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Since becoming involved in shidduchim, I’ve heard many people speaking about the “crisis” and the shortage of guys. Where are people getting this? Is there actually any data???
Would love to hear people’s thoughts.The ONLY real solution to the shidduch crisis of their being too few men looking for marriage and too many women looking, is for the restoration of plural marriage where men can have multiple wives.
(This post is l”kovod DY. Obsessed, DY ObSeSsEd. 😉
Joseph, since when are you a radical feminist? Only radical feminists support polygyny.
There was just an article about this https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/general/1713657/finally-the-data-is-in-well-almost.html
yes its obvious there is a shidduch crisis with the amount of single women much more than single men i think the reason is because boys dont start shidduchim until their at least 23 lets all join the nasi movement
Here we go again. The issue requires a study that contains real and valid data, and there are still multiple questions about what to measure and how. Until then, the discussion of a crisis is unverified, and becomes a hot topic like anti-vax, LT, and many others that grace the CR.
As for the individual needing a shidduch, there was a “bas kol” that stated who someone’s partner in life will be, and it is only incumbent that one pursue it. Tefiloh helps, and so does hishtadlus. At that point, HKB”H takes the lead role.
I continue to find the discussions on this site about the “shidduch crisis” just a chance to post strongly worded comments that push an agenda, are degrading to others, all which are completely useless.
I agree that without data the conversations dont mean that much. Apparently some other people agree too – there is a study going on now trying to collect real data – see link I posted above. Accordingly to the article they are basically just asking about age, gender and whether people got married. What do you think they should be measuring?
On the scene, looking to match with zivug shani can affirm seems many women available, very few of not only us gentleman,of single frum Jewish guys overall..
Joseph from your lips….If we lack official data we should do nothing and let the problem linger and get worse since we don’t have absolute proof?
Why can’t I trust my eyes? I’ve written before what I observe in my neighborhood, and it’s most probably true in others as well. Who’s going to give data? We’re going to knock on singles’s doors and ask questions? Then we’ll question the data , interpret it and disagree over it.
I agree with Little I Know.. There are singles reading stuff and they’re live humans.. If we have nothing constructive to help, then it’s better we don’t keep talking about it.…but disagree with him on verification…
We Jews are despite our differences, aware of what’s going on in our communities.. I’m getting hung up on the word ” crisis.”
Can we say it’s a significant issue?
Agree with Joseph.“Agree with Joseph.”
Finally someone courageous enough to publicly agree with my proposal to reinstate plural marriages.
Yasher Koach, ZionGate! We have to start talking to the rabbonim to encourage them to sign a Kol Koreh permitting this again, much like how NASI went to them to get a Kol Koreh to have boys start getting married younger.
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Joseph,
Good for you that you’d be able to withstand more than 1 wife, not me. I mean, she’s great and everything, but…. you know. As for boys marrying younger, I’m coming around to believe it’s not a bad idea after all.Plural marriage favors the woman too much, because less desirable men get left behind entirely when women can just choose to marry a better man who already has a wife.
Yes. Now it’s the guys who aren’t the “top bochur”, who got the rich girl.
What did you guys think of the article/study about this? https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/general/1713657/finally-the-data-is-in-well-almost.html
The survey is voluntary, self-selected and web-based, so it is highly doubtful it is scientific or representative of anything.
I don’t think it’s that bad. Not sure why web bad is an issue but voluntary/self selected can lead to representativeness issues. I think they are trying to get around that by asking for family members info and treating each family member as separate data points. I’m not sure they are doing this but in theory they can also just not count the responder and just count the family members. There are also statistical methods I assume they know about that can be used to increase representativeness for potentially biased samples such as weighting by known parameters etc. if you are interested you can probably email them to ask for specific methods. I think this is an imperfect but decent start and am kind of excited about this: I think this is the first time people are even trying to get real data about this subject
There’s no such thing as a shidduch crisis. Know how I know? Because we believe in something called hashgacha pratis. It’s one of the key components of emunah. It means that Hashem has a unique, very individualized plan for every member of Klal Yisrael, and He watches over each person and orchestrates events so that His plan will unfold for that person exactly as He intended, at the time He intended. That means that nothing and no one can stop Hashem from doing exactly as He plans for each person. That means that no human on earth can tell you the path your life will take.
Kingdavid if the rabonim would think like you they wouldnt create the monogamy gzeira… They woul think that there was no problem to resolve because of hashgocha pratis…
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