January 24, 2011 11:03 pm at 11:03 pm #594448
I was zoche to trace a rumor about someone to the source and BORUCH HASHEM restore someone’s good name.Thank you,Hashem!!
I know…but this was imPORtant!!January 24, 2011 11:19 pm at 11:19 pm #732000bptParticipant
I sort of try to do this if possible. When I hear an outrageous statement made about someone, I ask the person, “who told you” and they usualy say, “uh, I don’t remember, but thats what I’ve heard”
That’s how I (try to) I stop the rumor from spreading. I may not be able to retrieve it completely, but at least I stopped the spread and I made the person stop and think for a moment about repeating it without verifing the accuracy of the info.
Rumors grow wings, and if not clipped, they fly.
Squash one today!January 24, 2011 11:23 pm at 11:23 pm #732001cofeefanMember
thats very nice!=)January 24, 2011 11:58 pm at 11:58 pm #732002bbubbeeParticipant
keep up the good work! May you be the Shaliach only for good things. 🙂January 24, 2011 11:59 pm at 11:59 pm #732003oomisParticipant
BIG MITZVAH – MAMESH. Yasher koach.January 25, 2011 1:26 am at 1:26 am #732004
At one time, I used to care what people said about me. But now the damage is done; my wife is gone awhile. So I don’t care personally, let them do what they want. Everyone eventually has to give a Din V’cheshbon and I definitely don’t want to be in their shoes!January 25, 2011 2:11 am at 2:11 am #732005yoyo56Member
i once said something cuz i misunderstood someone and when the person tried to trace back they were able to but the way it was done was extremely disgusting to eclipse when u try to do things plz plz do not degrade anyone or make them feel horrible many times when things are passed over the story changes a bit
so becareful when tring to fix someone elses name u dont hurt someone elses feelingsJanuary 25, 2011 2:19 am at 2:19 am #732006always hereParticipant
Health– I thought you’re a woman!!!!!!!!!!!! oh!January 25, 2011 2:47 am at 2:47 am #732007
yoyo…I was not disgusting to anyone,I assure you.What makes you think I was?January 25, 2011 3:38 am at 3:38 am #732008deiyezoogerMember
“Health– I thought you’re a woman!!!!!!!!!!!! oh!”
Same for me, I guess I was wrong, some nurses are men.January 25, 2011 3:39 am at 3:39 am #732009HaLeiViParticipant
Then you weren’t always here.January 25, 2011 3:51 am at 3:51 am #732010
Always here – You’re the second woman poster to say this:
smartcookie did also:
“Health, don’t tell me you’re a man, when I always thought you are female….”
Why did the two of you think this? Did I ever post something to give you this impression?January 25, 2011 4:09 am at 4:09 am #732011GuardmytongueMember
always here – you took the words right out of my mouth!January 25, 2011 4:16 am at 4:16 am #732012amichaiParticipant
kol hakovod eclipse and all who have done the same.January 25, 2011 5:03 am at 5:03 am #732013chayav inish livisumayParticipant
Eclipse good for you but u can’t say that and then not tell us what the rumor was. You got my interest piquedJanuary 25, 2011 1:48 pm at 1:48 pm #732014
Chayav,I can’t because it’s public,sorry.
Health never pretended…you just haven’t read the family threads.January 25, 2011 5:03 pm at 5:03 pm #732015
deiyezooger – I’m not a nurse either, even though I find nothing wrong with being a male nurse. I once considered becoming a male nurse, but that was a long time ago.
eclipse -Thanks.January 25, 2011 11:13 pm at 11:13 pm #732016
you’re welcomeJanuary 26, 2011 12:07 am at 12:07 am #732017TheGoqParticipant
everyone should have a friend like you eclipse i’ve been a subject of lashon hara my whole life its been very hard to get past it sometimes, also what hurts is when people can seemingly say loshon hora about you in your presence but seem to think your too stupid to realize it.
I cant quite explain why i’ve been the target of peoples unhealthy interest but it has always been the case from school to work it has been a constant in my life, most recently it was my coworkers who spoke behind my back on a daily basis it was very hard but i have forgiven them and now our relationship has improved, they spoke ill of me but me letting go of my anger was what enabled our relationship to improve dramatically.January 26, 2011 12:19 am at 12:19 am #732018
Goq,when my once-sterling reputation was literally destroyed,I said Hashem must be testing me to see if I will serve Him without any admiration from others whatsoever.If I told you that was easy,I’d be lying.But I’m happy to say,I served Him from the mud.
Of course,over time,you develop an “inner circle” of people you can really trust,and SOME of that crazy pain fades,but it’s not ever going to not bother you at all.January 26, 2011 2:04 am at 2:04 am #732019TheGoqParticipant
that is of course true eclipse it still hurts,thank you for the chizukJanuary 26, 2011 4:55 am at 4:55 am #732020chayav inish livisumayParticipant
eclipse that very impressive because they say its just as hard to undo loshan hora as it is to collect all the feathers from your pillow.
but why do we need to know this??
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