October 23, 2013 2:13 pm at 2:13 pm #610976
To all those over the hill already:
R’ Tatz (in his book – “Thinking Jewish Teenager’s Guide to Life) has a seemingly simple way of defining who you are and what your goal in this world is. In short, he says to draw a circle and write whatever you are inside the circle and everything you’re not outside the circle. Everything inside the circle are your tools and everything outside the circle are your fantasies. Your task is to use your tools to their max as they define your role in life.
So there are 2 phases in this discovery: 1) realizing what your talents are and closing the circle. 2)working through life utilizing the tools inside your circle to its fullest.
My question is, at what point in life are you supposed to close the circle? I feel immature because I know who I am and who I’m not, but I still can’t bring myself to close it. I feel I would be limiting myself as opposed to freeing myself to fulfill my role in life. Is this a feeling I will outgrow? Or is it something deeper that I have to work on?October 24, 2013 1:06 pm at 1:06 pm #981960
Can anyone help me? Or are you all going through life as aimlessly as I am?October 24, 2013 1:41 pm at 1:41 pm #981961🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
I actually heard him give that lecture many years ago and read it again in that book. I DO want to answer but can’t from my ipad. If I can get my act together, I would love to offer my own thoughts.October 24, 2013 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm #981962ApartParticipant
Put your qualities that you actually have (not the ones that you ‘want’ to have) in the circle and work it through your life. When you feel that you’re finished with it then proceed to the next step to make your fantasies come true.October 24, 2013 4:19 pm at 4:19 pm #981963HaLeiViParticipant
If a particular Moshol doesn’t work for you, pick another one.October 24, 2013 4:39 pm at 4:39 pm #981964
@syag – thanks!! Hope you get your act together soon enough as this has been bugging me for a while.October 24, 2013 5:42 pm at 5:42 pm #981965keepitcomingMember
why do u have to close the circle? the fantasies are tools to your goals or are they your goals themselves?October 24, 2013 6:06 pm at 6:06 pm #981966
@Halevi – sounds like a smart idea. I should just drop this whole soul searching business right now before it blows in to a serious mid-life crisis.
@keepitcoming – big grand welcome to the CR!! According to the amount you posted in the one hour since you became a member, it seems like your really interested in what’s going on in here. Hope you stay! The reason why I want to close the circle is to isolate the fantasies on the outside. Those fantasies are so unrealistic but are things I really want, that it hurts me to shut them out.
So in one line: I can’t focus on or use the tools I was given because of these huge sandcastle dreams I have for myself that don’t make any sense.October 24, 2013 7:11 pm at 7:11 pm #981967keepitcomingMember
thanx:) been keeping an eye on all the cr chitchat.. now i can let all the ppl know my mind 🙂
k now to u-
why cant your fantasies become reality?
think about this- why do u want those things for urself?
do u respect ppl who have that?
can u give an example so i can udnerstand better?October 24, 2013 8:23 pm at 8:23 pm #981968
My fantasies involve tools I don’t have, which I guess is tools I don’t need to get where I need to go in life. Why I want those things for myself – I guess because I’m not so happy where I am now contrary to what I thought I would be at this point in time. But this is really straying from my original question – I know who I am and who I’m not, but I am still wishing to be who I am not. I’ve went through a lot to become who I am today, but now that I’m here I feel like there’s not much further I can go using the same tools I used to get here. So am I done?
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