain as inconspicuous as possible but I’m always found and pushed in the middle. I’m like thinking “I just want to eat my dessert in peace” while standing on the sidelines. The poor Chosson ends up with bruises due to my clumsy attempt at dancing. I usually end up kicking him and the people surrounding lol.

    #759743
    s2021
    Member

    I agree with chayav.

    #759744

    i believe in telling people when situations are akward. for example if i was talking to a friend on the phone and the convo wasnt really happening i wud say ” k we both obviously have nothing to say so we might as well hang up and not waste each others time” same thing goes for dancing with the kallah….go in, say mazel tov, tell her you didnt prepare anything to say to her when you would dance with her and then youll both laugh and it will be over…..

    #759745
    s2021
    Member

    lol stuffed thats a good line to say actually

    #759746

    try it-works every time!!

    #759747
    EloQuint5
    Member

    lol, stuffedcabbage, that’s my MO as well. most chassanim and kallah’s don’t remember what they talked about in 3 hours worth of 15 second increments with random people.

    As for the “tell the kallah she’s beautiful”, that won’t work for the OP.

    #759748
    LemonySnicket
    Participant

    Nope that won’t work at all.. In fact I reckon it’ll turn an already awkward moment into a downright uncomfortable (and creepy) one :p

    #759749
    um
    Member

    what do you say as a kallah to the ppl that are dancing with you??

    #759750
    mdpa
    Member

    Um: Thank you for coming, I’m so glad you’re here…

    #759751

    tell them “im yirtza Hashem by you”

    #759752
    GumBall
    Member

    Mazel Tov !! thank you so much 4 coming!! And lk StuffedCabbage say if the person is single I”YH by you…….

    #759753
    s2021
    Member

    nobody likes being told I”YH by u..

    #759754
    seeallsides
    Participant

    Baal Simcha – I am sooooooooo happy you came (look happy)- it’s so much fun to share a simcha with a great friend – They say i have a power of giving brochos as a baal simcha, so I wish you with all my heart sheyimalei Hashem es kol mishalosaych l’tovah – you should only have brochos, yeshuos, parnassas b’harchava and kol tuv bharchava……..

    Guest – Oh you look so gorgeous (wonderful, amazing, lechtig,…) I can’t believe that i am dancing at your wedding, I am so happy i feel like it’s my wedding (my sister’s, my daughter’s ) You can just feel the atmosphere -everybody is just so thrilled with this wonderful shidduch, and loves you, and wishes you the best (kiss, hug……….)

    What’s to be uncomfortable – just cherish the moment!!!!!!!! Nobody can even see you or hear you- it’s such a mob scene.

    #759755

    just continue smiling, say “may you be zoche to build a bayis neeman…” if new child say may you be zoche to raise him/her letorah, lechupa ulm”t… whatever just smile and show them you happy for them that’s all they care about.

    about the kallah not dressed tznius, if your a girl saying to the kallah, matters on your relationship with her. look for something else like your hair/shaitel…makeup maybe just don’t comment on the gown itself

    #759756
    Health
    Participant

    “nobody likes being told I”YH by u..”

    Wrong – I do. I need as many brochos as I can get.

    #759757
    eclipse
    Member

    Health…iy”h by you,and b’korov.

    #759758
    Health
    Participant

    E – I would return the Brochah, but I’m not sure if you’re from the group that wants this brochah or not.

    #759759
    eclipse
    Member

    Health: This is the most recent advice I got on the subject:

    You may not feel ready yet,but be careful not to BLOCK any brochos Hashem may want to give you.Like,instead of saying “no thank you” right away,listen….

    Doesn’t take away one drop of warranted fear–it’s just a wise mehalech suggested by a wise person.

    #759760
    Health
    Participant

    E – You’re too complicated for me, but here goes -I’yh by you B’korov!

    #759761
    eclipse
    Member

    I shared that for the benefit of others like me,simply since that “outlook” adds no undue pressure at all.It’s just a mindset.

    My dream is to be cleared of all the negative…but only Hashem can solve that one.

    #759762
    eclipse
    Member

    B’korov?!

    And what’s so complicated about that suggestion?

    #759763
    ZeesKite
    Participant

    E:

    Iy”H by you B’korov, to be cleared.., to have such an outlook/mindset and then to be! A lot of dreams actually come to realization.

    #759764
    eclipse
    Member

    Thank You.

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