January 1, 2009 4:14 am at 4:14 am #589026MangoMember
Although I’ve never posted before, I often follow the discussions going on in the coffee room. I was wondering if the chashuva members in the coffee room who have so much free time have any ideas/suggestions on how to manage the stresses of college. I am enrolled in a very intense graduate program with almost no time to spare. In addition to the many, many hours of class per week, there is also significant travel time, preparation, studying, reports… Since the time/effort I invest now will IY’H pay off many times over later in life, I don’t want to sabatoge my schooling/eduacation without doing my best and giving it my all. But then where am I supposed to find time to do all the work properly/ enjoy life/date… Any tips or ideas would be helpful. Thanks!January 1, 2009 4:29 am at 4:29 am #660308
Just drop in to the Coffee Room between courses and homework, and all your stress will disappear.January 1, 2009 4:32 am at 4:32 am #660309
This place is the most awesome life-blocker/time-waster I’ve ever encountered. When you’re here, nothing else matters.January 1, 2009 4:33 am at 4:33 am #660310
When you set aside time to do something, try to get it done without distractions. For example studying for an exam might take 6 hrs if you locked yourself in a room/library with cellphone off and no distractions. That same subject could take 6 days when you stop and chat, visit the fridge, “study” aka shmooze half the time with a friend, etc.
Oh, and never wait till last minute = cramming.
This has helped me get through 5+ years of college.January 1, 2009 4:33 am at 4:33 am #660311
well said sir joseph!!! welcome mango-join the fun!!!January 1, 2009 4:33 am at 4:33 am #660312
yeah – be more like me. you roll with the punches. do a few all-nighters. date only if you plan on liking the guy. and visit the CR for your caffeine break.January 1, 2009 4:57 am at 4:57 am #660313
on a serious note, since you sound like a serious guy, asked a serious question and probably want a serious answer, i would say get rid of your user name, get rid of your membership on YWN, and if you dont, at least stay the way you were before; no posting, only reading.
-you have to pace yourself. you may have heard this a bunch of times, because its the only way.
-dont procrastinate. if you really wanna get down to business, and you sound like you do, it’ll be easier for you to find the spare time in between classes, on your lunch break, stuck in traffic etc. to study, review…
gl!January 1, 2009 5:03 am at 5:03 am #660314
BYM – i assumed Mango’s a girl. you assumed a guy. lol which one is it?January 1, 2009 5:11 am at 5:11 am #660315
hm good question…is it more of a guys type to use mango as a username or more of a girls type?
who wants to analyze it.
or maybe for convenience’s sake lets jusk ask. mango?January 1, 2009 5:13 am at 5:13 am #660316
I vote girlJanuary 1, 2009 5:15 am at 5:15 am #660317[email protected]Participant
well not judging by the username but by the content it sounds like a girlJanuary 1, 2009 5:15 am at 5:15 am #660318
I am enrolled in a very intense graduate program with almost no time to spare. In addition to the many, many hours of class per week, there is also significant travel time, preparation, studying, reports…
Must be a guy.January 1, 2009 5:18 am at 5:18 am #660319beaconParticipant
username= girlJanuary 1, 2009 5:19 am at 5:19 am #660320qwertyuiopMember
im thinking girlJanuary 1, 2009 5:20 am at 5:20 am #660321
joseph, you’re losing your touch. you’re way outvoted. and wow talk about male chauvinist!January 1, 2009 5:20 am at 5:20 am #660322
despite the so-far majority, i still believe mango is a guy.
thanks Joseph for pointing out the key phrases lolJanuary 1, 2009 5:21 am at 5:21 am #660323
mango=girl!!! that’s my vote!!!January 1, 2009 5:23 am at 5:23 am #660324
Uh, the guy (joseph) voted male and the rest of you young ladies went with girl vote. Any psych majors out there want to analyze this?January 1, 2009 5:25 am at 5:25 am #660325
Curious, Bais Yaakov maydel is with me on this vote.January 1, 2009 5:25 am at 5:25 am #660326
Ok, Mango, you can come out of hiding now and tell us what you are. Thanx!January 1, 2009 5:26 am at 5:26 am #660327
i, a guy voted mango is a girl!!!!January 1, 2009 5:26 am at 5:26 am #660328
well Mango didn’t say anything about fitting a chavrusa into his/her busy schedule. i could be wrong, but that’s really what made me vote “girl”January 1, 2009 5:26 am at 5:26 am #660329
*ahem* myself being a young lady, i still voted that Mango is a guy.
