May 2, 2011 8:35 pm at 8:35 pm #764146always hereParticipant
I agree with Sac’s advice as well.
hope you’re feeling ok, Goq!! hope you had some Kosher for Pesach sugar-free chocolate 🙂May 2, 2011 8:46 pm at 8:46 pm #764147MDGParticipant
You could try to ask your brother why she seems “shy” around you?
You can use another word instead of “shy”, and don’t use a negative word.May 2, 2011 8:49 pm at 8:49 pm #764148yogiboobooMember
adorable-your little situation scares me a bit…May 2, 2011 9:06 pm at 9:06 pm #764149aries2756Participant
Goq, I would suggest that you DON”T send anything in writing that she can show others. It is better said in person or over the phone. And it is better not elaborated on until you give her an opportunity to tell you what is bothering her. So just asking her what’s wrong, or if you owe her an apology just to get the conversation started might give her an opportunity to start talking.May 2, 2011 9:10 pm at 9:10 pm #764150
The more I thought about this the more I think you should just leave it go. I dont know your niece but if you think she is mature enough not to show it to everyone she knows then go ahead and write it but if not then just forget the whole thing and move on.
Yogi- why are you concerned?May 2, 2011 9:30 pm at 9:30 pm #764151
lol ty always couldnt find sugar free so just got the lowest sugar i could findMay 2, 2011 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm #764152yogiboobooMember
adorable- the way you said your uncle makes you feel uncomfortable made me grow a concernMay 3, 2011 2:49 am at 2:49 am #764153amichaiParticipant
yogi, just let it go. she isnt gonna share any more than she already did.May 3, 2011 6:13 am at 6:13 am #764155Shticky GuyParticipant
When we are together they huddle together and exclude me altogether
What a sad situation. We all really feel for you. Whatever the reasons, and remember we dont know all the details, you are hurting and understandably so. Its not even as if you are spaced out any longer…:-)
But seriously, if your siblings do treat you as the baby and huddle together without you then is it any wonder that your niece has picked up on this and avoids you also? She’s only copying them. They could be the problem here. You’re lucky your other nieces and nephews dont act likewise.
Let me ask a very important question. Do live near or far from this niece? Meaning does she see you often or rarely? Does she see the huddle against you often or rarely? Do her parents talk about you in her presence? Is there anyone that could act as a go between to speak to her briefly, cos if you send the letter it could make her embarrassed and much more distant, but she does need to know of your discomfort with her behaviour.
Wishing you only a happy life and may you find your Bashert soon which I’m sure will help both of you!May 3, 2011 7:05 pm at 7:05 pm #764156
Wishing you only a happy life and may you find your Bashert soon which I’m sure will help both of you!
I agree! May you find your bashert soon…. I think you should try and just give your niece her space she might feel like you smother her for some reason.
thank you amichai for sticking up for me!May 3, 2011 7:33 pm at 7:33 pm #764157
I in no way shape or form smother her, i dont live very close see her maybe 7-10 times a yearMay 3, 2011 7:35 pm at 7:35 pm #764158
so my getting married will solve everything? well thats a shame cause its not gonna happen anytime soon.May 3, 2011 8:16 pm at 8:16 pm #764159HAKOL TOVMember
i am really sorry to hear this…
hope the situation gets better fast!!May 3, 2011 8:21 pm at 8:21 pm #764160
did you write the article in the Mishpacha? you remind me about someone who wrote a letter about his single statusMay 3, 2011 8:53 pm at 8:53 pm #764161
nope i dont read mishpachaMay 3, 2011 9:09 pm at 9:09 pm #764162shlishiMember
adorable, much hatzlocha getting your uncle off your case and breaking up with the manager in that store that you got friendly with.May 3, 2011 9:09 pm at 9:09 pm #764163
ok wellMay 3, 2011 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #764164
ty hakolMay 3, 2011 11:10 pm at 11:10 pm #764165☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
Is there anyone who knows your family who you could ask advice from, such as a rov or rosh yeshiva? I feel that it’s not for we in the CR to advise in such a case, since the proper course of action depends very much on knowing you, your niece, your brother, and, very possibly, your sister-in-law and other family members.
