Crorona Shidduch Dating
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May 14, 2020 6:43 pm at 6:43 pm #1860819ashkifardParticipant
How are most dating people going about with the coronavirus? Are people stopping dating completely? Are you doing social distancing at in person dates? zoom dating?
What are most people doing?May 14, 2020 10:07 pm at 10:07 pm #1860851
I hear that there is a lot less dating. Bless those that scratch their heads at this time for the sake of others. Older non-learners that are not living with their parents are very lonely now.May 14, 2020 10:12 pm at 10:12 pm #1860866KilaolomchasdoParticipant
I’ve heard of people doing zoom, doing beshows, and social distance dating (i.e. instead of the guy picking her up and bringing her home, they both meet at a park or something, and stay 6 feet apart from each other).May 15, 2020 1:40 am at 1:40 am #1860955bsharg2Participant
This corona is going to Be here a long time, doesn’t make sense to stop dating and wait foreverMay 15, 2020 1:42 am at 1:42 am #1860954bsharg2Participant
Social distancing outdoors dates nowMay 15, 2020 3:51 am at 3:51 am #1860967JosephParticipant
It’s time to return to our millennia time honored Jewish way of making shidduchim: The two fathers strike an agreement to marry his son to the other’s daughter, you make a l’chaim and schedule a date for the chasuna.May 15, 2020 8:27 am at 8:27 am #1860969
Millennia? Honored? Go read some Jewish biographies.May 15, 2020 8:29 am at 8:29 am #1860971ubiquitinParticipant
Joseph I’m surprised your so modern.
My much older family minhag is to go to a well and find girls there,May 15, 2020 1:07 pm at 1:07 pm #1860993
For a change, I’ll come down on the side of Beis Josef. He is correct that the fathers should simply come together, work out a mutually acceptable arrangement for their children to marry and present it to them as a fait acompli’. If they refuse to consummate the deal, they will have to move out of the basement, find a JOB, earn a parnassah and rent their own apartments. This was a proven strategy for clearing out the basement prior to the Pandemic and hopefully will have the same efficacy again once we return to normal. The success rate is obviously a function of finding the most dysfunctional beschert for your son or daughter and insisting that its your way or the highway. You might also offer to pay for the moving van if you are really feeling guilty .May 15, 2020 1:07 pm at 1:07 pm #1860995PekakParticipant
The actual father of Ashkenazi Mesorah aka The MaHaRIL was a shadchan. People with children of marriageable age would write to him and he would respond with an idea. They would then send him shadchanus gelt and we’re all still alive today. These people didn’t date. If you are of Ashkenazi descent you are more than likely a product of one of his shidduchim.May 15, 2020 1:45 pm at 1:45 pm #1861039HIEParticipant
on a serious note: what is the best place for a first date nowMay 15, 2020 2:27 pm at 2:27 pm #1861055KilaolomchasdoParticipant
@HIE Just go to a park (make sure it’s one with a clean bathroom if you can!) or do a beshow.May 15, 2020 2:30 pm at 2:30 pm #1861061
HIE: If you can find a beach near a lysol production plant….lots of sunlight, open space and hopefully industrial fumes.
To return to a serious note, I would have suggested a park but with a sunny day with springtime temperatures, the parks have gotten worse than 13th avenue erev shabbos. If there is a park area where you can find two benches with some separation, that might be a start. If you live outside the big cities which still have social distancing and restaurant closures, perhaps it would be less difficult to find somewhere to hang out for an hour or two without crowding. Much hatzlacha.May 15, 2020 3:54 pm at 3:54 pm #1861098
Exactly! Success in this endeavor, is incidental. Not recurring, throughout the ages. And definitely not through out the land. But to say only one of these matches in my ancestry was successful, is a bit harsh.May 15, 2020 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #1861102
Maybe the first date could be much shorter, and walk an empty neighborhood.
Or, maybe go to a WaWa. Find one with a lot of grass and a good view. They are somewhat empty now.
An, older single called me today. I’ll ask him.May 15, 2020 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #1861107AriHaleviRosmanParticipant
Whatsapp Video Chat.May 17, 2020 12:28 am at 12:28 am #1861296
A Baas Yisroel should not be going to a “WAWA” to meet her beschert. Someday, you’ll be telling the eyniklach that, “Zeyde met Totty during the big 2020 magayfah over a Slurpee at the WAWA”…..I think not.May 17, 2020 10:20 am at 10:20 am #1861375
There are no slurpees (Correction Icees.) in wawa now. Most of them have a nice outdoor area. Especially away from the cities.May 17, 2020 1:40 pm at 1:40 pm #1861504
NoMesorah: You are correct….they are now called “smoothies” and cost 3X as much…..still not an ideal place to meet your beschert but out in the boonies, they may have outdoor areas as you say. Just bring lots of hand-sanitzer to wipe down the benches and tables (and your own food if the local WaWa doesn’t have a good hashgacha).May 17, 2020 2:59 pm at 2:59 pm #1861555
Whoooooops! Icee is Quick Check. I think food is pretty much off the table. There is no smoothies in the WaWa I went to. Excellent view of the mountains, though.May 18, 2020 11:34 am at 11:34 am #1861808
The only WaWa in our area has a great view of the CostCo parking lot. Lots of smoothies listed on the menu. As far as dating venues, whatever works in your area in terms of privacy, ambience and travel proximity.
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