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  • #603940
    mynamesixonethree
    Participant

    If someone calls you and does not leave you a message, do they expect you to call them back considering they know that you can see they called?

    #889689
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    It depends who they are. I do expect it, but some other people don’t.

    #889690
    Csar
    Member

    Iow, there is no standard. Do whatever you like.

    #889691
    oomis
    Participant

    I kind of disagree. If someone calls you and doesn’t bother to leave a message, THEY initiated the call and they should leave a message or call back later. It’s foolish for them to expect someone to call back, “Why did you call me?”

    #889692
    brotherofurs
    Participant

    i know many ppl who expect the call back. and i think it’s just making it easier for the other person, because instead of them calling you a million times when you’re not available, just call them back when you can talk and have time for them.

    #889693
    more_2
    Member

    No you do not have to call them back unless they leave a message!

    #889694
    TheGoq
    Participant

    I cant tell you how many times i get calls at the Yeshiva from people who say someone just called me from there, and im like really who was it? and they say they dont know and they want me to poll every person in the office to see who called them and i think to myself this person is a real moron.

    #889696
    mommamia22
    Participant

    Goq

    Lol!

    #889697
    kapusta
    Participant

    Depends who it is.

    *kapusta*

    #889698
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    i think to myself this person is a real moron.

    Why? It’s quite normal (although not mandatory) to return a call from caller ID, and it’s not the caller’s fault that everyone working there doesn’t have their own number.

    #889699
    TheGoq
    Participant

    If the call was important they would have left a message or they will call again to have me inquire if anyone called them is quite silly and they come as being self centered. Moron.

    #889700
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    If the call was important they would have left a message

    If it wasn’t important they shouldn’t have called in the first place.

    to have me inquire if anyone called them is quite silly and they come as being self centered.

    Any more self centered than your reluctance to accommodate them?

    #889701
    TheGoq
    Participant

    Tens of people have access to our phones well hundreds really.

    #889702
    2scents
    Participant

    In most cases I do not call back.

    Leaving a message is not associated with any difficulties, leave a message so that the person you called should know that you are expecting his call-back.

    Otherwise, assume that this person belongs to the group of people that does not return calls if you tried calling them.

    When I see that someone tried calling me multiple times over a short period of time, I do call them back, as it might be an urgent matter.

    #889703
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    Tens of people have access to our phones well hundreds really.

    Then it’s certainly understandable that you wouldn’t be able to track who called, but how is the one returning the call supposed to know that, for you to call them a moron?

    From the other perspective, I’ve returned calls, not knowing whom I was calling, and finding out that it was an institution with many phone lines, but one number, such as yours. It’s very frustrating on my end not to be able to know who called – and at times it turned out that it was indeed an important call.

    #889704
    TheGoq
    Participant

    I dont tell them they are morons that would be rude i gently tell them i have no way of knowing who called them after i hang up i say to myself boy what a moron.

    #889705
    shmoel
    Member

    I think that about certain posters. But being polite, I never post my thoughts about them.

    #889706
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    after i hang up i say to myself boy what a moron.

    Why? How are they supposed to know that hundreds of people have access to that line?

    #889707
    TheGoq
    Participant

    I tell them and they still want me to query bunches of people. morons.

    #889708
    oomis
    Participant

    The call MAY have been important, but if so, the caller would have left a message. If it was not important enough to do so, it does not require a callback.

    #889709
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    The call MAY have been important, but if so, the caller would have left a message.

    Sometimes it’s important to the one being called, but not the caller.

    #889710
    oomis
    Participant

    True, but it’s rude not to leave a message, if the call is important to EITHER party. For example, a doctor calls a patient with test results, but no one answers. Sometimes the Caller ID comes up as Private or Unknown Number. The doctor could at least leave a message this is (First Name, Last Name) calling for Ploni Almoni. Please give me a call. The correct thing is to do that, especially if the call is important to the callee, who may not have any idea who is calling from an unknown Call ID.

    #889711
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    True, but it’s rude not to leave a message

    That’s often the case, but that doesn’t change my need to know.

    Sometimes, though, something might be confidential, and the proper thing would be to NOT leave a message. For instance, you might not want one of your kids to hear a message left by a physician’s office, even without specific information, in order not to alarm them.

    #889712
    cv
    Participant

    after i hang up i say to myself boy what a moron.

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    Why? How are they supposed to know that hundreds of people have access to that line?

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    Why? How are they suppose to know who call them, if moron from your Yeshiva did leave his name?

