October 29, 2009 10:44 am at 10:44 am #590713
I really do not enjoy cleaning up. I dont mind cooking supper but i never have patience to do the dishes afterwards. I dont enjoy folding laundry, mopping the floor, or making beds…Any suggestionsOctober 29, 2009 12:51 pm at 12:51 pm #668784Be HappyParticipant
Goodness poor you! – If you are finding it so boring maybe treat yourself to disposables a few times a week. – Dont make the beds leave them open for airing….
Is there anyone who could help you with cleaning? Did you think about paying someone to do these chores??October 29, 2009 1:02 pm at 1:02 pm #668785smartcookieMember
You don’t really have too many choices in the matter! Besides if your husband doesn’t mind doing it instead or you hire some cleaning help!! Sorry!October 29, 2009 2:15 pm at 2:15 pm #668786
Get some cleaning help & get your kids to help too if they are old enough & your husband could do the dishes after supper.October 29, 2009 2:30 pm at 2:30 pm #668787feivelParticipant
Keep in mind you are taking care of the house as the Kohanim took care of the Bais HaMiksosh. A Jewish home is holy. When you diaper a child remember that you have been given the great and awesome privilege of raising Hashem’s children for him. And so too everything you do for your family. How would you feel if you were given the great honor of removing the litter in the Bais HaMikdosh, as you walked through the courtyard picking up the matter that disturbed it’s perfection, as you worked, the Schechina smiled upon you, and elevated your spirit. THAT is what you are doing. It is hidden, on purpose, but that is what is happening.
If you can remember that, you will be fulfilling the very reason for which you were created.October 29, 2009 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #668788says whoMember
Thank you Feivel. I’ve been waiting a while for your inspiring comments.October 29, 2009 2:49 pm at 2:49 pm #668789mazal77Participant
It depends how you look at things Poster. When your realize that taking care of your family and doing all those things you find so mundane, actually is the biggest chesed you can do. Chesed starts at home. When we do those things we are actually emulating Hashem by taking care of the needs of our family members. You have such in important job in creating a Mikdash Ma’at.
Just yesterday, as I was folding the laundry, I was thinking ” Hashem, I am doing this L’Shem Shamayim, that my family has clean clothing to wear”.
When you cook, think I am preparing nutrious meals, L’Shem Shamayim, that my family will be strong enough to serve Hashem.
It really helps to put things in perspective and realize that the housework is not a burden, but a mitzvah!! Hatzlacha in all you do!!October 29, 2009 2:57 pm at 2:57 pm #668790pookieMember
try listening to music while you cleanOctober 29, 2009 3:43 pm at 3:43 pm #668791
Hey feivel! That’s almost EXACTLY what I was going to say! We always learnt that in school, and personally I agree!!October 29, 2009 4:31 pm at 4:31 pm #668792tamazaballMember
Use disposable plates ,cups , get a maid at least ones a week to clean the bathrooms and hard things, wash your clothing everyday so it shouldnt acumulate! Talk on the phone so you shouldnt get bored while you do your chores! Assign your children jobs!October 29, 2009 4:37 pm at 4:37 pm #668793
Any one know cleaning agencys numbers or where i can find cleaning ladys for Boro Park area ?October 29, 2009 4:41 pm at 4:41 pm #668794NY MomMember
Mazal: That is an way to look at it! Very well said!
Pookie and Tamazaball: Great suggestions!October 29, 2009 5:14 pm at 5:14 pm #668795mazcaMember
Be positive Remember a clean house, a clean mind. And the cleaner you are the happier you will be and your kids too. try to keep things easy. And teach everybody responsabilities, one picks up the table, the other one sweeps, the other one washes the dishes, one sets the table, etc. and give rewards when jobs are well done. Throw garbage away every night.October 29, 2009 5:14 pm at 5:14 pm #668796cherrybimParticipant
estherh – “Dont make the beds leave them open for airing”
Can I do that with my socks too?October 29, 2009 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm #668797bein_hasdorimParticipant
Poster: If you do not appreciate a made bed, or crisply folded laundry, clean floors or a clean house in general, then I hear you, but if you do, this is what it takes.
that is how you have to view it.
For instance, if you dont mind when you have bad breath, grimy, dirty, yellow teeth, then by all means dont brush your teeth. (stay away from others though)
If you mind, you brush your teeth. View it as, this is what it costs to have a well
maintained home. Housework, Or an illegal alien, say Paulina from poland, or Rosita from Me-hico.October 29, 2009 7:31 pm at 7:31 pm #668798neatfreakMember
Do what you need to do to have a running house- those dishes have to be washed but in my personal opinion if the beds are not made its not the end of the world. If you have children, then have them help as well. i was washing dishes when i was 9. a three year old can help sort socks and fold them to and even a little kid can learn to do a decent job folding other laundry articles- they may do it slower but so what.
