February 1, 2013 2:15 am at 2:15 am #608030yentingyentaParticipant
how do you give condolences to a non jewish professor? my prof just emailed our class that his sister died suddenly.
Do I send back condolences? Ideas?February 1, 2013 2:45 am at 2:45 am #925912
“Condolences on your loss.”
What’s so hard?February 1, 2013 2:46 am at 2:46 am #925913OneOfManyParticipant
“So sorry for your loss,” I guess?
Anyway, hi. ^_^February 1, 2013 2:56 am at 2:56 am #925914Luna LovegoodParticipant
A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” would probably suffice. If you like you can add “May she rest in peace” or “May she be remembered for the good.” Something along those lines.February 1, 2013 3:03 am at 3:03 am #925915akupermaParticipant
If this is a bricks and mortar class, circulate a condelence card. Make sure it is a secular one (this is likely to be a problem if the college is under some other religion’s auspices). This is what is common in offices. This would especially be true if its a large class as opposed to a small seminar. Another factor is whether you are just one name on a roster, or whether you actually work with this professor (e.g. your advisor, specialist in an area you are majoring in, is this someone you’ll be asking for a reference form, etc.).
Also ask why he let you know. Was he explaining why the papers weren’t graded on time and doesn’t expect a reply? Just saying “I’m sorry to hear… ” is probably adequate in person.
You might check some goyish ettiquette books.February 1, 2013 3:08 am at 3:08 am #925916yaakov doeParticipant
Sending a condolence card would be appropriate.February 1, 2013 3:14 am at 3:14 am #925917
”i am sorry for your loss”?February 1, 2013 3:20 am at 3:20 am #925918amichaiParticipant
you can send a card with your condolences, or flowers, small candy arrangement.February 1, 2013 3:45 am at 3:45 am #925919WolfishMusingsParticipant
When you see him again, you tell him something along the lines of “I’m so sorry to hear about your loss…”
The WolfFebruary 1, 2013 3:52 am at 3:52 am #925920farrockgrandmaParticipant
non-jewish doesn’t mean non-human. How about ‘I am very sorry to hear about your loss.’ and ‘I hope you will know no more sorrow.’February 1, 2013 3:52 am at 3:52 am #925921supermeMember
Just be simple and say “I am sorry for your loss”February 1, 2013 4:07 am at 4:07 am #925922hudiParticipant
Email back: “I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you will find comfort soon.” Zehu.February 1, 2013 4:28 am at 4:28 am #925923
Yenta – Are you really this sheltered? If he is just a Prof, not s/o you’re close to, how about an email – stating -“Sorry about your sister. Wishing you condolences. Signed -Yenta.” Or “Wishing you condolences about your sister. Signed -Yenta.”February 1, 2013 4:42 am at 4:42 am #925924yentingyentaParticipant
All I wanted to know is what to say instead of BD”E.
I got my answer. ThanksFebruary 1, 2013 3:06 pm at 3:06 pm #925926
health- why oh why do you need to include an insult?? Just answer if you’d wish and keep the insults and degradations in your head. Please!February 1, 2013 5:16 pm at 5:16 pm #925927rtParticipant
your question was should you send condolences, why not? what’s the question?February 3, 2013 4:54 am at 4:54 am #925928
SaysMe -“health- why oh why do you need to include an insult??”
I didn’t NEED to….
Do your parents know that you blog on the Net? If they don’t, then you should ask permission before you come here.February 3, 2013 5:33 am at 5:33 am #925930
how old do you think i am?? I dont quite think i need my parents permission to blog here. I just sincerely hope you don’t/won’t criticize your teen kids the way you sometimes put down the younger generation of posters here.February 3, 2013 5:40 am at 5:40 am #925931
SaysMe -“how old do you think i am??”
If you’re that mature -you can tell us. I don’t have to play guessing games.
“I dont quite think i need my parents permission to blog here.”
Unless you’re over 30 and still living in your parent’s house, then you Do need permission from them.February 3, 2013 6:01 am at 6:01 am #925932
it was a rhetorical question. Why is 30 the cut off?February 3, 2013 1:27 pm at 1:27 pm #925933oomisParticipant
“I am deeply sorry for your pain and loss. May your good memories of your loved one help sustain you at this sad time.”February 3, 2013 2:10 pm at 2:10 pm #925934☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
Health, why another argument? Someone rightfully pointed out that you unnecessarily insulted someone. Accept it, and try to improve yourself in this area, instead of fighting back.
February 3, 2013 7:22 pm at 7:22 pm #925936
DY – One thing has nothing to with another. It’s Ossur to be on the Net.February 3, 2013 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #925937
DY- thanks. Dont let yourself get pulled into this one tho! Not worth it
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