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My children have been staying at home for the last 2 months. They haven’t entered a store, played with a friend, or gone to shul all this time. When asked if they would like this isolation to end & go back to school they unanimously answer that life is much better this way than going back to school.
Has school become too stressful if children of various ages prefer this lockdown over life before, going to school?
I’ve heard from other parents the same thing, children are finding this quarantine significantly less stressful than school life. Maybe our schools did become too stressful for many of our children? Maybe sitting all day at a desk & on a school bus is not the best way to spend your childhood? Have we pushed academic achievement too far? or maybe not? Maybe children are resilient enough to deal with the stress of school life?
What is your opinion?
A child psychologist told me a number of years ago that in his opinion the stresses our children experience in our schools is what’s causing many children to need his services. Many children weren’t built to deal with the stress of spending 1.5 hours on a school bus each day unsupervised & sitting by a desk from morning to night absorbing information.Did employment become too stressful for adults?
Answer that and you’ll have it answer to the question in the title of this thread and OP.
Like most of these issues, the answer is a firm YES and NO. Obviously, much depends on the individual child, the school that he/she attends, the type of home-life they have outside of school and so many other variables. Yes, some schools can be very competitive and create stress for their students, but so can some parents who put pressures on their kids to excel and perform even when the schools they attend aren’t so demanding. I would be reluctant to generalize on a question that is so fact and case-specific.
P.S. Its only been about 6 weeks since most of the schools were closed and about 2 weeks of that time the kids would have been home anyway because of Pesach. Ask them the same question by the end of August if you still have them locked in the closet because of “social distancing” and you may find they would like nothing better than to be back in their “stressful” classrooms.Is this some joke? Aren’t your kids doing schoolwork and stressing about it? My kids would much rather be in a live classroom than phone conferences and tons of homework!
Most kids want to go back to school. Obviously you need to have a professional evaluate why your kids don’t want to get to school.
I don’t think you understand how kids work. They simply don’t like being told what to do, just like most adults. At home they are basically free to do what they want within the house. In school there is a rule for everything.
My kids would definitely prefer learning face to face, but I sure wouldn’t make the leap to saying they want to go back to school. Except my bais medrash guys, obviously, everyone else is pretty happy this way for now.
DMB: What kind of parents fail to make rules for their children in their house (as well as outside)?!
Schools have rules; and homes have rules in even more so.
“What kind of parents fail to make rules for their children in their house (as well as outside)?!”
I was waiting for that. He was obviously not implying that there are no rules in the house. House rules are tailored, more specific to your home and easier to live with than the very regulated less indidualized and less flexible rules in a classroom.Syag, that’s fair. I’m not sure that should have automatically been assumed from the original comment.
Joseph,
In a house the rules are usually something along the lines of “don’t do a,b and c, otherwise do what you want. In a school everything the child does is because an adult told him to.DMB: That’s terribly poor parenting if the children don’t have rules what they must do at home (and elsewhere). Not just what not to do, but what their responsibilities and obligations are.
Joseph, I think you missed my boat.
I missed the Titanic too. 😂
Joseph: based on your lack of basic mentchlichkeit, many of us are wondering about your parent’s parenting skills.
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