February 14, 2022 9:52 pm at 9:52 pm #20603891Participant
Why do people feel the need to show off their going to Miami and going out to fancy restaurants pictures on Whatsapp? No one really cares what you ate. There are many other things to do in Miami besides eat; there are plenty of restaurants in New York. Why do people feel the need to show off? If you want to enjoy yourself, by all means go for it, but why the need to show off?February 14, 2022 10:37 pm at 10:37 pm #2060437Amil ZolaParticipant
I don’t use that platform. I do see some travel pictures from family in a private group,nothing that would trigger me.February 14, 2022 10:37 pm at 10:37 pm #2060436LostsparkParticipant
People can’t confirm if they are actually having a good time without likes. More likes the better time you had.February 15, 2022 1:07 am at 1:07 am #2060465rightwriterParticipant
Social media destruction of humanityFebruary 15, 2022 8:11 am at 8:11 am #2060501AviraDeArahParticipant
מה טובו אוהליך יעקב, bilaam saw that the entrances of the yidden’s tents were not put opposite one another
The bracha of Jewish survival is tznius and privacy. אין הברכה שורה אלא על דבר הסמוי מן העין, brochos only go on things that are not seen.February 15, 2022 8:33 am at 8:33 am #2060540Sam KleinParticipant
Let us all stop looking at each other and what each person has or does that we don’t have or don’t do and instead count our blessings for everything Hashem has blessed us with. From beautiful children to a parnassa to Health etc….. And everything else between.
No need or use for causing yourself pain by being jealous about anything cause Hashem has already decreed on Rosh Hashanah what will IYH be for you and your family for this year.February 15, 2022 11:44 am at 11:44 am #2060609
“The bracha of Jewish survival is tznius and privacy”
“No need or use for causing yourself pain by being jealous about anything”
Both are the themes of frum yidden in yeshivish lvush posting photos at 2AM motzo shabbos of their escapades in South Beach on their Facebook, Twitter and Instagram feeds….
It may come as a shock but some of us cannot imagine willingly getting on a plane to South Florida absent a visit to an elderly snow bird relative or giving a speech at some trade association meeting and then getting out of town asap.February 15, 2022 5:05 pm at 5:05 pm #2060735WolfishMusingsParticipant
When I go on a trip, most of the time the principal purpose of the trip is photography. As such, of course, I share the images I produce — that’s the entire point.
The WolfFebruary 15, 2022 5:13 pm at 5:13 pm #2060773
“When I go on a trip, most of the time the principal purpose of the trip is photography”
You can stay home and post photos of your wife’s chulent and claim it is a $59 chulent entree from the most expensive restaurant in South Beach and photoshop a picture of a smiling mashgiach in the backgroundFebruary 17, 2022 12:45 pm at 12:45 pm #2061462hujuParticipant
People were showing off their money long before social media. Consider handbags covered in someone else’s initials, overpriced automobiles, overpriced homes, overpriced tallises, elite universities, shirts with reptiles or horses on them. I grew up surrounded by that junk, but I learned that it was, well, junk.February 17, 2022 3:01 pm at 3:01 pm #2061475GoldilocksParticipant
There’s also the safety aspect to consider.
While publicly posting pictures of your vacation, consider the fact that you’re also publicly advertising an unoccupied house (yours).
There have been instances where houses have been broken in to and robbed after their owners posted vacation photos online.
In addition, if you’re a woman traveling alone, be mindful of your personal safety. Women have been attacked in the past because of this! Unfortunately, there are those who see a woman traveling alone as an easy target. Thanks to the photos that she’s foolishly posted online, these criminals not only know that there’s a woman traveling alone, they also know her name, what she looks like, and which hotel she’s staying at!February 17, 2022 7:36 pm at 7:36 pm #2061591Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipant
Goldilocks, great tips! If you need to post those photos, do it after coming back.
Also, please consider that school finance committee can also find those videos when you are asking for a discount.February 17, 2022 8:26 pm at 8:26 pm #2061612🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
and then there’s aaq who can’t pass up an opportunity to accuse frum jews of financial fraud. Thank you for your consistency.February 17, 2022 8:26 pm at 8:26 pm #2061615ujmParticipant
Why would a woman be traveling alone??February 17, 2022 9:24 pm at 9:24 pm #2061643GoldilocksParticipant
Ujm, for the same reason anyone would travel.
We all enjoy a vacation every now and then.
This world is full of independent women who don’t see the lack of a traveling companion as a reason to stay in quarantine permanently. 😉February 17, 2022 10:17 pm at 10:17 pm #2061656
“Why would a woman be traveling alone??”
@UJM: Are you offering your services as a “heimeshe travel companion” ?If so, where does the line form?February 17, 2022 10:41 pm at 10:41 pm #2061666bored_teen 💕Participant
1- “No one really cares what you ate.”
Part of the problem is that people do care. They want to know every detail about people’s lives. There wouldn’t be any users on social media if people didn’t want to see your what you ate, what trip you went on, how perfect your family is etc.
Gadolhadorah- 😂February 18, 2022 1:23 am at 1:23 am #2061696AviraDeArahParticipant
Gadolha, not everyone who dresses yeshivish is actually living within the parameters of what that term entails. You’re dismissing the 10s and thousands of sincere yungeleit and their families who have never taken trips and don’t even have a social media presence (I’m included in both of those categories).
It’s like if I quote a chazal about derech eretz, instantly someone looking to be a leitz and deflect mussar will chime in about charedi people with bad middos – learn Torah and attempt to your best abilities to fulfill it, instead of justifying your( not your own personally, I’m speaking in general) own shortcomings by claiming that “see, even the charedim do XYZ”
Leitz achas docheh meah tochachosFebruary 18, 2022 9:18 am at 9:18 am #2061710
AVD: Well stated. There is a strange generational component about obsessively “sharing” your life online that is obviously more prevalent among goiyim and secular yidden than among those living in the “yeshiva velt”. I’ve been in restaurants with younger business colleagues and truly cannot understand the motivation to pull out their phones and photograph a plate of nondescript chalupahs with borscht (aka “beet emulsion”) and garnished with a cactus flower. Same for hiking down to see an incredible lava flow at the currently active volcano on the Big Island of Hawaii where the visitors seem obsessed with getting their selfies and posting them online immediately than actually watching the incredible natural phenomena occurring behind them. In both cases, they were oblivious to the disrupted effect their camera flashes and flailing selfie camera poles had on those around them. You may occasionally see this among younger folk dressed in yeshivish lvush but its much less prevalent and usually (albeit no always) done with a lot more derech eretz and consideration of those around themFebruary 18, 2022 11:30 am at 11:30 am #2061717Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipant
I tihnk a lot of judgment is based on “selection bias”. As Avira is saying – A chusid travelling for a vacation and instagramming is not representative of the klal. And what Gadol sees as “changes” may simply be more mainstream community joining in.
Goldilocks, great tips. If you need to post, do it after you are home, not before you are travelling. Crooks are scanning for this info.
But maybe think what is important and post that – a kid with a sefer, someone helping a grandma cross the road ..
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