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it is not ok to sit next to the oppisite gender why do ppl go to mixed concerts??/?
Thats one of the big reason why i dont go to concerts.
Why are the concerts mixed to begin with?
why should i go to a concert and not sit with my husband. I look forward to them and so does he.
maybe concerts should be separate except for families with young kids (like boys on one side, girls on the distant other side and families in between
why should i go to a concert and not sit with my husband. I look forward to them and so does he.
Do you also look forward to sitting next to the guy on your other side?
I sit next to my wife at concerts. It it totally mutar.
“it is not ok to sit next to the oppisite gender why do ppl go to mixed concerts??”
I am not advocating mixed concerts. However, since when is it forbidden to sit next to the opposit gender? Have you never sat next to the opposit gender on a train/bus ?
Jam,
being that the OP didn’t say assur, when he/she says ok it means not advisable
It’s obviously inadvisable to sit next to the opposite gender even if it’s not as obvious as not eating pork. Have you ever heard Lashon Hara (without wanting to, of course)? Does that make it okay? Obviously not.
And, incidentally, (perhaps?) you should not sit next to the opposite gender on a bus or train (even IF it is not technically forbidden? Ask your LOR, but don’t assume and extrapolate when it is not based on halacha.
As far as concerts, while it might be just fine to sit next to your spouse at a concert, that doesn’t mean there are no other issues in mixed concerts that need to be addressed. Are there any issues that concern you, personally? Perhaps ask your LOR.
R’ Moshe held that events which are open to the public, must have a mechitsa. It is not a good matsav for a man to sit next to a dressed-up and make-uped woman, especially, a married one. Especially, when the seats are narrow and very much next to each other.
Jam it is advisable not to sit next to the oppisite gender on a bus/train either
Why not? I am sure that the vast majority of people can control themselves. If they can’t, take a cab, bicycle, or walk.
maybe concerts should be separate except for families with young kids (like boys on one side, girls on the distant other side and families in between)I don’t go often but one year(like ten years ago) there was a big concert in Jacob Reis Park with Dachs, freid… and this was the arrangement. I think it worked very well.
“Do you also look forward to sitting next to the guy on your other side?”
never bothers me…the only time it did was when i was recently at the beacon theatre to see Shwekey and the guy didnt stop passing gas and it smelled!
thank you for sharing, yogibooboo! 😉
surprised to hear that Shwekey played the Beacon; back in the day I saw the Allman Brothers & another time, the Rolling Stones there.
What does everyone do on subways/other public transportation?
If there is only a seat near someone of the opposite gender will you refrain from sitting down?
If you are sitting and someone of the opposite gender sits down near you, do you have to get up?
Yogibooboo, the shaila is if it affected the man in a wrong way.
so then HE shouldnt go
That’s exactly what everyone has been saying. Guys shouldn’t go because of that.
It is not a good matsav for a man to sit next to a dressed-up and make-uped woman,
Did you mean a “made-up” woman?
no if some guy has a problem with it then that guy shouldnt go. but there are other men who do not have such issues and have no problem going!
no if some guy has a problem with it then that guy shouldnt go. but there are other men who do not have such issues and have no problem going!
There are men who don’t have such issues!? Wow! I have yet to meet such a man. I think it was Rav Yisroel Salanter zt”l who said to talmid, when he was 80 something years old, partially blind, and walking with a cane that even HE has such issues!
im talking about issues with ppl going to concerts. if a person doesnt have a problem knowing they may sit next to a woman then fine. some men are really ok with it. why does evrything always to be an issue? there was an issue with Lipa’s BIG event, now this concert? what is this world coming to?
I’m just relating what Rav Yisroel Salanter zt”l said about this issue — regarding himself no less!
Yogibooboo, you are not a man, you would not understand. I am sure, a lot of these men, who say they do not have a problem, actually do have a problem, but they are not as careful and sensetive about it as they should.
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