January 6, 2019 1:30 pm at 1:30 pm #1657757takahmamashParticipant
We have some sem girls from Darchei Binah coming for Shabbat in a few weeks. Can anyone tell me about them, based on the sem? Will they be outgoing or nebby? Are they friendly like out-of-towners or cliquey? Will they be serious learners? Will they actually be learning the material or memorizing? What about chesed – do they have a chesed day? What about wearing Gap sweatshirts and flats? Will they look at me if I speak to them? Will they go to shule? Help with the dishes? What about serving? do they expect only Badatz hechshirim?January 6, 2019 6:24 pm at 6:24 pm #1657929☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
Can anyone tell me about them, based on the sem?
Despite being in the same seminary, they’re probably not all the same.
Will they be outgoing or nebby?
Some might be outgoing, some introverted. You probably shouldn’t think of an introverted girl as nebby.
Also, despite being in the same seminary, they’re probably not all the same.
Are they friendly like out-of-towners or cliquey?
Probably some of each. Despite being in the same seminary, they’re probably not all the same.
Will they be serious learners?
Probably some, not all. Despite being in the same seminary, they’re probably not all the same.
Will they actually be learning the material or memorizing?
Probably some of each. Despite being in the same seminary, they’re probably not all the same. Anyhow, who cares? Serve them some good cholent and don’t worry about their academics.
What about chesed – do they have a chesed day?
It’s your chessed day, since you’re the host.
What about wearing Gap sweatshirts and flats?
Probably not on Shabbos
Will they look at me if I speak to them?
I guess it depends how creepy you are. The fact that you’re asking these questions isn’t a good sign.
Will they go to shule?
Probably some will and some won’t. Despite being in the same seminary, they’re probably not all the same.
Help with the dishes? What about serving?
It’s your chessed day, not theirs.
do they expect only Badatz hechshirim?
Probably some do and some don’t. Despite being in the same seminary, they’re probably not all the same.January 6, 2019 8:48 pm at 8:48 pm #1657953WinnieThePoohParticipant
are you hosting them for shabbos or checking them out as potential shidduch candidates?
Be aware that depending on who else is at the table, seminary girls may feel awkward sitting at the table with the husband in between courses when the wife goes to serve, so they will all get up to help.
If there are a lot of them, they will talk among themselves and spare you having to engage them at the table. But if you are looking for topics of conversation, then you can ask them about the learning style in their school, subjects they learn, chesed projects, trips etc.
As is true for any guest you may be hosting, it is reasonable to check what kashrus standards they prefer, if there are any accommodations needed for allergies or food preferences, and to try to fill their requests.January 7, 2019 4:12 pm at 4:12 pm #1658474tgsmParticipant
A) what’s wrong with wearing gap sweatshirts, B) if you think that they are the type that wont look at you when you talk to them, they are definitely the type that will go to shul.January 8, 2019 3:37 pm at 3:37 pm #1658977popa_bar_abbaParticipant
I’m the seminary expert.
They will be pretty nebby. V’idach peirushaJanuary 9, 2019 12:45 pm at 12:45 pm #1659433Avram in MDParticipant
“We have some sem girls from Darchei Binah coming for Shabbat in a few weeks.”
I recommend having a three-day supply of water (figure 1 gallon per person per day), and a three-day supply of non-perishable food. Make sure your prescriptions are filled, fill your vehicle’s gas tank, and keep important documents in a safe, watertight location. Have a portable radio and plenty of batteries and flashlights handy. If needed, I can help you board up your windows.
“Will they be outgoing or nebby?”
You will be unable to hear anything over the screaming and shouting.
“Are they friendly like out-of-towners or cliquey?”
They’re equally unfriendly to everyone.
“Will they be serious learners?”
They have swords and have been known to attack anyone who disturbs their learning.
“Will they actually be learning the material or memorizing?”
They learn it so well that they memorize it.
“What about chesed – do they have a chesed day?”
They do chessed every day of the year, so they have a mean day. I think the mean day is coming up on a Shabbat in a few weeks…
“What about wearing Gap sweatshirts and flats?”
I’ve heard they eat them.
“Will they look at me if I speak to them?”
They can shoot lasers from their eyes, so probably better if they don’t.
“Will they go to shule?”
They only go to shuls without an “e”.
“Help with the dishes?”
