July 24, 2011 10:52 pm at 10:52 pm #598190Sender AvMember
My sister is expecting and due September IYH, around the second week in September. She is also having a big birthday about (we expect) about 2 weeks later, the Sunday before Rosh Hashana. My brother in law wants to give her a party(which I think she might expect too), but we dont know what to do considering we dont know when the baby is coming. #1, I think she will be tired. # 2, when do we do it and what do we do? The Sunday after her birthday is Tzom Gedalia, thats out. I suggested Succos, but he thinks that may be too late and does not want her to be disappointed. Any ideas? Also before Rosh Hashana, like I said we dont know whats going on(all though we never really do)July 25, 2011 1:15 am at 1:15 am #789251Another nameParticipant
Mazal tov! I’m sure she would be more surprised if you did the party earlier as opposed to later, and she would probably be more up to it then (though it depends alot on how her pregnancy is going). That’s what I would do but you might have to play it by ear… Good luck with the preparations!
“like I said we dont know whats going on(all though we never really do)”
Sounds an awful lot like my family! 😉July 25, 2011 12:07 pm at 12:07 pm #789252mommamia22Participant
I think you need to have several dates in mind and play it by ear. I once heard rosh hashanah is really the time of everyone’s birthday, that we all theoretically turn one year older at that time. Doing it before her real birthday sounds like a good option. After, not so good. The party will be bittersweet for her, as she’ll have spent time thinking that on an important birthday she was forgotten. There really is no way you can plan this solidly, as the due date is two weeks before her birthday, and a woman can give birth between two weeks before to two weeks after her due date.I vote for “labor” day weekend. You can even joke how she’s giving birth to a new year (I know; corny).July 25, 2011 5:16 pm at 5:16 pm #789253
mazel tov! she might be more shocked if its a little later than she was expecting it to be.July 25, 2011 6:34 pm at 6:34 pm #789254Sender AvMember
Thanks everyone. Just a note: when someone is expecting one should say B’sha Tova, not mazel tov.July 25, 2011 6:54 pm at 6:54 pm #789255
lol thanks for the tip! youre 100% right. in that case basha tova!
mosherose will prob come tell you that you have some value because you used the words expecting and not pregnant which is not as refined.July 25, 2011 7:37 pm at 7:37 pm #789256minyan galMember
Adorable: you just gave me today’s laugh. Thanx. MR would probably use some term that is very 1800’s -ish, like “with child”.July 25, 2011 8:12 pm at 8:12 pm #789257
i dont think i’ll ever predict anything he’s going to say and be right but I can imagine someone (I chose him but there are some others too) coming and saying “sender- I can tell you have some worth and are a refined person as you used expecting not pregnant. It just bothers me so much when I hear that word being used in public…so not tznius. Isnt pregnancy like a private thing (no its not something that everyone sees….)?”
so I did it for them
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