i took ap psych last year, which is basically intro to psych. it could go either way really depending on how you interpret a mango.
that sounded weird. who ever heard of interpreting mangos lolJanuary 1, 2009 5:26 am at 5:26 am #660330[email protected]Participant
o entertained is, where is she wen we need her??January 1, 2009 5:27 am at 5:27 am #660331
BYM and asdf – you just ruined my research hypothesis, retract your posts!!!January 1, 2009 5:35 am at 5:35 am #660332
Hey I was wondering the same thing! This college thing is crazy. Right now I am busy writing a 12 page paper and I have a ton of other homework to do.January 1, 2009 6:48 am at 6:48 am #660333kapustaParticipant
definitely not a psych major, nor do intend to be but a person naturally sees in others certain character traits of his (her) own basically a guy will look for his own reflection and see a guy and a girl will look for more girly things and rule girl but its not a safe method since all guys and girls are not supremely guys and girl characters but more of a mix of both.as for my vote i’m more inclined to say a girl because a girl (i think-no basis) is more likely to choose a name like mango than a guy is but then, as a second thought it may be man-go… i think i just blew the official kapusta theory…
p.s. anyone want to start analyzing if it is/em mango, why a fruit, why yellow, and why one with a big pit in the middle and skin thats not edible… or anyone want to start analyzing why i’m actually writing this megilla…January 1, 2009 9:41 am at 9:41 am #660334AshreinuParticipant
Curious – What a great strategy. The only problem is being able to implement it!!
Mango – hatzlacha raba!!!January 1, 2009 10:20 am at 10:20 am #660335intellegentMember
Bais Yaakov maydel,
” i would say get rid of your user name, get rid of your membership on YWN, and if you dont, at least stay the way you were before; no posting, only reading.”
LOLJanuary 1, 2009 2:00 pm at 2:00 pm #660336
If the voters are wrong will mango have to change genders to conform with what he/she was voted as?January 1, 2009 3:41 pm at 3:41 pm #660337KeepinEntertainedMember
here i am [email protected], been quiet busy….but my vote…mangos a girl! i think! most guys wont sound so stressed over college work and are not so likely to voice their stress as that would deflate their macho appearances…
and bym, i’m studyin in college for a degree in psych and dont recall analyzing mangos and matching to a gender…
alrigthy mango, whether you are a male or female, hatzlacha with your work! actually just took a psych test on stress and one basic principle in managing stress is time management, like curious said. make yourself time frames and stick to that…social support is important as well, any form of it! relaxation training (if your the type to mediatate or do yoga) or any form of exercise is a gr8 stress reliever…
whatever it is, just keep on remembering that in the end it will all be worth of it…and dont let your grades slide!
good luck!January 1, 2009 5:23 pm at 5:23 pm #660338oomisParticipant
If “mango” ever used to watch Saturday Night Live, he’s a male. It makes no difference to me – let’s deal with the question. Your educatiion is very crucial right now, so use your time efficiently. It won’t be forever, so you can live with inconvenience or a heavy schedule, knwoing it is self-limited. Do you have to drive, or do you travel by train or bus to school? If the latter, then use that travel time to do some of your studying. If not, try to do your work at the library as much as possible, so that you are not distracted by the other people in your family or apartment. Take BREAKS, and close your eyes, walk around, stretch your legs. Sitting in one place for two long is very unhealthy and stressful. When you feel stressed, always remind yourself of the bigger picture. Try to always be neat and organized in your work and even WHERE you work. Messy is stressy. My kids are on grad programs now, too, and I know how tiring and overwhelming it can be. You will be fine. It is not forever. Keep telling yourself that. Hatzlacha rabba.January 1, 2009 5:56 pm at 5:56 pm #660339MangoMember
sorry it took so long for me to get back and let you know whether I am male or female. I AM FEMALE!!!
