November 18, 2009 4:56 pm at 4:56 pm #590826Be HappyParticipant
I would love some original ideas to cheer someone who is ill. She appreciates short visits. I can send some food. What else to say can I do to say “refuo Shlaimo” or “thinking of You”?November 18, 2009 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm #668464mazcaMember
sometimes are so sick they cannot read, maybe u should go read to themNovember 18, 2009 6:31 pm at 6:31 pm #668465smalltowngirlMember
depending on her energy level, give over something that you got from the Rabbi’s drasha or a shiur that you attended.
I think I would appreciate it if a friend would get me “caught up”…
Refuah shelaima!November 18, 2009 8:19 pm at 8:19 pm #668466mybatMember
Maybe you could help out with the little kids. (if there are any) or help with housework?November 18, 2009 8:28 pm at 8:28 pm #668467oomisParticipant
Depending on what’s wrong, keep visits short, don’t talk TOO much, but be upbeat. If the person can eat anything at all, bake or bring some yummy food for him or her, maybe bring a book or magazine. Ask what errands you can run for the patient (PLEASE do not say, “let me know if you need anything,” or “What can I do to help?” Tell them you are running to the grocery or pharmacy and ask what they need from there. Offer to drive their carpool (if any), pick up their dry-cleaning, throw in a load of laundry for them. Having been a recent patient recovering from surgery, I can tell you that many well-meaning people phrased their offers to help as a “let me know,” statement. Most people, myself included, are not going to want to bother anyone. Just show up with groceries and offer to drive them somewhere if they need to go. That is way more helpful than an ambiguous, generic, let me know if you need anything.November 18, 2009 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm #668468mybatMember
Oh, and use common sense when visiting and calling. Don’t show up at late hours and don’t keep on calling because they may want to rest.November 18, 2009 10:29 pm at 10:29 pm #668469BEST IMAParticipant
wow oomis1105 that should be laminated and given out! i spent months in the hospital if i had that paragraph to hand out things wouldve been alot easier!!!November 19, 2009 12:19 am at 12:19 am #668470pookieMember
oomis1105, couldn’t have said it betterNovember 20, 2009 8:09 pm at 8:09 pm #668471bein_hasdorimParticipant
Nice fresh flowers, liven and freshen up a room, also a card with a personal
message of you wishing them well, Sometimes people express themselves better
when writing a letter, having time to put their feelings on paper.
Also there is something about the written word that penetrates
more, sometimes than your just saying it,
especially with women who are more emotionally in tune.November 22, 2009 4:48 am at 4:48 am #668472tamazaballMember
give them a box of chocolates and go and talk to her , when someone sick sees a friend it cheers them up and forget about serious things and put them in a good mood.
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