December 6, 2011 2:27 am at 2:27 am #601007
well mine do.
Want me to prove it? Well who wouldn’t be nuts after you see your 3 year old drinking water out of the toilet? Or on another ocassion I had a hunch she was up to something in the bathroom, and I was right! She was filling up my good Ros Hommerson shabbos shoes with water. Oy vey.
i recently woke up to “haircuts”. Yep. one of them found scissors and gave everybody hair cuts. They all keep blaming one another so I can’t figure out who did it. But all I know is that the top half of their head now looks like a boys hair or like they got in a fight with a lawn mower.
Or how about a can of AJAX? That sounds fun right? Well my 3 year old thought so too. Last night she dumped the whole thing all over the kitchen and was running her hands through it like sand play.
Every day I never know whats going to be. WHen I get them off the school bus I feel dread, fear and panic. I feel I want to run away. Does parenting ever get easier? Will they ever stop trying to open second story windows while standing in an unsecure window ready to fall out while they yell out to the neighbors kids?
WHy when I get them home after the school day do they do nothing but fight with each other and demand what they want from me? MOmmmmmy give me paper…mommy I want to make a picture…mommmmmy I neeeeeeed Paper. MOmmmmmy chani hits me. MOmmmmmy I need chips. I neeeeed a botty…..MOmmmmy I want to help you make supper…Ok here peel this cucumber. I give them a peeler hoping it’ll make them happy. That last 5 mins (all the while they are fighting over who has more) and then I am left with odd shaped pieces that put my gourment salad to shame and a huge mess, and look! They’re already off….running around with that knife. Oh no, look, the other one is putting a garbage bag over a kitchen cabinet which fell off its hinges. ? WHY?
Just somebody tell me what to do? They make me nuts.December 6, 2011 2:59 am at 2:59 am #1193446RABBAIMParticipant
Thank Hashem you have normal healthy children. Daven for all those who don’t yet have children to be zoche to have your problems!!December 6, 2011 2:59 am at 2:59 am #1193447
lol r u serious or have u been watching my house @ night thru some camrea!?December 6, 2011 3:22 am at 3:22 am #1193448smartcookieMember
What? That is totally weird. My kids are always oh very calm, neat, so well behaved, derech eretz’dig, NEVER do they fight. You must be a terrible mom. Neva heard of such a thing 😉December 6, 2011 3:46 am at 3:46 am #1193449
golden mom, if its true that other mothers go through this also, how come they look so normal? I am serious. tell me plz. My neighbors walk pushing carriages with clean kids, and she may be looking stylish herself. THey may even look like the kids are under control on the street. Well behaved. I feel like my kids are really leibedig. And I think its genetic. How come I feel like I am the only lady who is complaining? How come everybody else takes it in stride? Or do you also feel like crying?December 6, 2011 4:07 am at 4:07 am #1193450
I am unable to have children so pardon me if i have little sympathy for your problem.December 6, 2011 4:16 am at 4:16 am #1193451
those pp might appear to be calm but a how much help do they get and when u see them calm they r not out with all there kids
it might help if u need to go out or to accomplish in the house that what ever u do stops half hr before ur first bus (not always possible but try it will make all the diffrence) set a timer/alarm for 5 min bf the first bus and lie down u will be able to great ur children refreashed and have more patience to conquer the nightDecember 6, 2011 4:17 am at 4:17 am #1193452
so sorry goq dont know what to sayDecember 6, 2011 4:28 am at 4:28 am #1193453
Thank you Golden.December 6, 2011 4:45 am at 4:45 am #1193454
maybe i will try to contemplate what it must feel like to think I want kids’ shenanigans and couldn’t have? in order to appreciate. Yeah, I guess it works. Goq, i dont know what to say to you.
I want to say something to take your pain away, but there is nothing I can say that will. I am sorry for your lot. And sorry to have complained.December 6, 2011 5:01 am at 5:01 am #1193455oomisParticipant
The tafkid of a child is to drive his/her parents crazy. Some are bigger chassidim to this than others.December 6, 2011 5:52 am at 5:52 am #1193456
It definitely gets easier, they eventually grow up. You know the old saying, kleina kinder kleiner daagos, groisa kinder groisa daagas! Enjoy every minute of it. As far as The Goq is concerned: There really are no words that can adequately suffice for the pain in your heart. Only Hakadush Baruch Hu can ease your pain.I certainly hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel!December 6, 2011 5:54 am at 5:54 am #1193457
It definitely gets easier, they eventually grow up. You know the old saying, kleina kinder kleiner daagos, groisa kinder groisa daagas! Enjoy every minute of it. As far as The Goq is concerned: There really are no words that can adequately suffice for the pain in your heart. Only Hakadush Baruch Hu can ease your pain.I certainly hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel!December 6, 2011 7:12 am at 7:12 am #1193458wanderingchanaParticipant
Always runs… when these things happen, I try to remind myself: B”H they’re normal!!
