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How does some one in the cr get another posters email? In a diffrent topic, we want to talk over email, but we dont know how to get them!
Are you and this poster the same gender?
Goq:
How on earth can you know if another poster is the same gender as you?
not easily, and sometimes impossible completely.
Fashionablee you are a female.
aproudbyg, i am the same gender as you…sorry for not clarifying! im trying to stay as anonymous as possible…
Goq:
No way! Really?
I understand that you can assume these things, but what say you to the idea that I am a male with a personality disorder? (Not the case…Or IS it…? Mwahaha.)
aproudbyg:
Seriously though, there are weirdo people out there (even on frum websites), so don’t be so eager to give out your info.
Listen to me good: Find someone who loves you, who is interested in you and who can help you. You should talk to someone, not email a stranger!
Best of luck and just remember: you are not alone in your plight, so try and get ahold of a trustworthy adult to help you get through your difficulties.
Great advice fashionablee all of it!
there isnt anything u can really do besides ask. It is an anonymous forum, and emails won’t be posted. I tried once also *blush*, and it was not allowed.
aproudbyg: just like there are very many non-weirdo posters here such as myself who would love to sit and talk with you and offer our advice and help, so too in real life there are also many people who would be so happy even just to have an initial informal shmooze with you and then either help you or pass you on to someone whom you can get all the anonymous help you need. But it should not be done with anonymous well meaning strangers online where it is impossible to get a true, comprehensive picture of your situation and you have no real clue who you are talking with.
Use your junk email in a letter or email to someone you know and trust eg a young rav or someone in education, tell them your feelings without revealing your identity and ask them to email you back with someone who can help you anonymously.
There are so many caring people in every kehilla. Your helper is out there waiting for you. You need only to take the first step of establishing contact. Let us know how you get along!
.. many non-weirdo posters ..
Which side am I on?
Proudbyg: I agree about the dangers of email but I wanted you to know that I hear what you are saying about the trusting people out there. The posters dont realize that they really arent out there waiting for you at all. They are busy and booked solid and the rejection from respected people is very damaging and leaves you even emptier. People dont want to believe that, but it is true. BUT that does not mean there isnt someone out there who can help, it means they are harder to find and you have to persevere without taking it personally. Looking for someone who works with OTD kids and telling them you are there to be proactive may help. Hashem will NOT desert you! Look hard and be strong and tell Hashem you expect a yeshua.
To aproudbyg
I am just an occasional lurker here now and hardly lurk or post,
but i felt I had to say I am somewhat less worried about you than you yourself and some others here are.
why?
Because you wrote the wise words:,
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but i know i will pass it all eventually.
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Just keep with that and continue on in the right path. hatzlocho rabba!
For all we know aproudbyg is actually aproudstalker trying to get in touch with an unsuspecting online friend. We have very little way of knowing such things and therefore err on the side of caution and don’t give out personal info. That’s just the way it is in this crazy world we live in.
As for what to do, you can try to discuss whatever can be discussed publicly in the threads. Privately, you should try to find a friend and/or mentor to help you with the situation. If your friends have all dumped you because of it then they don’t sound like they were ever such great friends to begin with. Look for a Rabbi/Rebbitze or Kollel couple to be your mentors. There are plenty of caring people out there.
To anybody who haas friends going through similar situations: We live in a very confusing world and most people just need their friends to be their friends no matter what the situation might be. Do your best to continue being their friends and treat them the same way you used to (it is hard but try). Over time the “issues” will come up and you can speak about them, but don’t treat the person like this issue is their whole being: they are still regular people like they always were and would like to be treated that way.
Please don’t disparage weirdos…we have feelings too.
Sounds like they only hire top-notch mods. 42, VERY WELL written.
email can sometimes be a goota zach its all about whether or not you have the right purposes
Whoah! This is an important thread for everyone to read. It says a lot about how important it is for us to protect our identities on the internet. Thank you moderators for keeping our contact info secure!
To aproudbyg and anyone else in desperate straits with no one to talk to-
you can call a wonderful organization called MASK- Mothers and Fathers Aligned Saving Kids- (google maskparents) they have a hotline with experienced professionals who can handle your call. They can also refer you to a therapist, mentor, or whatever you might need to help you get through your challenge. Hatzlocha!
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