Don’t Redt it if you Don’t Mean it

Skates, the problem is, people aren’t properly redting the shidduch, they’re throwing a name at you. Then you investigate ten boys, and none of them are interested. I much prefer the boy to do the checking first, but anyone who tosses off boys names should be in a position to push the shidduch through AND be able to sell the girl well to the boy’s family. This way even if the girl does check first, it will be productive and not a demoralizing waste of time.