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Mr.X wedding this week,kids going…How should I “reward” myself that evening? Remember,I am 100% relieved he will be gainfully distracted from now on. It’s just that,that specific family were really “rodaif” me and MY children will be “dancing the hora” with THEM…I don’t know…
chocolate 😉
and all the newspapers and magazines for pesach – mishpacha, binah, etc.
and don’t limit cr use this week!!!
Mind if I come by with my “Fuzzy” (man’s best) friends?
Go somewhere nice – Take some friends – go to a restaurant. Do something that will really make you happy. Be Positive. Let’s hope it will be the beginning of something really good for YOU!
get a bunch of friends and spend the evening with them! thats my idea of relaxation….and reward.
While he’s at his chasunah, go into the house where he will be for Pesach and chometz it all up!
Say the entire Tehillim for yourself. Is that a crazy idea?
Or go to a spa and get yourself a nice massage, mani, pedi!
Why don’t you go the wedding, too?!
Eclipse- its the best time to go out to eat cuz restaurant are empty!!!
Finish your Pesach cleaning while listening to some really happy Pesach, non-wedding music. Do a chesed for someone else, maybe help them with their Pesach prep if you have time–that will make you and them happy (hey if you want to come here i’d love some help!).
Imagine the good things Hashm has in store for you now that this is out of the way.
Will your children be reporting to you about the wedding or do you not want to hear about it?
reada great book
I say milk it for all it’s worth-This has CHALLENGE written all over it- do the Iyov thing, and just say , Hashem, look at this test you are sending me, I am going to continue loving you and being grateful even though i am choking out of my wits. Give your kids the freedom to participate without agonizing about how miserable you are. And then swing your palm over to your shoulder, and pat yourself on the back. Can anything make you feel good here, chocolate, massages, with me it would be potato chips and a good book.I don’t think they could cut it..I don’t want to minimize how hard your situation is, but i think the ‘classy’ approach would be your best bet….Good luck and remember Hashem is close to the broken hearted, and he never makes empty promises
Light some candles, put on some nice soothing music, and take a long hot soak. It sounds like a night for “ME” time.
get a Leah Forster dvd and watch, laugh and relax.
seeallsides:
I love the way you phrased it in opening. How I wish I should have such an attitude when presented with a ‘matzav’!
Chanel your negetive energy into something positive, like visit someone sick, do something that you will be proud of looking back.
I thought children weren’t supposed to attend a parent’s remarriage?
i suggest treating urself to a shopping spree at bloomingdales…
perhaps well deserved louis or chanel bag or christian loibitan heels…i heard they have manicures to match the shoes, black with red under the nail…how awesome is that!?!?!
“i heard they have manicures to match the shoes”
Ya’know, I can understand why a person would want shoes to match a dress, but nails to match shoes is beyond me!
I vote for an evening with good friends or sisters (even though it’s before Y”T!) together with a splurge that’s more permanent. Something you’ve wanted for a long time and hesitated about. Otherwise youll look at it the next day and say- What did I do that for?
eclipse – I can’t believe your own sisters turned against you!
Thats very strange, and unnatural.
Sorry to hear eclipse..
eclipse- sounds funny…. never heard of anything like that. I would take a couple of friends and go out to a nice quiet restaurant that you would not normally treat yourself to. I am sure that if you tell them why you have to go out that night it would make them be more willing to leave their houses and cleaning and come out with you for an hour or two.!
eclipse, ofcourse…that letter(from last week) was signed by all the sisters….
..”that letter”? I must have missed that. Which thread are you referring to?
Not easy. Keep strong.
I’m sorta on the same page as Health. How ’bout this:
* Charter a bus from a homeless shelter, and bring them in for the kabbolas ponim
* Call the health dept with an anon tip
* Show up to the wedding in the same dress as the ‘other’ person (same dress as future mother-in-law would be a 2nd best, but still a real prize winner)
* Call all the guests and tell them the wedding was moved to another <far away> hall.
See? You can make this a happy moment after all!
there are so many bored posters here you can go eat with them!
Your Rosh Yeshiva gave him his daughter to marry and your sister and aunt’s keep in touch with him. Does he have a perspective here?
like what??!!?!?!?!?
It must be so frustrating to have everybody seemingly take his side – I really feel for you. You are the one that knows what really transpired, which must not be fun, not only did you have to go through it, you are being wronged and being judged by people who don’t understand what you are going through. I feel your pain, and hope that good times are in store for you in the very very near future.
eclipse- the only thing that scares me from reading your posts is that you seem like such a normal, sensible, “head-screwed on the shoulder” type of lady but you fell in so how can I know if I wont fall into that too? any advice that you can offer in hindsight?
what are you talking about?
I remember but the thread was blacklisted I think. Some ppl get nervous when “certain” topics get pulled out from under the carpet..
eclipse- which question did i just ask you? not sure what you are referring to and i am sorry for the duplicate!
oh ok so you have any advice for me? it worries me all the time
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