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Why are people so picky? One girl I know is so picky that she is 25 and still not married 🙁 The second girl has to go by what the parents say. Meaning she wont go out with a boy whos parents are divorced because her mom wont let. What is this world coming to? Why are people saying “no” so fast. Girls only want the top guy in the top shuir in the top yeshiva, but what happens when hes a low life or an abusive person. Then what? The same with boys why do they only need a size 0-2 girl and only if her side is willing to give millions of dollars to the couple? Why does this have to be?
It has to be only if we allow it to be that way. Nothing happens in a vacuum.
I was literally told my “chosson” was a “future rosh yeshiva”…if all the talmidim were wooden shtenders, maybe.
every person chooses for themselves how they want to deal with Shidduchim. Your friends that are being picky are choosing to be. Your friend at 25 is choosing her path, she would rather wait then have to ‘settle’ for less than perfect. But that’s her choice.
I give everyone a Bracha that we should not be too picky when it comes to Shidduchim.
“Mom won’t let???”
She is an adult, she can date whomever she wants.
If she is so unable to act independently of her parents, maybe she shouldn’t be married?
Are we really going to go through this again?!! Not EVERY boy who isn’t married or EVERY girl who is 25 (I guess that’s way over the hill. ridiculous to think that’s soooo old even for a girl. Yes, it would be great if she were married and she probably cries a lot that she isn’t and I feel bad for her, but let’s be real. 25 is not old.) and single is being picky. And all of you who keep up this type of attitude are guilty of the same thing you are accusing these people of: labeling and pigeonholing people into a very small number of possibilities. I recently heard a first-hand account of a mother who was asking information about a 26 year old boy and she asked “So why isn’t he married yet?” as though the fact that he was 26 and single was an indicator that there must be something wrong. Have we completely forgotten that Hashem runs the world? He is the one that has ultimate say on what happens in the world. What each person does and decides how to go about their life is THEIR choice. But rest assured, if the person was the most picky person in the world and Hashem wanted them married at 18, it would happen! And if they were the most flexible person in the world, Hashem may just have them waiting for many years to get married. This topic really is getting played out and I can’t understand why other people aren’t yet as sickened as I am.
Amen!! And everyone should find their zivug hagun bikuroiv mamesh!!!
Amen ken ya’aseh hashem!!
Whatever floats their boat!
I’m glad people think they’ll EVER find Mr./Mrs. Perfect.
It doesn’t exist. (Besides my hub of course :D)
Seriously, every person has Maalos & Chesronos. Otherwise, why are we still here on this world?
It must feel frustrating to see people being too picky. I find it difficult to judge though, being “picky” shows a lot of seriousness in getting married- which helps avoid the “easy come easy go” attitude.
Being too picky can lead to problems. Its a balance. Best to have a rav/rebitzen or trusted and trustworthy mentor to help…
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