I know its kind of personal, but how much do people make off of wedding gifts at frum Chasunas.
it depends completely on who you have invited. People who can afford it may give you $500 or $180 whether they show up or not. Some people cannot afford more than $36 or $50. And many people give gifts. It would depend on your circle of friends, relatives and very possibly what the “norms” are for gift giving in your community.
i have heard that you are supposed to pay in relation to how much you “cost” the host, so if you are three people who came and ate, you would pay more than one person who didn’t attend. Not really sure how someone cheshbons that but I have no doubt there are many here who have more accurate details on the subject.
Depends how rich your parents’ friends are.
I know it sounds blunt, but it’s the truth.
Syag: “i have heard that you are supposed to pay in relation to how much you “cost” the host”.
That is common in the non-jewish world where the bride and groom generally pay for their own wedding. The weddings are much smaller (most of my coworkers had 150 guests or less).
This has never been common in our community. You give what you can afford.
“Not really sure how someone cheshbons that”.
If you want to go with the cost per person all you have to do is call the hall and ask what is the price per person.
In my case, not very much, because the guests had already contributed to hachnasas kallah to make the wedding.
My husband and I would have much preferred a smaller wedding and a larger nest egg, but we were overruled.