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Sorry for posting two new threads, one right after the other
I’m just wondering if anyone knows of gedolim who live in the tri- state area that give brachos to women? I’m desperately in need of a bracha for marriage, or a bracha to keep me going until that happens atleast.
Any ideas?
I give you a bracha.
How old are you?
I”YH
Chazal say one the Pasuk ????? ?’ ?? ??? ????, Hashem listens to the voice of the afflicted, sometimes faster than others – his mother was also crying. One more, another Pasuk says ???? ??? ???? so Chazal note right after that the Pasuk says ?????? ????.
You’re in a bind, you have the tears – use them. They’re powerful, extremely potent. Direct them towards HKBH. ????? ???? ?? ?????.
Let us all know WHEN you’re answered. It’s only fair!!
The Satmar Rav zt”l used to tell people to get brachos from Holocaust survivors.
The Kaliver Rebbe in Williamsburg sees women. Or at least allows them in the same room. You may need to bring a brother.
May I try to rephrase the above? “The Kaliver Rebbe in Williamsburg ADMITS women.”
Happiest, I agree with the others that have given you a bracha. The koach of a bracha comes from one’s concern for the plight of others. Having experienced many difficulties myself, I know what it is like to be in a difficult situation. I wish you a complete yeshuah, and may this Chodesh Haaviv be the springtime of your life, and a time of boundless joy. As the RBSH has answered my tefilos, I am sure he will answer yours. Keep davening and you will get all you ask.
I’ve seen the Kaliver Rebbe a few times. I once went with my wife for a bracha, and we had an interesting experience. My wife isn’t a big fan of rebbes not seeing women, and she doesn’t like having to do so through a mechitzah. We went to see the Rebbe together. The gabbai walks us into the room. The Rebbe was sitting at the head of a table, with chairs along the sides. The gabbai told me, “Go sit next to the Rebbe”. He then turned to my wife and pointed to a chair at the other end of the table, which would probably upset my wife quite a bit, although she didn’t show any reaction. The Rebbe called out, “No, she should come sit over at this end also, across from her husband.”
happiest, where do you live exactly? maybe if ur in a place where its normal that most ppl are married by 20/21, then you feel a pressure. if ur 22, you shouldn’t! where i come from, its not unusual to find girls who are 22 and still not married, but loving life! i mean, of course they have a strong desire to get married, and they are looking, but where i come from, there is no pressure! i was recently talking to a friend of mine from seminary and she told me that six of her hs friends just got engaged within the past two weeks, and now she’s feeling so pressured- gosh, she’s not even 20 yet! this is what the world has come to- not married before 22, so ur an old maid??????? NNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOO! we can’t let that be the mentality.
also, i recently read an article about a girl who was also looking to get married, so on purim, she and her mother left in the middle of the seuda, went to a different room, and they decided this yr they are just not taking no for an answer. They davened very hard, the next yr, this girls chosson was at their purim seuda! well on purim there is an extra power to tefilla, but who says you cant do this any day. just decide that now you will not take no for an answer.
just in case you feel just sitting and saying tehillim, ur tefillos may become dry, here’s a suggestion- get an ipod or cd player with all ur favorite chuppa tunes/slow wedding songs that you want played at ur wedding, or just songs that u know make you a little emotional, and listen to it while saying the tehillim.
hatzlacha! may we hear good news very soon! don’t take no for an answer!
~{]*YC[}~
I second Pashuteh Yid.
I give you a bracha too. Also a reminder – it’s Hakadosh Baruch Hu who really gives the brachas, and reds the shidduchim. Why fool around? Go straight to the top! All the gedolim can do is doven for you – they don’t actually do anything. It’s all from the One Above. So doven yourself. And help others who are also looking.
And BTW – 22 isn’t old. You can’t decide that you’re doomed so early. Probably you’ll be married within a year or two. Then, of course, you won’t forget other people still struggling, and you’ll help them out too!
Just to add on to APY and IS:I wish I could share the names to make it more credible.
This is going back a while. A Rebbe of mine repeated that he met a man who had been married for nineteen years and suffered from childlessness. He got a Brocha from a certain Rebbe and had triplets. Then a while later the new father received a phone call one erev Shabbos from the Rebbe’s gabbai, the Rebbe is in the hospital undergoing heart complications. The rebbe wants a brocha from the father!
The father, incredulous, asked the Rebbe “the Rebbe has the power of brochos, not me”. The Rebbe answered him “a brocho comes from the heart. I know you will give me a brocho from the depth of your heart!”
Its still very worthwhile to get a brochah from a true talmid chochom and/or tzadik
My Zeide A’H used to say,”Az men vilt a brocha, bett a brocha fun a orehman.”
happiest,
I think R Dovid Feinstein gives brachos,
anyway brachos only help if you put in your hishtadlus, if youre too picky the bracha won’t work
mbachur: Wouldn’t it be more apprropriate if you allow the gadol to say that whilst giving his bracha. How about giving her a heartfelt bracha, now and here, please.
The concept of going to a Gadol BiYisroel for a bracha is fairly new.
While Rebbes have been giving brachos for generations, the bracha idea in the litvish world is reflection of the melting pot of Yidden of today’s age. When one went to the Chofetz Chaim, he didn’t just give a bracha, he davened hard for the person, did mitzvos and took on kabalos for the person in need. I don’t recall that any story when someone went to Rav Boruch Ber, Rav Chaim Ozer, Shaagas Aryeh or even the Vilna Gaon for a bracha. They went for eitzas. They went for chizzuk. They went for Torah… but a bracha by itself, comes from the chassidishe world.
zaidy78: What about Hashem asking Rabbi Yishmoel Ben Elisha for a brocha on Om Kippur, when he went into the K”K? (Brochos daf 7?, the famous A Fried song Tanya)
Rebbe Zaidy: I think I heard of a chazal that says “anywone who has a sick person in his house should go to a Chacham, and should beg mercy”. Could be it’s even in a Gemarah somewhere (you’re a zaidy, you should know). Point is “he should go to a Chacham”.
Try a Kohain. Even outside the official Bracha, it is still considered a bracha from a kohain.
When Rav Hillel David visited my community, he told me that and he asked me for a bracha.
I will have you in mind, B”N, tomorrow morning, my next time up there.
Also give others a bracha and you should be blessed midah kneged midah. ??????????? ???????????
TBT,
Rabbie Yishmoel ben Elisha, the last Kohen Gadol, was in the middle of doing the Avodas Yom Hakkipurim, in the Kodesh HaKodoshim: The holiest man, on the holiest day, in the holiest place. His whole bracha was tefilla that the churban shouldn’t take place and Hashem should have rachmonus on Klal Yisroel. It wasn’t that, “You should be zoche to …”
I could (and I will)
May you find your zivug hagon within the next few weeks.
and TBT because if she goes to the gadol and the gadol doesn’t say it she’ll think she’s hopeless and won’t work on herself
mbachur: omain!
I think opening a new thread may have been easier…. But it’s a free country
zaidy78: Who was he blessing? What does the Gemora derive from this,, huh? That a birchas hediot should be taken seriously. Certanly a birchas tzadik
The point is that the “bracha” is a tefilla to Hashem.
zaidy78: True. Isn’t that what all brochos are? Yet, the tefilah of certain people are answered quicker, as seen many times in chazal.
However, shaarei demo’os (tears..) lo ninalu. The gates of tears are open for all…
the main point of the brocha is to have emunah that hashem will do whats best!
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