That doesn’t make it easier on a day-to-day basis, though. The put-together moms probably have hours of help every week. (And don’t forget, if their kids are strapped into the stroller, they’re not dumping things on the kitchen floor, for the moment at least). My house… forget it.
When my kids were little, I had child-proof locks on all cabinets and window guards on the second floor windows (google Guardian Angel Window Guard). But that doesn’t mean they didn’t get into things.
Once a friend had something urgent and I took her two kids, my daughter’s age (2ish) and 4 months old. The 4 mo was fussy and I was trying to entertain her at the piano. Suddenly I realized the older girls were awfully quiet. They were quietly and happily sitting on the hardwood kitchen floor, smearing themselves, each other and the floor with Desitin. The hardwood floor had cracks that took a toothbrush to clean the Desitin out of. 🙂
Another time I was in the basement checking laundry. Suddenly I heard the thump-thump-thump-thump-thump of someone running from the kitchen to their room. Someone knew they were in trouble. I went up to the kitchen to find the eggs I had set out to make brownies, smashed on the (again, hardwood) floor. They look like balls, right? And when the first one doesn’t bounce, you’d want to see if the other one would, right?
Time to get out the tootbrush again…December 6, 2011 12:21 pm at 12:21 pm #1193460ImaofthreeParticipant
Ajax and all other cleansers should be in a locked cabinet out of reach of small children.
Maybe you could get a teenage girl to help you during “crazy time” in your house. Some schools have a program and they send girls to help out families.December 6, 2011 12:54 pm at 12:54 pm #1193461
Thank you scissors i didnt mean to come down so hard on you im sorry, Thank you so much a mamin,
I’ve known from a very young age that i would not be able to have children i was born with several defects B”H none too bad i have been on medications most of my life it’s just something i have to deal with.December 6, 2011 2:29 pm at 2:29 pm #1193463snjnMember
There are some things you can do to have a some normalcy in the house. 1)preventive measures. Scissors and ajax should not be accessible to kids at all. Lock some cabinets if need be. All detergents and all sharp things should be locked up. 2)read the book ” 1 2 3 magic” to give you some idea of having some house rules and how to enforce them. 3) plan ahead. You know they are coming home at a set time. Have drinks and snacks ready. Be willing to go play with them on the floor with toys. You basically have to teach them what it means to play with toys that are age appropriate. Be willing to devote the time when they are home to positive and meaningful interactions with them instead of leaving it up to themselves how to entertain themselves. 4) I reiterate: there must be clear house rules that will be enforced. Not taking your clothing or shoes is one of them. As much as these actions are normal in every household with kids, it’s not normal if this is your daily life. You can take steps to change it but it has to be done with planning and thought. Good luck!December 6, 2011 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #1193465JotharMember
Insanity is hereditary…you get it from your kids.December 6, 2011 4:34 pm at 4:34 pm #1193466
Always runs: It is very important for you to have time for yourself, if you don’t, you better start now. You need to have time to recharge…
Don’t worry, Gam Zeh Yaavor! If you feel you still can’t manage , don’t be ashamed get help!!There are many people out there who can help you!
I once read a letter sent to Rebetzin Yungreis, it was from a mother who said she can’t manage she wants to run away… Someone else replied for the Rebetzin. She said that she is the other woman every one envies. She works in the financial district making a 6 figure salary. Is there something to envy? No absolutely not, she said that her co workers were extremely intimidated from her Shabbos observance. She claims in the BIG world out there, they really are anti semetic and don’t appreciate religious Jews. She also stated that fertility drugs cost a fortune, that that is where all her husbands and her salary goes. She described in detail all the procedures both her husband and her have taken. How everyone looks at her husband in Shul, why is he limping again.Then she says” You feel like running away, run very far, because you don’t deserve your children!”