    #889713
    TheGoq
    Participant

    “Why? How are they supposed to know that hundreds of people have access to that line?”

    I tell them and they still expect me to find the caller for them.

    “Why? How are they suppose to know who call them, if moron from your Yeshiva did leave his name?”

    File that under not my problem.

    #889714
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    Can we get back to the point of this thread, which is whether it’s proper to return a cell call based on caller ID? 🙂

    #889715
    wanderingchana
    Participant

    I feel weird calling someone back if they haven’t left a message, like I’m stalking them or something. “Hi, you called?” “ummmmm”

    But as long as I’m paying the bill, I decide when/if I will return voice mails, or whether or not I even pick up the phone, for that matter.

    #889716
    TheGoq
    Participant

    Funny DY!

    #889717
    Song of Blessing
    Participant

    LOL I dont listen to my messages half the time so I just call the person right back anyways. But sometimes yeah I wont pick up coz I’m busy and if the person doesn’t leave a message I’ll wait for them to call back. If its something important they know where to reach you… if its not it can wait, or if your so curious whats wrong with calling back and saying “you called?”.

    #889718
    TheGoq
    Participant

    This conversation just took place

    Moron: (he finally speaks after a few seconds of conversing with someone with him) hey you called me before.

    Me: no sir i never called you.

    Moron: yeah you did call me before

    Me: no sir i have never called you for any reason

    Moron: well umm err somebody did

    Me: okay

    Moron: well where am i calling?

    Me: have a good day sir .click.

    Was it wrong of me to hang up yes it was, but there is only so much moronic behavior i can allow.

    #889719
    apushatayid
    Participant

    If you are bored and have absolutely nothing else to do, you call back every missed number, because it gives you something to do.

    #889720
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    I stopped leaving messages because people would call back and say they saw me on the caller ID but called back instead of bothering to check their voice mail. On the other hand, my brother told me he has a policy that caller ID is not a message, if I don’t leave a message he won’t call back. I didn’t wait til I hung up to tell him he’s a moron.

    #889721
    Csar
    Member

    Some people don’t have Caller ID. You can’t always assume they’ll even know you called.

    #889722
    YW Moderator-42
    Moderator

    I actually get annoyed when people leave a message saying “hi, its plony, call me”. If would be helpful if they would say in the message what the call is about, it might even save time when I do call them back because I can have information ready for them. Also, if it is just “call me” or some other short message I would much rather that people text me than leave a message because sometimes listening to voicemail can be hard such as if I’m in a place where it’s hard to hear or where it would be rude to listen to a message (more rude than checking texts under the table)

    #889723
    YW Moderator-42
    Moderator

    I’ve actually had cases where somebody called me while I was learning and left a message saying “call me its urgent” and also sent me a text with the same message. After a few missed calls I checked the text and decided to go out of the beis medrash to call him, but first I took an extra minute to check his voicemail which didn’t give any helpful info and was just a waste of time. When I actually called back he had a simple question that could have been asked and answered in a text (whether the question was urgent is another matter). He could have saved both of us a lot of time and grief by simply putting his question in the text (especially considering that he sent me a text anyway). But people like this just don’t know how to communicate by text and have this need to speak out their question and hear my answer on a phone call.

    #889724
    TheGoq
    Participant

    Im still in the office its 3 pm on a friday in the summer and i just had two calls for the boss who of course is not here he hasnt been in all day but they expected him to be here at this time what a couple of morons.

    #889725
    TheGoq
    Participant

    so this guy calls in and asks if we got his application that he faxed in yesterday i tell him i dont know, i tell him its mrs. blanks dept maybe she got it, he keeps hemming and hawing not happy that i cant gratify his request to go back in time and look in the fax machine yesterday. moron.

    #889726
    2scents
    Participant

    42,

    Same here, I get annoyed when someone that asks a yes/no question leaves a VM. Just text it!

    Also, when I am talkining to someone or busy, I choose not to pick up the phone. Sme people get upset about it, however since its my life and I pay the phone bill, I think I have a right to ignore the call.

    This scenario really upsets me. I get a call, do not recognize he number, therefore I text the “?” , hey reply CALL ME, so thinking that this is urgent I call them. Then they have this little question, or are calling to invite me to this or that dinner. They could at least reply “call me when u have a chance”.

    #889727
    yentingyenta
    Participant

    I got pocket dialed from a number i dont know.

    whats proper etiquette to this? do I call them back? i have no clue who it is.

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