January 12, 2011 9:17 pm at 9:17 pm #594156
1.An expensive wig could be covering grey or thinning hair
2.The handsome couple could be going thru who-knows-what
3.The well-paying job may be covering medical bills you aren’t aware of
4.The still-slim classmate is still-waiting…for a child
SHE-OSANI KOL TZARKIJanuary 12, 2011 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm #727773
Interacting with people(outside of the CR!) regularly has taught me that…and others expressing shock at what I’ve been thru (which I take as a compliment;we don’t wanna WEAR our problems)just shows me again and again,that we may think it’s better elsewhere,but EVERYone is dealing with SOMEthing.January 12, 2011 9:42 pm at 9:42 pm #727774twiggyMember
and even if the expensive wig is not covering thinning hair.
or the wealthy couple has perfect shalom bayis.
or the still slim classmate after 3 kids.
we should just think that each person is unique, each of us has his own tafkid… we all need exactly what we have, (or what we dont have, for that matter)January 12, 2011 9:46 pm at 9:46 pm #727775
twiggy–you are 100% right!Thank you for adding that!January 12, 2011 9:48 pm at 9:48 pm #727776ha ha ha haMember
i think it was chazal that said this but not sure say if everyone can put all their problems into a bag and and then pick any other bag everyone will pick their own since hashem in his infinite kindness gave everyone the tools THEY need for their tzaaros and you would NEVER want someone elses problems!!January 12, 2011 9:57 pm at 9:57 pm #727777bezalelParticipant
i think it was chazal that said this but not sure say if everyone can put all their problems into a bag and and then pick any other bag everyone will pick their own since hashem in his infinite kindness gave everyone the tools THEY need for their tzaaros and you would NEVER want someone elses problems!!
Another way of looking at it is that no one else would ever choose to have your (or my) problems.January 12, 2011 10:22 pm at 10:22 pm #727778deiyezoogerMember
yes you gotta see the good in what you have thats the main thing for exsamples, kids, shalom bais, etc etc……January 12, 2011 10:48 pm at 10:48 pm #727779
Jealous? Of what? I have almost everything I need, and even some things I don’t need.
OK, I don’t have a Learjet, nor a Porsche. But for $2000, I can fly just about anywhere on the planet, and for $700 / mo, I can lease a really nice car. The car I have now is half that price, and is still in the top 20% of my neighborhood. So what do I have to be jealous about?
Kids and wife are better than a joe average like me can ever aspire to, so what should I be jealous about?
Health? General appearance? Clothing? All A-OK.
House? I have more rooms than people, a place to go to in the summer, and the kids are in camp (some working, some still on the payroll)
So what could I possibly be jealous about?
There is one thing. I really wish I could grasp a blatt gemorrah like some of my friends can. And I really wish I had the “zitzfleish” to pack in 2 hours of learing, and wish I could spend another hour, if time permitted.
So I guess I really do envy others!January 12, 2011 10:59 pm at 10:59 pm #727780
Bp Totty–that’s kinas sofrim and we are allowed to envy ruchnius.January 12, 2011 11:18 pm at 11:18 pm #727781OfcourseMember
(OK Im getting my protective gear ready!)
Im jealous of all the people who are occupying their free time and filling voids in their lives in other places than the CR, like doing Chesed in hundreds of ways…. Let’s face it folks, thats what we’re doing here, leidigeyers blowing off some steam, with a good word to someone here and there. This does not apply to the Mods IF they’re getting paid! If theyre not getting paid, they’re in the boat with the rest of us.
Imagine if we commited to redding Shidduchim instead, in the time that we’re on.January 12, 2011 11:29 pm at 11:29 pm #727782
“with a good word to someone here and there”
Good thing you have your protective gear on. I would not underestimate the scope and meaning that a well written post can acheive. True, many of us are just passing time here, but imagine this senario:
Its 2:00 am (or 2:00pm, for that matter) and you really feel like no one truly understands what you’re going thru.
Then, lo and behold, there’s a thread that seems to be on the same topic as the one you’re wrestling with, and after reading a few dozen posts, you realize you’re not the only one in this boat, and while you may not be able to get yourself out of the jam right this moment, you get the 2nd wind you so desparatly need to face another day.
Think its far-fetched? I don’t.January 12, 2011 11:43 pm at 11:43 pm #727783shaigetsMember
sounds like bp totty is talkin from lots of experienceJanuary 13, 2011 12:37 am at 12:37 am #727784winny1Participant
when it says a truly happy person is one who is “someach b’chelko” I think it doesn,t mean only with money but also with other things that influence a persons feelings. You never know what the other persons ‘pekaleh’ contains, so never be jealous.January 13, 2011 2:17 pm at 2:17 pm #727785
shaigetz…you sound young.
You don’t need to “experience” everything to be able to imagine a scenario.
Also with threads on every topic…who can’t relate to SOMEthing?Am I explaining this clearly?January 13, 2011 5:30 pm at 5:30 pm #727786
” bp totty is talkin from lots of experience “
More than you can imagine. And if I may suggest… consider getting a new screen name. It really doesn’t suit youJanuary 13, 2011 5:51 pm at 5:51 pm #727787ProfessionalMember
BPT, when are we invited over for some Kugel and a mashkeh?
😉January 13, 2011 8:42 pm at 8:42 pm #727788
Lookin at other ppls probs can make me feel better right now… misery luvs company… but if i really dont wanna b jealous i hafta learn to look at what i do hav n be happy with that. i always thought it was hard untill life got just a bit worse before it got better. now im better at it.January 13, 2011 9:13 pm at 9:13 pm #727789
s2021…yeah,like when we feel we have a lot to do,then we get sick and can’t do any of the work,then we get better and are GLAD to have our koiches back–work and all!January 13, 2011 9:58 pm at 9:58 pm #727790
or like if u wish u wer married, then u get married, get abused, and get single. yay!January 13, 2011 10:06 pm at 10:06 pm #727791
s2021:Oh….I’m sorry.I’m kinda in the same boat…You can contact me if there’s anything at all I can do to help.January 13, 2011 10:24 pm at 10:24 pm #727792deiyezoogerMember
bp totty yes your right you seem like you are fully equiped with all sort of stuff in life.January 13, 2011 11:18 pm at 11:18 pm #727793
lol thanx ur sweet! i know that was kinda sharp…i meant seriously 2 years ago i never wouldv thought single life could as beautiful and fun and and happy as it is now.. ya know?January 13, 2011 11:26 pm at 11:26 pm #727794
” fully equiped with all sort of stuff in life. “
I wish. But you do pick up something along the way, after you’ve done the mileage I have (and this can be said for most of the senior CR members..I just have a knack for putting it in written form)
Kugel and mashkeh? –
Hmm… barring a kiddush, mashkeh only comes out on Friday nite, so timing may be a bit tricky.
Not that I’m looking to chase guests, but where did this comment fit in this thread? Did I miss something?
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