That letter shook me up so much, I was never able to complain about my kids again!December 6, 2011 8:24 pm at 8:24 pm #1193468amichaiParticipant
first of all, wishing you hatzlocha and lots of patience!
try to put away all markers, scissors, things you really do not want the kids to get into.if your kids are still quite young, it’s going to be hard to have a rest and not expect them to get into trouble. kids are curious and need to be watched. thats our responsibility. sometimes if a child will have a good meal after school , they might be a little calmer. if you can sit with them for 20 min. and really give them your attention, that might also calm them. just because you see pple outside with their kids that are tidy and obedient, does not mean they are a better mother. some kids need more activity. maybe bike riding, skates, rolling in the leaves, let them get out their energy in a good way and enjoy them!December 6, 2011 9:54 pm at 9:54 pm #1193469apushatayidParticipant
B”H, all day, every day.December 6, 2011 10:52 pm at 10:52 pm #1193470crdleMember
Sorry to heart GOQ. at first i was puzzled, since I thought ur not married . I hope u only have simcha in your life!December 6, 2011 11:01 pm at 11:01 pm #1193471
Goq are you female?December 6, 2011 11:27 pm at 11:27 pm #1193472smartcookieMember
When we say our children give us a hard time, it doesn’t mean we’re complaining. Kids are meant to be hard. That’s why they need parents to help them grow into mentchen.
It doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate them. We love them, but sometimes they can really take out every bit left of us!December 7, 2011 12:54 am at 12:54 am #1193473
No scissors i am male, infertility is not just about women.December 7, 2011 2:04 am at 2:04 am #1193474
Goq , of course it isn’t …thats why I wanted to know . I alwasys thought of you as a male Goq and then I asked myself why. I realized it was possible you’re female.December 7, 2011 2:15 am at 2:15 am #1193475MiddlePathParticipant
Goq, I’m so sorry. Just know that you are a terrific guy no matter what.December 7, 2011 12:00 pm at 12:00 pm #1193476
Thank you Middlepath that means alot, no problem scissors.Thank you Cradle.December 7, 2011 3:01 pm at 3:01 pm #1193477Boro Park GirlMember
Hey jothar- the saying really says
“Nachas is hereditary-you get it from your kids”November 22, 2016 3:11 am at 3:11 am #1193478LightbriteParticipant
I heart the OP’s OP.October 1, 2020 12:36 pm at 12:36 pm #1906252Tachles1Participant
Working from home has defintely made things more challenging, but overall I have came to appreciate their personality quirks that I would never had noticed if I was away from the home 13+ hours a day.October 1, 2020 12:45 pm at 12:45 pm #1906262lowerourtuition11210Participant
sounds to me that you have normal children. Invest in childproof locks for your cabinets.October 1, 2020 12:52 pm at 12:52 pm #1906266MenoParticipant
Maybe you should stop running around with scissorsOctober 1, 2020 4:42 pm at 4:42 pm #1906322The RebbitzenParticipant
That story shook me up too, BUT there is no reason a parent may not vent her frustration, or complain once in a while.
Of course, we must not forget what a Brocho kids are and how grateful we need to be that Hashem has given us this gift, but that in no way means that if we are lucky to be gifted, that just because someone cant have/are waiting for kids do we need to suppress our stress and anxiety…
It’s like saying people in Africa are starving so we need to stuff ourselves.
This post in no way is belittling the pain of childless ppl, chas vesholom, I am an active donor of Boinei Olom and daven for them every day!
Yes my kids drive me crazy and yes i am greatfull and yes they somehow get hold of the most dangerouse substances in the house and yes they give me lots of joy!
Its a package deal!October 1, 2020 11:49 pm at 11:49 pm #1906418crazy horseParticipant
kids don’t drive you nuts, you are in the drivers seat of your brain, and you make the decision to be driven nuts or not.October 2, 2020 8:37 am at 8:37 am #1906463Sam KleinParticipant
Look at the positive and sweetness of your children in each situation and speak to them on their levels each to help then to avoid and prevent these troubles and messes from happening again.
Like someone wrote earlier make a small investment to make preventive measures to avoid tragedies from poison or dangers happening C”V in the family by putting up child locks and a security camera system etc…. It’s all worth the investment AND THE PRICELESS PEACE IF MIND YOU’LL GET FROM IT knowing your children and family are safe from dangers and your entire home is under video security recordings from robbers or dangers happening etc….
I’m sure if you search online on google
HOW TO MAKE MY HOME MORE SAFE FOR MY FAMILY you will find lists of pages of things you can do in which you will also get a great peace of mind and return to a very happy person shepping nachas from your children
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