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How are most dating people going about with the coronavirus? Are people stopping dating completely? Are you doing social distancing at in person dates? zoom dating?
What are most people doing?I hear that there is a lot less dating. Bless those that scratch their heads at this time for the sake of others. Older non-learners that are not living with their parents are very lonely now.
I’ve heard of people doing zoom, doing beshows, and social distance dating (i.e. instead of the guy picking her up and bringing her home, they both meet at a park or something, and stay 6 feet apart from each other).
This corona is going to Be here a long time, doesn’t make sense to stop dating and wait forever
Social distancing outdoors dates now
It’s time to return to our millennia time honored Jewish way of making shidduchim: The two fathers strike an agreement to marry his son to the other’s daughter, you make a l’chaim and schedule a date for the chasuna.
Dear Joseph,
Millennia? Honored? Go read some Jewish biographies.Joseph I’m surprised your so modern.
My much older family minhag is to go to a well and find girls there,
For a change, I’ll come down on the side of Beis Josef. He is correct that the fathers should simply come together, work out a mutually acceptable arrangement for their children to marry and present it to them as a fait acompli’. If they refuse to consummate the deal, they will have to move out of the basement, find a JOB, earn a parnassah and rent their own apartments. This was a proven strategy for clearing out the basement prior to the Pandemic and hopefully will have the same efficacy again once we return to normal. The success rate is obviously a function of finding the most dysfunctional beschert for your son or daughter and insisting that its your way or the highway. You might also offer to pay for the moving van if you are really feeling guilty .
@NOmesorah
The actual father of Ashkenazi Mesorah aka The MaHaRIL was a shadchan. People with children of marriageable age would write to him and he would respond with an idea. They would then send him shadchanus gelt and we’re all still alive today. These people didn’t date. If you are of Ashkenazi descent you are more than likely a product of one of his shidduchim.
on a serious note: what is the best place for a first date now
@HIE Just go to a park (make sure it’s one with a clean bathroom if you can!) or do a beshow.
HIE: If you can find a beach near a lysol production plant….lots of sunlight, open space and hopefully industrial fumes.
To return to a serious note, I would have suggested a park but with a sunny day with springtime temperatures, the parks have gotten worse than 13th avenue erev shabbos. If there is a park area where you can find two benches with some separation, that might be a start. If you live outside the big cities which still have social distancing and restaurant closures, perhaps it would be less difficult to find somewhere to hang out for an hour or two without crowding. Much hatzlacha.Dear Pekak,
Exactly! Success in this endeavor, is incidental. Not recurring, throughout the ages. And definitely not through out the land. But to say only one of these matches in my ancestry was successful, is a bit harsh.Maybe the first date could be much shorter, and walk an empty neighborhood.
Or, maybe go to a WaWa. Find one with a lot of grass and a good view. They are somewhat empty now.
An, older single called me today. I’ll ask him.Facetime.
Skype
Whatsapp Video Chat.A Baas Yisroel should not be going to a “WAWA” to meet her beschert. Someday, you’ll be telling the eyniklach that, “Zeyde met Totty during the big 2020 magayfah over a Slurpee at the WAWA”…..I think not.
Dear Gadol,
There are no slurpees (Correction Icees.) in wawa now. Most of them have a nice outdoor area. Especially away from the cities.NoMesorah: You are correct….they are now called “smoothies” and cost 3X as much…..still not an ideal place to meet your beschert but out in the boonies, they may have outdoor areas as you say. Just bring lots of hand-sanitzer to wipe down the benches and tables (and your own food if the local WaWa doesn’t have a good hashgacha).
Dear Gadol,
Whoooooops! Icee is Quick Check. I think food is pretty much off the table. There is no smoothies in the WaWa I went to. Excellent view of the mountains, though.The only WaWa in our area has a great view of the CostCo parking lot. Lots of smoothies listed on the menu. As far as dating venues, whatever works in your area in terms of privacy, ambience and travel proximity.
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