They stack them up high in order to break them all at once.
“What about serving?”
It’s assur to play tennis with them, but they’d probably clobber you.
“do they expect only Badatz hechshirim?”
You must grow everything on-site under the constant supervision of the seminary. Hope you’ve gotten that started by now.January 9, 2019 12:45 pm at 12:45 pm #1659432RedlegParticipant
You know, Avrohom Avienu didn’t check what kind of sweatshirts the three Arabs were wearing when they showed up at his tent. Nor did he give them a questionnaire to fill out. Hachnosas Orchim is an important mitzva and a great zchus. Don’t trivialize it.January 9, 2019 2:05 pm at 2:05 pm #1659447mdf1Participant
Is this some sort of sick joke? As a seminary student I feel personally insulted. Making plans for Shabbat is a difficult process, and seeing something like this makes me lose faith in American humanity. ‘Serious learners’? ‘GAP sweatshirts’? Even attempting to describe somebody as ‘nebby’ indicates the emotional capacity of a teaspoon. How shallow could you be? On a different note, yes we try our best to be helpful and play with the children and help tidy up when we eat out for Shabbat. Please don’t be the nightmare host people dread turning up to. You want to make your guests feel welcomed and not ridiculously judged.January 9, 2019 3:53 pm at 3:53 pm #1659504yeshiveshmanParticipant
Rabbi Swift of Pittsburgh feels strongly that seminary girls should be very careful whose house they stay at. For example, if the male host is asking about their clothing and other intrusive questions, they should probably stay away.January 9, 2019 6:32 pm at 6:32 pm #1659993Imma613Participant
The way I see it, either the OP is trolling or is thinking of attending darchei binah but is afraid for whatever reason to start yet another seminary thread. Therefore she decided to make up the scenario of having girls for Shabbos. Or possibly it’s a guy checking out a darchei binah girl for a shidduch. I definitely don’t think this is a serious post about having sem girls for Shabbos. Notice that the OP has not weighed in since posting this topic!January 9, 2019 7:09 pm at 7:09 pm #1660024CuriosityParticipant
Not only will they wash all your dishes, they’ll also be dropping off all the food at your house on Friday afternoon. You don’t even need to prepare!January 9, 2019 10:18 pm at 10:18 pm #1660066🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
thank you imma!! I totally agree that he was trolling. Tho I think he was just making fun of certain other people, not checking them out. I was a bit surprised by how many people seemed to take him seriously.January 9, 2019 10:19 pm at 10:19 pm #1660068MenoParticipant
“You know, Avrohom Avienu didn’t check what kind of sweatshirts the three Arabs were wearing when they showed up at his tent. Nor did he give them a questionnaire to fill out.”
How do you know that?January 9, 2019 10:33 pm at 10:33 pm #1660073🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
Duh! because they didn’t have pencils!January 10, 2019 6:58 am at 6:58 am #1660105GadolhadorahParticipant
I find it somewhat amusing that you would assume that a group of young women from a paticular seminary would all share the same personal attributes or adhere to a particu,ar hashkafah. Would you ask the same questions for a group of bochurim visting from Mir or Brisk? Each of these young women are likley to have their own personality and practices so don’t expect them to all fit into some steretype.January 10, 2019 6:59 am at 6:59 am #1660110takahmamashParticipant
I am trolling.
We actually have two girls from Darchei Binah coming for Shabbat next week – but one of them is the daughter of close friends from Baltimore, and we’ve known her since she was a little kid. In fact, my kids used to babysit for her and her siblings. The rest of it was just, you know, trolling.
She’s not nebby. Her mom tells us that the daughter doesn’t own any Gap sweatshirts.
We’re very much looking forward to having her and her friend for Shabbat.
Relax, everyone. We’re good.January 10, 2019 7:06 am at 7:06 am #1660132☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
Good job. You got me.January 10, 2019 7:35 am at 7:35 am #1660145RedlegParticipant
Meno,, Seriously?January 10, 2019 9:00 am at 9:00 am #1660157popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Lol nice try.
But we know they’re nebbyJanuary 10, 2019 11:23 am at 11:23 am #1660295👑RebYidd23Participant
It’s really offensive that something like this could make someone lose their faith in humanity. Murders and other awful crimes don’t take away your faith, but trolling about seminary girls does?
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