Thanks everyone for your suggestions, but what happens if you divide up all your time between subjects, stay organized… but time still runs out. Maybe it’s worth it to stay up all night to get through that test with a decent grade, but then you’re zonked for the next day… Also, how is it realistic to find time to date, get married, IY’H….January 1, 2009 6:02 pm at 6:02 pm #660340
acharei rabim l’hatos, JosephJanuary 1, 2009 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm #660341
actually it’s “acharei Brooklyn19 l’hatos” :} told you!January 1, 2009 6:29 pm at 6:29 pm #660342
mango-girl, (ive come to accept that i was wrong–i find that easier ever since i joined YWN!)
sometimes it is worth it to pull an all-nighter (unless it’s used to post on YWN). but sometimes you have to be the judge and tell yourself, it’s okay if i only get a ____% and not a ____%. and instead use the extra time for some other work. you have to choose between subjects, dont put all your energy into one topic/subject and leave no room for another. unless it’s vitally important for you to do extremely well in everything.
because, like oomis1105 said, it’s temporary and your grades probably won’t affect your entire life/future ( but dont go and get 65s!! lol)January 1, 2009 6:35 pm at 6:35 pm #660343
you know, i was wondering if there would be one of those people that would go, “i told you so….!”January 1, 2009 9:59 pm at 9:59 pm #660344
that was “i told you i was right” not “i told you you were wrong”
lol see the difference?January 1, 2009 11:14 pm at 11:14 pm #660345oomisParticipant
Oops, sorry, Mango. So you’re a girl. Ok, a once in a LONG while all-nighter has probably happened to msot of us. But truthfully, when you take that test, you are not fresh and clear-thinking, so what are you really gaining? I guarantee you, that the way you feel is going to affect your performance. If you have no time for dating right now, then you do your work, and make the time when you have vacation. OR, you make the date, tell the person you are in the midts of a paper or finals or whatever, and would love to meet him for coffee, but keep the meeting to an hour or less. If you like each other, set up a second time when you are more freely available.January 2, 2009 12:07 am at 12:07 am #660346
yes, one means one is an egomaniac while the other means there conceited.January 2, 2009 1:02 am at 1:02 am #660347
lol if you wanna look at it like that…January 2, 2009 1:35 am at 1:35 am #660348
yay i was right!! mango’s a girl!!! hatzlacha!!!January 2, 2009 6:17 am at 6:17 am #660349
Joseph, you always tell it like it is.January 2, 2009 6:43 pm at 6:43 pm #660350KeepinEntertainedMember
ooomis, there really is nothin wrong with pullin all nighters every once in a while…everyone hasta sometime or another…and then you just get a couple of large coffees and you manage…but for physical health (and mental) all nighters shouldnt be a every other night thingy…but teenage life soemtim leaves little other options…
and bout the dating…if getting married is a top priority for someone (which it should be and prob is for most teenage girl) than sometimes it should go before school work…most ppl dont schedule dates one day in advance and most colleges have advance set test schedules so if someone is expecting or set to go out and they know they have a test approaching then start studying in advance…basically ADVANCE PLANNING and TIME MANAGEMENT are big keys in life that help everythin run smoother…and remember to leave some time to relax with family and friends…everyone needs some down time…September 24, 2009 12:45 am at 12:45 am #660351
Hi, I just wanted to see if anyone is in the same situation as me.
My professor (he is frum by the way) assigned a 3 page paper that requires research that is due Thursday. Since we didn’t have a Sunday because of Yom Tov and Yom Kippur and Succos is soon I don’t really have time to do this paper even if I really really really wanted to (which is not the case)! I’m feeling really stressed.September 24, 2009 1:55 am at 1:55 am #660352abxParticipant
postsemgirl, Yes, we know how you feel. Here’s what I do that works:
1) Be realistic. Set aside two or three blocks of time which you can spare for doing the assignment. Then plan out that time (ex. 1/2 research, 1/2 write). This takes away most of the stress.
2) Once you’ve done that, whatever you do, you do and whatever you can’t, you can’t! Do your best and leave the rest up to Hakadosh Boruch Hu! This takes away the rest of the stress!September 24, 2009 2:10 am at 2:10 am #660353
abx- thanks but I don’t have blocks of time for the assignment. I am extreemly busy!September 24, 2009 2:49 am at 2:49 am #660354HealthParticipant
You are not supposed to enjoy life when you are in school. Also, don’t do what I do -I’m supposed to be studying for a test and instead I’m blogging on YWN.September 24, 2009 2:49 am at 2:49 am #660355FunnyBunnyMember
mango- as I was reading through this thread, before I even saw your answer I voted that you were female! I thought it was obvious. As for your question, make sure to keep friends in your life- 1 or 2 really good friends who you can call up once or twice a week and just shmooze for 45 minutes or so. I myself am under tremendous stress between college, work and dating and having my social life works wonders for me! Hatzlacha!September 24, 2009 3:03 am at 3:03 am #660356abxParticipant
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