If you were the parent of a 18-19 year old girl who just started dating would you let her date a 20 year-old bocher?
If you were the parent of a 22 year old girl who’s been dating for 2-3 years would you let her date a 20 year-old bocher?
What was wrong with the first one?
Yes and Yes.
Not the PC response in these shidduch-crisis-times… 20 seems a touch young; I’d have to be very convinced about the particular guy to go for 1 so young for my daughter, at age 18,19 or 22.
depends on him and her. there are 18 year olds going on 28 and there are 18 year olds who have not matured a day past 8. each shidduch suggestion should be evaluated on its own merits on both sides.
So yes. But…
I like younger guys.
Before coming on CR i had a similar question so i decided to post it here and see what happens.
Basically, i am a 20 yo bochur learning in yeshiva. Very mature and has good middos. I have a feeling that o should get married already. On the other hand people keep on telling how it’s good to learn and enjoy being single as long as you can (not forever but at least till 21-22).
I know that the second i will go in to shidduchim, I will get grabbed with a good shidduch and will have to go for it.
What do you in such a case, where you feel that it’s time to build your own home and others around you rather push you to wait?
Gefilte, I think that the way you predict how the shidduch process will work for you and how you will decide to get married shows that perhaps you are not ready at this point. Perhaps spend some time learning about what makes a good relationship and marriage.
e-fish: so youre daughter being 18 isnt too young, but the guy being 20 is?
gefiltefish- i suggest speaaking to one of your mashpiim or a rav. not to what all your friends are saying.