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Could anyone suggest any special tefillos to say on Rosh Hashanah for parnassa? I have several friends that have husbands out of work for a long time and they are in foreclosure and the yeshivos are calling them telling them that they have to pay something for tuition and the utility companies are threatening to cut them off.
I would like to daven for them but dont know what is best to say.
Nachas,
Just daven from your heart. Don’t worry about specific words or phrases. Just pour out your heart to HKBH and tell Him what you want.
The Wolf
Don’t know if this went through.
Don’t forget to daven for yourself. On R”H we can’t take the continuity of any of our brachos for granted.
wow, what a special thing to do!
Good point, tzippi. Thanks for the reminder.
That’s a wonderful thought. Few things besides the physical welfare of our loved ones can cause as much distress as financial difficulties. The psychologists say that it can be especially devastating to men who are expected to breadweinners, and can feel that they have failed in such situations, which may not entirely be of their own making.
We pray for the sick, the captive, the dying, why not for those in dire financial distress?
I think someone should alert Secretary of the Treasury Timothy Geithner to this.
ronrsr is spot on! We all say, and mean it seriously, that let our biggest problems be money, give us health, nachas, etc. We have our priorities straight. Yet while many people can weather many storms, it is the serious financial issues that can drive families to shalom bayis issues.
There are several organizations that pair people for davening, kolhamitpalel, I’lldavenforyou (IIRC), etc. and of course, one doesn’t need the help of an organization to say a heartfelt kapital for another.
say parshas hamon (in siddur after shachris davening)
say the tefilla in shma koleinu for parnassa
(these are in daily davening but you can say them on rosh hashona)
another problem is that when we are sick, or grieving we are encouraged to share our woes with others, and others come to visit, hoping to lessen our woes.
Finances are the last taboo in America, and we are discouraged from talking about them with each other. What loneliness must the person in severe financial distress feel, and with no one to share it with. He may not wish to share it with his immediate family, for fear of looking bad, or to share it with his greater family, for fear that he might be viewed as a schnorrer, bad provider, malingerer, etc. He may not share it with his spouse, did he not agree to a ketubah where he promised to, even to the point of selling the shirt off his back, to provide her with food, clothing and necessities?
Maybe it’s time to break this last taboo, and bring financial distress out of the closet.
Is there some way you can tactfully let your friends know they are in your prayers without embarassing them?
<<it is the serious financial issues that can drive families to shalom bayis issues.>>
Dear Tzippi,
it sometimes goes way beyond Shalom Bayit issues. Financial distress can cause physical and mental illness, and even death. Financial difficulties are now among the highest causes of suicide in men.
Recall that a handful of Bernie Madoff’s victims did commit suicide, and anticipate how many have suffered as a result of his chicanery. Also, the suicide rate in the USA has been increasing as the economy has been tanking.
Here’s a link to the National Institutes of Mental Health’s guide to dealing with financial distress: http://www.samhsa.gov/ECONOMY/
Pray as if everything depended on Hashem,
Act as if the world depended on you.
bests,
=rsr=
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