Disciplined User

I’m sure you know what this sign means.

Horay!!! Horay!!!

We got her back!!!

Eclipse, on the high rode, the sun is so much warmer and brighter, the flowers smell so much nicer, and the grass is so much greener. It is a much nicer place to visit and an even much better place to stay.

eclipse – I know I see the internet/cr through different eyes than most here but I do think you will understand what I mean when I say that I have found that Hashem continues to present me with the same nisayon over and over until I chose correctly. Then it disappears. If I struggle and choose wrong, it pops up again. I agree that your presence is valuable, but I would rather you did what is best for yourself, not me.

signed: still struggling 😉

Syag Lchochma:

YOU GOT IT ALL WRONG! Her Nisayon is the urge to pack away her computer. And forget about all of us. (Wah!) No more Chizuk. No more Simcha. No more .. C”V.

I’m a highly disciplined user. I make sure to come back every hour to check for updates and new threads

Zeeskite – I hope you don’t frequent AA meetings! (<–said in jest)

eclipse: Glad to have you back!!! To answer ur question, my very close relative divorced and his X got engaged before him. It was really really very tough. I know I’m still a teen, and I feel kinda foolish writing abt this, but I know of several such cases where the guilty party got engaged first. It really doesn’t prove anything. (I’m not too familiar with ur story, but I’m just saying that YOU shouldn’t feel bad). Also,it’s bashert for you to suffer a certain measure of pain so you can accumulate enough zechusim for your yeshua. Let’s hope that this will fill your measure and bring YOUR bashert closer. GOOD LUCK and please let us know if there’s some good news!!! May Hashem give you many many brachos!!!!

Zero experience. If the issue is jealous of his success or contempt of his ability to get on and get a normal life, then there is one thing I can say. Don’t follow his progress. There is a natural tendency to make one’s self jealous. You’d be a lot happier by not looking.

This might be off target, but there it is just in case.

I think the Mishpacha had a whole issue aboutthis, I think last summer. See if you could get a back copy, you may find some good advice

May Hakadosh Boruch Hu give you the Koach to withstand this Nisayon. I call tell you first hand that it hurts – somewhere deep down – when your X gets engaged. ( It does not matter whose fault it was ) because we are all human we feel hurt. My Tefilos are for you to learn to deal with the “New” Mrs. Bkavod ( as you have the example from your mother A”H) & for the kids that they should have Menuchas Hanefesh, & finally be able to settle with you!