It would seem safer to remain quiet about it, and certainly not to put anything into writing, unless someone wise, who is familiar with the situation, advises you to.
Good luck, and just keep in mind that your “virtual friends” are feeling for you.May 3, 2011 11:35 pm at 11:35 pm #764166
that seems to be the consensus for now daas i will let this pass and ty for the kind wordsMay 4, 2011 6:29 pm at 6:29 pm #764167
shlishi- I just read your post. thank you for that…I could use any luck that I can get! my uncle is not a constant issue- he just makes me nuts when I see him- he awakens all my senses….and makes me throw up when i get home and think about it! And the manager- yes I could use help with that on a DAILY basis!May 4, 2011 7:20 pm at 7:20 pm #764168
adorable: What does your Aunt think of your Uncle awakening those senses? And what goes on with the manager?May 4, 2011 7:50 pm at 7:50 pm #764169
Pac-Man- the manager is too long to write about over here but i think my aunt is plain old dumb and thinks its cute. when she married him we were very close but then i got bigger and things change…. He used to go around telling his friends that I was his first wife until this other lady came aroundMay 4, 2011 8:04 pm at 8:04 pm #764170
adorable i can see how a comment like that can make you uneasy it is kinda creepyMay 4, 2011 8:08 pm at 8:08 pm #764171
yes i told you he is…shall i say not your typical? but in essence he is more than just differentMay 4, 2011 8:09 pm at 8:09 pm #764172
adorable: I’d like to read it even if it is quite long. What’s the story with the manager?May 4, 2011 8:10 pm at 8:10 pm #764173
are you the manager?May 4, 2011 8:12 pm at 8:12 pm #764174
No.May 4, 2011 8:20 pm at 8:20 pm #764175
we wont go there for now…. check every other thread and maybe you will find it one dayMay 4, 2011 8:32 pm at 8:32 pm #764176
Are you referring to where you posted that you and the store manager became very close friends?May 4, 2011 8:35 pm at 8:35 pm #764177
what thread are you talking about? why are you and why would i want to tell you? you are scaring meMay 4, 2011 8:36 pm at 8:36 pm #764178always hereParticipant
intrusive much?! :/May 4, 2011 8:41 pm at 8:41 pm #764179
Sorry, forget it. I just saw a post from you saying you and some store manager became close to each other and you regretted it even though you are still close to him.May 4, 2011 8:43 pm at 8:43 pm #764180
i dont want to forget it until you tell me which post you are referring to. are you new here btw?May 4, 2011 8:51 pm at 8:51 pm #764181
Sorry adorable. I hope this link works, I think it goes to the post I was talking about:May 4, 2011 9:00 pm at 9:00 pm #764182
you are not so dumb after all i guess. that is partial but good shotMay 4, 2011 9:05 pm at 9:05 pm #764183
Gee, thanks for vouching for my “not being so dumb after all” 🙂 But I don’t know what you mean by partial.May 5, 2011 2:46 pm at 2:46 pm #764184
can i ask you why you care so much?May 5, 2011 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm #764185
Okay, I admit it, I am the manager who became your bf. Wouldn’t you be interested if you suddenly read an online discussion about you??May 5, 2011 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #764186
pac-man let it go, it obviously makes her uncomfortable you need to move past this.May 5, 2011 3:39 pm at 3:39 pm #764187
I tried to 🙁 I said sorry forget it, but she insisted to continue saying “i dont want to forget” 🙁May 5, 2011 4:00 pm at 4:00 pm #764188
who are you? for real are you the manager? if you are so pls tell me why you ignored me…. email me please then i will believe you (maybe)May 5, 2011 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm #764189
omg, you exchanged emails with him too?May 5, 2011 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm #764190
if you were him you would know what i want you to do. lol there goes your scanMay 5, 2011 4:12 pm at 4:12 pm #764191
Mods i think something inappropriate is going on here perhaps you should put a stop to it, pac-mans actions have crossed a line and his account should be banned imho.May 5, 2011 4:19 pm at 4:19 pm #764192
thank you i will not post on this thread anymore Bli NederMay 5, 2011 4:32 pm at 4:32 pm #764193amichaiParticipant
pac-man – shame on you. why does it have to get to this?
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