Better Not To Say Kaddish

WM: Have you ever c’v had to say Kaddish for someone halachicly required of you?

Yes. My mother passed away five and a half years ago.

If not, are you even allowed to say Kaddish for someone not halachicly required of you?

Question not applicable since the premise is not true.

If you c’v had to say Kaddish for someone halachicly required, would you be asking the same question you ask in your OP? Why would it be less applicable?

Because halacha says that you are required to say kaddish for some people, and we find no exception that says that one is exempt if one is wicked. However, perhaps, if not required, one should not say it, so as to not harm the deceased.

The Wolf

I don’t know you, but I would assume that if you are saying kaddish for someone who has no one else to say kaddish for them, you are not such a “certified rasha gamur”.

I thank you for the kind words, but the Chofetz Chaim disagrees with you.

The Wolf

Whatever your shortcomings (which I’m sure are overstated), they are no excuse not to do the right thing from now on.

Of course not.

This includes the Chesed of saying Kadish as a zchus for the Neshama of your relative.

If it’s harming them, then perhaps it’s not the right thing to do.

The Wolf

No Wolf, you should not say kaddish, you are the worst.

Thank you.

The Wolf

wolf: leave it up to god

You really should use a capital G when referring to HKBH.

to allocate where your prayers go and whom they benefit. just because you think you are saying a prayer “for such and such” does not make it so.

For general prayers, yes. But here, I’m explicitly saying them because someone died and for the purported benefit of that person.

The Wolf