June 3, 2011 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #597255
I have a co-worker who sits near me and he often brings one or more of his kids to work, often the kids take things from my desk without my permission or in my absense , just recently an item on my desk was broken and is beyond repair while i dont know for certain it was one of the kids who broke it should i broach the general subject of his kids touching my stuff, the item which was broken is not cheap it will cost 15-25 dollars to replace. your thoughts?June 3, 2011 5:26 pm at 5:26 pm #774845apushatayidParticipant
I would broach the subject of touching things on my desk generally.June 3, 2011 5:41 pm at 5:41 pm #774846real-briskerMember
Bring it up with him in a nice way.June 5, 2011 2:26 am at 2:26 am #774847YW Moderator-42Moderator
Goq, if this is your boss or someone else who cares about the finances of the company than maybe show him what was broken to bring the point home that his kids are costing the company money.June 5, 2011 2:27 am at 2:27 am #774848
it wasn’t company property it was personalJune 5, 2011 2:40 am at 2:40 am #774849YW Moderator-42Moderator
In that case I guess it depends on your relationship with this person and how you feel he will react. Do you think he knows about what is happening and just let’s it slide or is he not aware?June 5, 2011 2:43 am at 2:43 am #774850
I don’t know for sure if this persons child is responsible for the damage, he is aware that his child plays with some of the items on my desk.June 5, 2011 3:16 am at 3:16 am #774851BSDMember
Goq- If there’s even a slight chance it will lead to hard feelings then just drop it. (Unless it’s a significant inconvenience-it sounds like it’s upsetting but bearable) If you can say it in a non-confrontational manner and the person is not overly sensitive maybe say “you are probably not aware of this but it seems like your kids have moved and possibly even damaged stuff on my desk in the past. They are cute and all but please keep an eye out.” and them move on to another topic so there’s no lingering awkwardness. good luck!June 5, 2011 3:19 am at 3:19 am #774852
very good advice bsd tyJune 5, 2011 3:28 am at 3:28 am #774853BSDMember
Your welcome.June 5, 2011 4:20 pm at 4:20 pm #774854Midwest2Participant
Why is he bringing his kids to work? Is he a single father with no reliable child-care? Is his wife sick? There could be a lot of reasons he brings his kids, and why he may not be able to supervise them properly. BTW it’s unusual for a guy to be bringing his kids to work. Usually it’s a single mother who’s having trouble with childcare.
Find out first. Then (if he’s not your boss) bring the matter up tactfully. And if he needs help, maybe offer to try to help him get it.June 6, 2011 2:12 am at 2:12 am #774855DovidMMember
A co-worker brought his two kids to work. Both seemed to be nice, polite kids, and didn’t make a nuisance of themselves. However, after their visit (they were there all day) I found that the handful of change that I kept in my desk was gone. Although I have never had a problem with even a pen going missing before this, I can’t say for sure that it was his kids. I am more concerned about one of his kids persisting in doing things like this since it went unreported and unpunished. It could set a pattern.
When I saw my co-worker next with one other person present I mentioned that someone had swiped my stash of coins from my desk, and asked if they had noticed anything missing. Of course, unless he is already aware of a problem one of his kids has with rifling through people’s desks, I don’t think he will think much about it.June 6, 2011 3:05 am at 3:05 am #774856aries2756Participant
Maybe you can suggest to him that he keep some toys or something to keep his kids entertained with when they come in his own desk, because they seem to wonder over to your desk looking for something to play with. Also let him know that you realize he wasn’t aware this was happening, but you are particular about your things and really don’t like anyone touching your desk. Hatzlocha.
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