September 23, 2014 11:03 pm at 11:03 pm #613743YaakovDovidMember
I am a frum man who is recently divorced and naturally, am going through the grieving process. Is there any well written JEWISH book written for people like me in this kind of situation? I know there are many secular books out there.
Thank you and a Kesivah va’Chasimah TovahSeptember 24, 2014 12:04 am at 12:04 am #1033416JosephParticipant
Personally, I think that best books are books on shidduchim. Nothing can make a man happier than getting married.September 28, 2014 1:48 pm at 1:48 pm #1033417147Participant
Gemar Tov is Roshei Teivos of “Get” but literally means “Good Riddance” which is probably what you are wishing your ex right now; As for everyone else:- Wish them Gemar Chassimo Tovo.
If you were truly grieving over not being with your ex, why would you have divorced her?September 28, 2014 3:12 pm at 3:12 pm #1033418BubbieTexParticipant
“Why Me, G-d?” by Lisa Aiken. It helped me tremendously.
To my fellow posters on this topic: This man is grieving and is humble enough to admit that. Give the man some comfort. Especially at this time of year, we need to be kind to our fellow Jews.
Of course he will be happier when he remarries. But to get married on the rebound while he is still grieving is NOT a good idea!
Dear YaakovDovid, I hope that you will find your true Bashert at the right time for both you and her. But do take some time to grieve first. Gemar Chasima Tova.September 28, 2014 3:25 pm at 3:25 pm #1033419West GateMember
Divorces should always be cordial and good relations should be maintained with the ex-spouse, especially if there are common children.September 29, 2014 5:24 am at 5:24 am #1033420catch yourselfParticipant
The fact that the decision was made that a divorce is necessary does not mean that it is not a painful ordeal.
Divorce, in many cases, is like amputation; required, but still plenty painful.
There is absolutely no contradiction in a divorced person grieving over what they have been through. In fact, I daresay that this is the more normal condition.
Take heart. There IS light at the end of this (very dark) tunnel. Enough of my friends and family have been through this for me to say that BubbieTex knows best – don’t rush into something that could put you in an even worse situation…September 29, 2014 7:40 am at 7:40 am #1033421Daniel Q BlogMember
Divrei Chizuk! (and this is for those who are not divorced too)
The sefer Yalkut Mashiv Nefesh is very nice.
As the Rambam states, one has to go the middle route. When is too full of themselves, they need mussar to the other side in order to balance themselves. If one is going through a tough stretch, the main learning should be to uplift and increase their spirits.
Simchas and Bsoros Tovos to YaakovDovid and gantz klal yisrael
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