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  • #603226
    aproudbyg
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    How does some one in the cr get another posters email? In a diffrent topic, we want to talk over email, but we dont know how to get them!

    #871961
    TheGoq
    Participant

    Are you and this poster the same gender?

    #871962
    Fashionablee
    Member

    Goq:

    How on earth can you know if another poster is the same gender as you?

    #871964
    aproudbyg
    Participant

    I actually this will sound bad, but I am not sure. I have another topic about siblings being otd , and they posted how they also went throught it , and wouldnt mind helping me deal with it! It is just a very difficult time for me, and i really would appreciate any advice, especially from someone that is willing to give it!

    #871965
    SaysMe
    Member

    not easily, and sometimes impossible completely.

    #871966
    TheGoq
    Participant

    Fashionablee you are a female.

    #871967
    aproudbyg
    Participant

    Well, I would like to at least try, so can you tell me how?? it is really important!!!

    #871968
    aproudbyg
    Participant

    I know why you are concerned , but you should really be more worried what will happen if i dont get the email! The way my class/ school treats me now i am not sure if i will be able to stay in the school much longer!

    #871969
    notaposter
    Member

    aproudbyg, i am the same gender as you…sorry for not clarifying! im trying to stay as anonymous as possible…

    #871970
    Fashionablee
    Member

    Goq:

    No way! Really?

    I understand that you can assume these things, but what say you to the idea that I am a male with a personality disorder? (Not the case…Or IS it…? Mwahaha.)

    aproudbyg:

    Seriously though, there are weirdo people out there (even on frum websites), so don’t be so eager to give out your info.

    Listen to me good: Find someone who loves you, who is interested in you and who can help you. You should talk to someone, not email a stranger!

    Best of luck and just remember: you are not alone in your plight, so try and get ahold of a trustworthy adult to help you get through your difficulties.

    #871971
    TheGoq
    Participant

    Great advice fashionablee all of it!

    #871972
    aproudbyg
    Participant

    Thank you for caring, i truely am carful, i have a junk email i am planning on using! and about finding someoen to talk to, on another thread i was actaully talking about how cant find a mentor, and how i have tried, but they dumped me… anyway, thank you so much for caring, but i feel that this is what i want to do, so if you can atleast tell me how to do the email thing that would be great!

    I DO KNOW THERE ARE WEIRDOS , BUT FOR THIS AREA IN MY LIFE , TO ME IT IS IMPORTANT TO FIX MY PROBLEM AND I WOULD BE GLAD IF YOU WOULD HELP!!!!

    #871974
    SaysMe
    Member

    there isnt anything u can really do besides ask. It is an anonymous forum, and emails won’t be posted. I tried once also *blush*, and it was not allowed.

    #871975
    aproudbyg
    Participant

    who do i ask and how?

    #871976
    Shticky Guy
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    aproudbyg: just like there are very many non-weirdo posters here such as myself who would love to sit and talk with you and offer our advice and help, so too in real life there are also many people who would be so happy even just to have an initial informal shmooze with you and then either help you or pass you on to someone whom you can get all the anonymous help you need. But it should not be done with anonymous well meaning strangers online where it is impossible to get a true, comprehensive picture of your situation and you have no real clue who you are talking with.

    Use your junk email in a letter or email to someone you know and trust eg a young rav or someone in education, tell them your feelings without revealing your identity and ask them to email you back with someone who can help you anonymously.

    There are so many caring people in every kehilla. Your helper is out there waiting for you. You need only to take the first step of establishing contact. Let us know how you get along!

    #871977
    aproudbyg
    Participant

    thank you, i am starting to think twice about it actaully, i think my best option is just to keep it to myself, i dont really have any other choice! i think i new it all along but i didnt want to believe it. thanks everyone, i hope i will come at ok from this, there is alot going on with me right now, but i know i will pass it all eventually.

    i know evryone thinks it is really easy to find someone to talk to, but it isnt, i talked about in a diffrent thread, i just dont think i can go through the chance of being left behind again from someone i admire and trust! I tried and was let down, now i have only myself and ‘H to trust in and i guess that will have to do! thank you all again!

    #871978
    ZeesKite
    Participant

    .. many non-weirdo posters ..

    Which side am I on?

    #871979
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    Proudbyg: I agree about the dangers of email but I wanted you to know that I hear what you are saying about the trusting people out there. The posters dont realize that they really arent out there waiting for you at all. They are busy and booked solid and the rejection from respected people is very damaging and leaves you even emptier. People dont want to believe that, but it is true. BUT that does not mean there isnt someone out there who can help, it means they are harder to find and you have to persevere without taking it personally. Looking for someone who works with OTD kids and telling them you are there to be proactive may help. Hashem will NOT desert you! Look hard and be strong and tell Hashem you expect a yeshua.

    #871980
    nitpicker
    Participant

    To aproudbyg

    I am just an occasional lurker here now and hardly lurk or post,

    but i felt I had to say I am somewhat less worried about you than you yourself and some others here are.

    why?

    Because you wrote the wise words:,

    but i know i will pass it all eventually.

    “.

    Just keep with that and continue on in the right path. hatzlocho rabba!

    #871981
    YW Moderator-42
    Moderator

    For all we know aproudbyg is actually aproudstalker trying to get in touch with an unsuspecting online friend. We have very little way of knowing such things and therefore err on the side of caution and don’t give out personal info. That’s just the way it is in this crazy world we live in.

    As for what to do, you can try to discuss whatever can be discussed publicly in the threads. Privately, you should try to find a friend and/or mentor to help you with the situation. If your friends have all dumped you because of it then they don’t sound like they were ever such great friends to begin with. Look for a Rabbi/Rebbitze or Kollel couple to be your mentors. There are plenty of caring people out there.

    To anybody who haas friends going through similar situations: We live in a very confusing world and most people just need their friends to be their friends no matter what the situation might be. Do your best to continue being their friends and treat them the same way you used to (it is hard but try). Over time the “issues” will come up and you can speak about them, but don’t treat the person like this issue is their whole being: they are still regular people like they always were and would like to be treated that way.

    #871982
    aproudbyg
    Participant

    thank you, i know i am giving up as i said i will just go at it alone! one of my mentors was a kollel couple! I know you thnk i am making this up, and that ok, i my situation , i will stop trying to contat them dont worry , i have been at this my self this far i will just finish it that way. It can tbe impossible i am sure others have done it also so thank you!

    #871983
    Rav Tuv
    Participant

    Please don’t disparage weirdos…we have feelings too.

    #871984
    ZeesKite
    Participant

    Sounds like they only hire top-notch mods. 42, VERY WELL written.

    #871985

    email can sometimes be a goota zach its all about whether or not you have the right purposes

    #871986
    bladiblah
    Participant

    Whoah! This is an important thread for everyone to read. It says a lot about how important it is for us to protect our identities on the internet. Thank you moderators for keeping our contact info secure!

    To aproudbyg and anyone else in desperate straits with no one to talk to-

    you can call a wonderful organization called MASK- Mothers and Fathers Aligned Saving Kids- (google maskparents) they have a hotline with experienced professionals who can handle your call. They can also refer you to a therapist, mentor, or whatever you might need to help you get through your challenge. Hatzlocha!

    #871987
    aproudbyg
    Participant

    nitpicker- thank you so much! yes i know what i said and i believe in it( thats why i wrote it) but it is nice to hear it from someone else for a chnage!! thanks

    bladiblah- i did google it, it seems its geared more towards parents to help with kids then anything else, thanks though!

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