April 11, 2011 6:31 pm at 6:31 pm #596247potpieMember
What would you tell your friend who’s feeling like a piece of dirt?
What do you tell yourself when you’re feeling down?
What would you say to someone who has very low self confidence?April 11, 2011 6:55 pm at 6:55 pm #758320
-To be aware of your negative “self-talk,” what you think to yourself & tell yourself…it should be considered treif
-when the yetzer hara cannot get you in the classic way (an overt sin), it’ll try to go this route (the “down” route, no pun intended
-actively give yourself a mental pat on the back whenever you catch yourself doing something good
-use what you did incorrectly as a learning experience, not a bashing one!April 11, 2011 7:02 pm at 7:02 pm #758321deiyezoogerMember
i would say ” go quick (before it’s too late) get some proper help………. no joke. seriously. gook luck!April 11, 2011 7:08 pm at 7:08 pm #758322hanibParticipant
if they’re into reading, Rabbi Pliskin has a good book on the subject, and Rabbi Twersky has tons!April 11, 2011 8:40 pm at 8:40 pm #758323truth be toldMemberApril 11, 2011 11:23 pm at 11:23 pm #758324potpieMember
It’s just a discussion question. It’s not referring to anyone specifically.April 12, 2011 2:11 am at 2:11 am #758325
-Be aware of people who put u down &/or make u feel badly about yourself; limit contact with them. Stick around positive people.
-Finish difficult tasks & work towards fulfilling a goal.April 12, 2011 3:36 am at 3:36 am #758326
I would say:
Change the tape/CD.
The one in your head.
CHANGE: “I’m such an idiot!” TO:
“I’ll do better next time/I usually do this well”
CHANGE: “No one understands me!” TO:
“Not everyone understands/values me,but lots of people do”April 12, 2011 3:39 am at 3:39 am #758328
That’s the negative self-talk. Consider it tarfus!April 12, 2011 5:33 am at 5:33 am #758329aries2756Participant
When you see a person with low self-esteem or low self-confidence the first thing you need to do is pay them a compliment that will help lift their face off the ground. It may be the only compliment they get all day and it can be very important to them. So it could be as simple as “you have a beautiful smile” or “what a great sweater your wearing”. Anything that would make them feel special or good about themselves. Then you can measure their mood and take it from there.
I wouldn’t necessarily speak about a person’s mood, just keep giving them positive encouragement and posiitve signals. If they speak about it, just keep giving positive reinforcement without judging.April 12, 2011 10:33 am at 10:33 am #758330hanibParticipant
most people i know have to various extents low self-esteem. i once heard that it is THE sickness of today’s generation.April 12, 2011 3:04 pm at 3:04 pm #758331
Because other people say whatever the heck comes to their heads.
And break others.
I LOVE complimenting others,watching even the gloomiest faces light up with joy…. helping a tense atmosphere loosen up with spontaneous laughter…
May I never let what others have done to me turn me into…them.April 12, 2011 3:45 pm at 3:45 pm #758332s2021Member
eclipse- u r really sweet! I noticed that about u. U r always complimenting. Maybe thats why everyone luvs u 🙂April 12, 2011 4:10 pm at 4:10 pm #758333
s2021..everyone? Not quite:( But thanks,hon!April 12, 2011 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm #758334adorableParticipant
eclipse- i second that EVERYONE! you know who all do….dont know who you are in person so not sure if you are well liked elsewhere but i cant imagine otherwise…. except the ex but who cares about him right?!?!?!?!
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