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    Safta
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    Which finger and hand should the engagement ring be worn?

    #880812
    yitayningwut
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    You’re a safta and you don’t know the answer to that question yet? Yoish.

    #880813
    mom12
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    left hand- ring finger- the one near the pinky.

    even if I wear on the right, cuz its more comfortable..

    #880814
    Nechomah
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    Most women wear their wedding band (usually together with their engagement ring) on the ring finger of the left hand. Until the chassanah, the engagement ring is usually worn on that finger by itself. Once married, some women don’t feel comfortable with two rings on the same finger, so they put the engagement ring on a different finger (usually on the ring finger of the right hand), but that is mostly preference. I have a friend who did not have an engagement ring but wore her wedding band on the second finger of her right hand (the finger where the chassan puts it on her during the chuppah). I think it is more a matter of comfort – if the band of each ring is wide it can take up so much place on the finger and not look so nice. Better to take the kallah to some jewelry stores and have her try on a few different styles before deciding on what to get.

    #880815
    JustHavingFun
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    Left hand 3rd finger is American way. When wearing both wedding band and engagement ring on same finger, the wedding band is placed closer to the palm, i.e., closer to the heart. Russians wear wedding band on right hand 3rd finger.

    @Nechoma – emthe second finger of her right hand (the finger where the chassan puts it on her during the chuppah)em

    The finger the chosson puts the wedding band is the index finger (pointer) on the right hand in all the cases I know about. Then the kallah transfers it to her 3rd finger left hand at some point.

    #880816
    Nechomah
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    JHF – Yes, the pointer finger is the second finger, the counting begins with the thumb.

    #880817
    oomis
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    At engagement, left hand finger next to the pinkie. After the wedding, it can be worn there together with the wedding ring, or transferred to the other hand, fourth finger.

    #880818
    mutche
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    why not ask the chassan for 10 rings, one for each finger?

    #880819
    Nechomah
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    Just to clarify my previous comment – the thumb is the first finger and then you continue counting with the index finger, so the “ring finger” is the fourth finger on the hand.

    #880820
    oomis
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    Yes, Nechomah, the fourth finger is the one next to the pinkie. Is the thumb not a finger also?

    #880821
    Nechomah
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    Oomis, definitely the thumb is a finger. I was just clarifying because JHF was indicating that the ring finger is the third finger, but it’s not. I don’t know if my post was confusing, so I figured I’d just clarify it.

    #880822
    oomis
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    Oops, didn’t mean to make you think I was questioning you. I wasn’t.

    #880823
    🍫Syag Lchochma
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    My mom wore her wedding band exactly where my dad had put it, on her index finger, until the day she died.

    Incidently, she wore HER mothers wedding band on her ring finger. When my mother died, my sister put them both on a chain and wore them around her neck. She handed them to me for safe keeping when they wheeled her to surgery and I put them around my neck, which is where they remain.

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