and of course keep in mind why you are doing these things (plenty on that already). and if you can find something to either do while you are cleaning or a reward for finishing things (10 minutes reading that novel thats waiting, buy a danishor whatever works for you)
and if you are able to splurge on the cleaning help- enjoy.October 29, 2009 8:32 pm at 8:32 pm #668799October 29, 2009 8:36 pm at 8:36 pm #668800
Chops, thanks that made me feel good. I was feeling rather dopey reading e/o comments. I am having guest for Shabbos and I did loads of cooking, baking challa etc. my kitchen looks like a tornado hit! I really do appreciate a clean home, i love it in fact. However, when the sink is piled with so many dishes, I’d rather sit by the computer!!!!!!!!!!!!October 29, 2009 8:53 pm at 8:53 pm #668801October 29, 2009 9:05 pm at 9:05 pm #668802Torah LoverMember
You should do what we do in my house. We clean up as we go. As a wife I find that the wife has a responsibilty to keep the house in order. The husband and kids should just as well help out. You should arrange charts and have an award system for the kids. this will go a long way with charts. I told my husband I can scrub toilets, I can do dishes, all I ask of him to do is mop. I hate mopping with a passion. It just gets me so naucious. I ask my kids to just clean up after themselves. And with these systems that I created my house is organized and neat. And when my house is neat and oganized, I realized that my family and myself included are much more at ease and I definately feel Hashem’s Shechina. Every home is a minature Bais HaMikdash, you have to decide how you want to treat it.
P.S. Just to let you know, I cannot sleep in a messy house and when there are dishes in the sink.
Have a wonderful ShobbosOctober 29, 2009 10:01 pm at 10:01 pm #668803
At least in the Flatbush area the house keepers are a little less expensiveOctober 29, 2009 10:38 pm at 10:38 pm #668804bubbyrMember
My daughter also hates the routine of constant housework and cannot afford, nor does she want a housekeeper.
She hired a Yeshiva HS girl who comes in twice a week in the evening for 2 hours. She washes pots & pans, folds laundry, cleans/checks vegetables, and mops the kitchen floor. For a little money, my daughter feels like a mentch.
(working full time with a large B”H family.)October 30, 2009 3:33 am at 3:33 am #668806cherrybimParticipant
rivkib – “She hired a Yeshiva HS girl who comes in twice a week in the evening for 2 hours. She washes pots & pans, folds laundry, cleans/checks vegetables, and mops the kitchen floor. For a little money,”
Forget the age gap, this high school girl ain’t running to get married so quick.October 30, 2009 8:57 am at 8:57 am #668807yankdownunderMember
Poster another reason to be vigalent and make sure your sink is free of dirty dishes, pots, silverware…is to help prevent bacteria and germs that could an environment for flies and roaches to thrive. This is quite crucial right now during current flu season.October 30, 2009 9:01 am at 9:01 am #668808
In case any of you were seriously worried, I had a little cleaning help this morning for 2 1/2 hours and this place is shining! I find it much easier to tidy up when you know there is someone doing the bulk of the work. So while she scrubbed the kitchen i folded laundry, stripped the linen( which she put on the new set) etc…
BARUCH HASHEM this place is in order. lets see how long it lasts!!!!!October 30, 2009 3:28 pm at 3:28 pm #668809
Grandma Lee: all I know is that we get from Florendas agency, Victors agency and Marias agency lol and other random ones…but those are the main onesOctober 30, 2009 6:34 pm at 6:34 pm #668811
about the cleaning help, just remember that any cleaning woman will only clean as clean as you are. Meaning you have to be on top of them and help them like poster, and organize them. very rarely do they leave everything well done on there own.October 31, 2009 11:50 pm at 11:50 pm #668812
Chops: exactly, for the first week or two you have to be on top of them but after that they get the routine…its hard in the beginning but pays off afterNovember 1, 2009 1:56 am at 1:56 am #668813
Shaatra: do u by any chance have the agency’s #’s?November 1, 2009 5:20 am at 5:20 am #668816
Grandma Lee: I posted a few, I guess the mods didn’t approve….sorry I tried!November 1, 2009 9:08 pm at 9:08 pm #668817A600KiloBearParticipant
Who in the world cleans a house nowadays? If you have the money you get a goyte (chadame) off the nearest boat and if you don’t you get the money by burning the place for insurance. Doesn’t anyone learn ANYTHING from the chochmas Creedmoor posted here?November 1, 2009 9:10 pm at 9:10 pm #668818A600KiloBearParticipant
Go on Facebook and check out Miriam’s Cleaning Service. She is based in Crown Heights but seems to service even as far afield from her as the Five Towns.November 25, 2009 8:37 pm at 8:37 pm #668822williMember
cherrybim: Forget the age gap, this high school girl ain’t running to get married so quick.
cherry, ma hakesher?November 25, 2009 10:19 pm at 10:19 pm #668823bptParticipant
Few people hate housecleaning more than husbands, but I must admit that the once in a while that I do the dishes (usuually, motzoi shabbos) its a very big sense of satisfaction, and makes Mrs. very happy. Its not going to change the world, but once in a while goes a long way.
Mostly, I help out by taking clothes from the dryer so she has less to fold (gotta start somewhere!)November 25, 2009 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #668824Moe GreenMember
Few people hate housecleaning more than husbands
So most people hate husbands more than housecleaning? Why are so many people getting married then, instead of becoming janitors?November 25, 2009 11:42 pm at 11:42 pm #668825mybatMember
I think that BPTotty meant that husbands hate housecleaning.November 26, 2009 6:02 am at 6:02 am #668826ronrsrMember
I can also see that Totty is well on the way to being his wife’s favorite husband.
As my wife constantly reminds me: Happy wife = happy life.November 26, 2009 9:18 am at 9:18 am #668827
Moe Green, that was a really funny misunderstanding!!!!!
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